You can be poly and married and want to date, but no one will know what your deal is until you tell them, so tell them up front.
Quick and dirty advice for a brand new lesbian in Chicago, a small town bird who’s ready to be in the same room with her ex, and someone who’s tired of being The Gay One. Get in here!
We’re interested in finding out more about your relationship — specifically, the hard parts. If you’re a woman of any sexual orientation in a relationship with another woman (or multiple women), you should fill this out! It’ll take 10-15 minutes, max.
“Just keep an eye on it and pull it out when it looks like something you think an elven queen would repin to her Pinterest cooking board.”
“I remember everything: what normal felt like all through college in my relationship with her — an attractive and charismatic woman who was also a compulsive liar and an abusive lover. Of course it didn’t start out that way. Insane realities rarely do.”
While we await new episodes of our favorite regular season shows, we thought it would be a good time to address the thing you really care about: Which lesbian/bisexual TV characters would be the best to U-Haul with?
This week’s New York Magazine Sex Diarist is going on a date with a woman for the first time and it’s totally no big deal.
“You feel broken or like you’ve done something wrong but you haven’t. Wanting to not feel bad isn’t wrong.”
Let’s help each other find love, or at least have a decent time with another human for 2-5 hours!
You are in love with someone who wants different things. What do you do?
This is not a how-to guide; there’s no right way to navigate these situations. Let’s share instances of microaggressions and some ways to deal in the hopes we’ll all be able to make it out alive, looking sexy and loving our hardest.
They should make up a sixth love language that’s just Texting Back in a Polite Amount of Time.
“We want these labels to tell us who we are and what we want because figuring out who we are and what we want in a big expansive lawless space is HARD.”
Please fight every urge you have to chase them down and squeeze the dog/cat’s face with your own face or hands while very loudly exclaiming HOW MUCH YOU JUST FREAKIN’ LOVE CATS OR DOGS ZOMGSRSLY. Don’t be this guy.
“I could not wrap my head around having to jump back into the dating scene – sober no less. Where would I find suitable dating candidates? How do I “come out” as sober? It’s bad enough that the queer dating pool is incredibly small. Now, I had to contend with the fact that some people would be averse to dating a sober recovering addict.”
The thing about being a top or a bottom is that it’s all in your head.
There is nothing wrong with you. Promise.
So you’re engaged, but your fiancée won’t let you tell anyone about it yet. What to do?
In which we try to determine whether a questioner’s recent breakup was the right move, or whether they should try to rectify it.
Honestly, while I’m open to diversity in the women that I date, I have found that usually out of 50 quick matches on OKC I might get three black lesbians.