You broke up a long time ago and you’re cool with each other, but still fight just like you did when you were together. Is that, uh, normal?
In which we discuss the concept of safer dating.
Quick and dirty advice for someone who might want to look for dates somewhere else, a depressed mother of two who I wish I could hug, and a person who really enjoys the company of herself. Get in here!
She looked me up and down and told me I had magnificent hair. So I told her she had a beautiful tail. She told me she liked my scar. I told her I liked her, and would she like to have dinner with me sometime? “Yesss,” she replied. The following evening she came to my apartment and I fed her five different homemade soups.
“Becoming secure with being alone has relieved the frantic pressure to believe that every new person I meet might be the next person with whom I enter into a significant relationship, and instead it has provided me with the security and confidence to build a life on my own terms.”
You think someone is cute, and they think you’re cute, and you want to make them happy but preferably without being an awkward overeager weirdo. I feel you.
We asked 3,500+ women in same-sex relationships what they fought about — from drinking too much to not seeing each other enough to being jealous of exes, here’s the results!
You can be poly and married and want to date, but no one will know what your deal is until you tell them, so tell them up front.
Quick and dirty advice for a brand new lesbian in Chicago, a small town bird who’s ready to be in the same room with her ex, and someone who’s tired of being The Gay One. Get in here!
We’re interested in finding out more about your relationship — specifically, the hard parts. If you’re a woman of any sexual orientation in a relationship with another woman (or multiple women), you should fill this out! It’ll take 10-15 minutes, max.
“Just keep an eye on it and pull it out when it looks like something you think an elven queen would repin to her Pinterest cooking board.”
“I remember everything: what normal felt like all through college in my relationship with her — an attractive and charismatic woman who was also a compulsive liar and an abusive lover. Of course it didn’t start out that way. Insane realities rarely do.”
While we await new episodes of our favorite regular season shows, we thought it would be a good time to address the thing you really care about: Which lesbian/bisexual TV characters would be the best to U-Haul with?
This week’s New York Magazine Sex Diarist is going on a date with a woman for the first time and it’s totally no big deal.
“You feel broken or like you’ve done something wrong but you haven’t. Wanting to not feel bad isn’t wrong.”
Let’s help each other find love, or at least have a decent time with another human for 2-5 hours!
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
This is not a how-to guide; there’s no right way to navigate these situations. Let’s share instances of microaggressions and some ways to deal in the hopes we’ll all be able to make it out alive, looking sexy and loving our hardest.
They should make up a sixth love language that’s just Texting Back in a Polite Amount of Time.
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”