“Neither of us were comfy with the public spectacle of the thing, especially G. She didn’t like the thought of publicizing our private relationship. We also felt a bit blah about marriage itself, which can feel like an outdated institution. And there were practical worries, too — like how would we plan a big event, with so much on our plates?”
“The first girl I ever kissed spent her summers on her uncle’s farm, helping him bale hay. She would come back to school with the insides of her wrists all welted-up like she had been stung by bees. I wanted to kiss each sting but I never asked.”
You broke up a long time ago and you’re cool with each other, but still fight just like you did when you were together. Is that, uh, normal?
We asked 3,500+ women in same-sex relationships what they fought about — from drinking too much to not seeing each other enough to being jealous of exes, here’s the results!
You can be poly and married and want to date, but no one will know what your deal is until you tell them, so tell them up front.
Quick and dirty advice for a brand new lesbian in Chicago, a small town bird who’s ready to be in the same room with her ex, and someone who’s tired of being The Gay One. Get in here!
“Whether or not selfie culture upholds or demolishes the patriarchy”
Quick and loving advice for three queers who need our help! A home wrecker (but not really) in a sticky situation, a bisexual who’s feeling torn, and a closeted queer in the South who’s staying that way. Get in here!
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“I remember everything: what normal felt like all through college in my relationship with her — an attractive and charismatic woman who was also a compulsive liar and an abusive lover. Of course it didn’t start out that way. Insane realities rarely do.”
Talking with three of the stars of trans-created webseries Her Story about love, representation, staffing a set with trans women and so much more.
HOW WILL YOU EVER KNOW?
It’s lovely and strange how a song can cast light on memories of people you haven’t thought about in years, can press urgently on that soft sad spot we carry for our past.
“It isn’t until the summer, when the frost melts and the icee man comes calling and the pool is open and the yard (however ridden with stubborn weeds) starts to incubate natural life, that you realize the source of your woes isn’t dependent on the weather. It’s you. “
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
Sometimes we love people who don’t share our same value systems or knowledge sets. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t love them, but it can mean we need to work hard to make sure we aren’t compromising our own values just to placate them.
Brittany and Sally got married on the Grammy’s last year and now they are headed into the sex box.
“When my boyfriend came out to me as trans, he was worried what that would mean for me and us. It’s a few months later and I should be really happy for him. And I am! But I’m starting to feel kind of lost and scared and I don’t know if it has to do with the fact, that he is, of course, changing.”
The best part is always the journey.
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