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Growing Up Queer With a Narcissistic Mother Was Its Own Special Hell

The twisted protagonist’s mommy issues in Elle Nash’s ‘Deliver Me’ were far too relatable for comfort.

Nico July 11, 2024 3 Comments
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Before and After the Library

Author Kristen Arnett writes on growing up in a house where books were banned and becoming a queer librarian in Florida.

Kristen Arnett October 7, 2023 14 Comments
the cover of Sara Elise's book, A Recipe for More, features the title in green text on a cream background
Book Features First Person

In “A Recipe for More,” Sara Elise Asks: Who Do You Want To Become?

“We do not have to do anything more to be worthy; we are worthy just because we are.”

Sara Elise May 2, 2023 1 Comment
Zoe Whittall has blunt blonde bangs with straight hair past her shoulders and wears a black tee that says VAG on it as well as a jean jacket. There's a green truck behind her.
Book Features First Person

Send Me to Low Femme Paradise

The problem of having to have a body in the world again.

Zoe Whittall March 27, 2023 7 Comments
It Came From the Closet: Queer Reflections on Horror. Also, Megan Fox in the movie Jennifer's Body
Book Features First Person

In Queer Horror Anthology “It Came From the Closet,” Carmen Maria Machado Considers Jennifer’s Body

On queerbaiting, bisexuality, and Jennifer’s Body. This essay is an exclusive excerpt from the queer horror anthology It Came From the Closet, on sale next week.

Carmen Maria Machado September 27, 2022 14 Comments
Stef Rubino's Middlesex tattoo, featuring the words "other halves" and a person emerging from petals. Also, the cover of Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides.
Book Features First Person

“Middlesex” Has a Complicated Legacy — 20 Years Ago, It Changed My Life

When I read Middlesex, I felt that tinge of recognition I think a lot of queer and trans people look for when they realize something is different about themselves.

Stef Rubino September 4, 2022 17 Comments
A collage of the cover for Casey Plett's A Dream Of A Woman
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Slow Takes: Casey Plett’s “A Dream of a Woman” and Forgiveness as a Love Story

Often I find myself pushing so hard against the image of trans loneliness that I don’t allow myself to acknowledge the truths that lie within. This book acknowledged them for me. It hurt. I’m grateful.

Drew Burnett Gregory January 6, 2022 12 Comments
headshot of kamala puligandla sitting in an arm chair with an inviting but stern look on her face. she wears glasses and has a mohawk and is wearing a maroon t shirt. her image is beside the cover of her novel, Zigzags. the cover is a graphic that features two queer women lounging beside Lake Michigan as the sun sets into the purple water.
Book Features First Person

Kamala’s First Novel Zigzags Is Out Today!

Ultimately, Zigzags was fueled by the nostalgia of all the places I’ve loved and left and missed. There’s a lot of flirting and parties and witty banter, but it’s very much about the necessary and heartbreaking recognition of when it’s time to move on.

Kamala Puligandla October 19, 2020 14 Comments

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