Let’s make some noise for the bottoms in the house! (It’s me, the bottom in the house.)

Whether you’re a lesbian who dated men as a teen or a queer person who dates lots of genders, our community is far too mixed and gender is far too complicated to leave men — cis and trans — out of our discussions.

“I just want to say, I know that this woman is supposed to be from Kansas City — and that’s actually a personal attack on me.”

“This is what the show is about. The show is about dating your exes, your friend’s exes, and your exes’ exes. That’s the topic of the program.”

“As someone who’s never actually been in a throuple, I do think that throuples could solve most problems on television.”

Come commiserate the end of our problematic fave, talk about the state of queer television at large, cast an L Word prequel set in 90s new York, and learn what We, the hosts of To L and Back, would have happen to all of the characters after the end of this season!

“If Shane asked me to go to couple’s therapy, I’d be like, “We don’t even know each other, but if this is what it takes to get you into a therapist’s office, absolutely, let’s do it.”

“I would follow Kehlani to Narnia, to a gambling ring. Really to anywhere.”

When it comes to boundaries, our strengths are our weaknesses and our weaknesses are our strengths. (Also let us talk about Raven Symoné’s chaotic gay TikTok, shall we?)

Is it a date or are we just friends? Why not both! This week we’re talking about fucking your friends with Autostraddle Community Editor and fucking your friends expert Vanessa Friedman.

Animals, like people, have their own personalities and should be taken on a case-by-case basis. (AKA wherein Drew bravely says that snakes are maybe a bit sexy thanks to a certain pop star.)

Definitely by the end of the night, if no one says, “You shouldn’t be single anymore. This isn’t working for the rest of us,” then I didn’t break up properly.

This week we’ve brought on someone in a gaymous power couple: Grace Lavery! But being in a public relationship isn’t just the joys of ambitious4ambitious. There’s also the matter of boundaries and privacy.

“Imagine if all of our days were as productive as the people in The L Word. We would be cruising through life.”

“I am so certain that this episode will have polarized us the most of any episode we’ve done yet. I’m certain of it.”

“For now, what I’ll say about this storyline is that I was just glad to not see that damn purple coffee mug. The fact that they did not bring this coffee mug back out was one small mercy of this storyline for me.”

Drew: Then Kehlani does a little Titanic, which means “putting a hand on the fogged-up glass”—
Riese: It means “causing a ship to hit an iceberg and then sink.”
Drew: Which… metaphorically? You could argue…

“I can’t think of a better metaphor for The L Word: Generation Q than Bette and Tina having a grand romantic gesture as new character — a new beloved fan favorite character, Gigi, is hit by a car.”

Celebrity crushes mean more to queer people than they do to straight people. They can be our first expressions of queer desire or our first expressions of gender envy. They can be a safe place to try out urges that aren’t ready for the real world.

How could we talk about queer dating without talking about astrology and tarot?