It was so easy to stay in touch until it wasn’t: Until my resentment exceeded my love for her, until her fear exceeded her hope. But the world we made lingers.
“She told me she’d been raped… She’s feeling embarrassed and ashamed and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do… and everything seems a mess.”
How the media writes women of color, Thanksgiving things to read, lists of women and songs, Brittani Nichols, divorce, cultural appropriation in the birthing community, the importance of educating and also scaring children, milk crates, sea stars, unicorns, Stef possums, and a cover of “America” that legit made me cry this morning.
This is not as rewarding as that “spice up your marriage” advice columnist promised it would be.
“Forget all your ideas about what the person across the table from you might want until they tell you so you can actually listen when they do.”
8. How is it possible that one person can leave so many half-empty glasses of water around the house in a matter of hours? How is this a thing?!
If you wait until your girlfriend with body issues is feeing just really attractive and good about herself to approach the idea of sex, you are, sooner or later, going to stop having sex together. Period.
I feel like a long-distance relationship is sometimes built on the mountain in-between a memory and a waking dream. Here’s some music from the borderline.
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
A new study in the Journal of Family Medicine investigates how stigmatization and discrimination affect the mental health and relationship quality of transgender women and their cisgender male partners.
“And so, we raced, each of us more reckless than the other, a bad combination. A mutual friend once said to me; “The problem with the two of you is that there’s no one to say no.” There was no regulatory mechanism. We ignored the scientists who had intimated that all living things, systems, required balance.”
Queermos, give me the gif that best describes your relationship status! And remember, that can mean “single” or “ballin’ rn” or “happily surrounded by friends” or “u-hauling” or “it’s v. v. v. v. complicated” or “engayged” or “fuck relationships” or any number of things, so get creative.
1. Communication. 2. Lots of communication. 3. So much communication. 4. No really, communicate. 5. Seriously just talk about things!!!!
I realized that one of the hardest parts about accepting my sexual orientation was that I literally did not believe that Black women were lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals or queer. I want to see stories of Black women with happy endings that entwine with my own realities and fantasies. I want to see us Black women no longer the Unmentionables or Untouchables, unafraid of the power and beauty of us loving one another.
Should I just go to the bathroom and never come out? Should I fake a heart attack? Tell them I got my period and it’s just a beautiful MESS that I need to stop and worship?
This app is enabling me to live with my girlfriend without constantly talking about/thinking about money. Basically, I’m living the dream.
Please don’t watch all of these in one day. You’ll die.
So you thought it would be super cute and convenient and special to date your roomie-lover-friend-roommate-teammate-co-worker but now you’re broken up and you can’t get away from each other? Here are some tips to make the whole process easier.
You can’t focus your mind and make her text. You only have control over your fingers.
“Her dog is super cool, though. You think you might still be sleeping with her because her dog is so goshdarn awesome.”