Sometimes we love people who don’t share our same value systems or knowledge sets. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love them, but it can mean we need to work hard to make sure we aren’t compromising our own values just to placate them.
The thing about being a top or a bottom is that it’s all in your head.
“My body does not seem to be able to handle being aroused for more than 5–10 minutes at a time… Is there any way I can retrain my body to be better able to maintain arousal?”
There is nothing wrong with you. Promise.
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
Just kidding it’s not quite 7. They’re still good ones though.
So you’re engaged, but your fiancée won’t let you tell anyone about it yet. What to do?
In which we try to determine whether a questioner’s recent breakup was the right move, or whether they should try to rectify it.
Your girlfriend wants an open relationship and you agreed to it, but now you feel terrible all the time. What to do?
“When my boyfriend came out to me as trans, he was worried what that would mean for me and us. It’s a few months later and I should be really happy for him. And I am! But I’m starting to feel kind of lost and scared and I don’t know if it has to do with the fact, that he is, of course, changing.”
Where do you draw the line when it comes to unfollowing someone on Twitter or Facebook?
“I want to fulfill her sexually and sensually and I want to help her explore her various interests and fantasies. But I can’t even think about hitting her without conflating it with my own memories of abuse.”
You want to wow your wife on Valentine’s Day with a special date. You’ve got $200. Let’s do this!
You can do a super hot striptease for your girlfriend even if you are not, in fact, a Pussycat Doll.
What do you do when your girlfriend has a secret bromance with a girl you once wanted to romance?
Here’s what you do first: Close all those browser tabs besides this one, set aside all your other devices, and watch as I lay out these simple techniques to help you learn to rule the world (in easy-to-digest list form).
She’s engaged TO him, but engaged WITH you — and you’re not sure how much more of this you can take.
“She told me she’d been raped… She’s feeling embarrassed and ashamed and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do… and everything seems a mess.”
How can you be there for your partner during Deathiversary season when they cope with hard times by retreating inward/not talking? Read our advice and help out with your own!
“Forget all your ideas about what the person across the table from you might want until they tell you so you can actually listen when they do.”