In which I talk to my asexual brother about what they wanted and what they did when they first came out as ace.
“If you’d told 17-year-old-me that in 2015, I’d be standing in Target, picking out a Father’s Day card or crying while dancing with my Dad at my wedding, I would’ve laughed in your face.”
“I pushed so many people away, especially girls and women, because I was afraid. I was afraid of getting too close and developing feelings and then… I didn’t even wanna know what would happen. I was so afraid and I felt like I did not deserve to be happy.”
Let us mourn our loss together: the whisper of a promise of a world we never knew.
A fish you’ll wish you could snuggle, gay taxis and gay streetlights, Hillary Clinton’s heartfelt letter to the couple from her heartwarming campaign announcement, a prominent voice in Irish media comes out and doesn’t give a f*ck about her damn reputation, Brittney Griner and Glory Johnson tie the knot, the Church of Scotland opens doors for queers, and Harriet Tubman might be the new face of the $20 bill. How’s them apples?
In an interview with Variety, Blanchett says her upcoming lesbian film Carol is not her first dip in the lady pond.
“For all intents and purposes, I’m a woman.”
Pumpkin came out and then outed her mom, in an interview that will air tonight.
“Why do we only collect coming out stories, it-gets-better stories, these stories that are set in the past, that tell of a particular set of experiences that not everyone can relate to? Stories that treat the future as if it doesn’t come with a problems of its own.”
Ruby Tandoh came out today and probably wants you to celebrate with eight of her most delicious recipes, as chosen by me.
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
Musician Julia Nunes on her kickstarter, her new album, her relationship with Dannielle Owens-Reid and that time she almost fell into the toilet before opening for Ben Folds.
Athletes, singers, actresses, former Miss Kentuckys, former Miss Spains, reality TV show contestants and so many more kickass humans went publicly gay or trans this fine year!
So you’ve recently come out to your family, and it’s the first time you’ve been to holigay dinner since it happened. Autostraddle is here to help you through it.
It was so easy to stay in touch until it wasn’t: Until my resentment exceeded my love for her, until her fear exceeded her hope. But the world we made lingers.
Come out, come out, wherever you are! The Autostraddle team gives you tips on how to come out to your friends.
“The CEO of one of the most powerful companies in the world, a company responsible for changing the tech industry over and over again, is gay. And he feels good about saying that.”
“I guess I’m still sort of coming out. I’m learning to embrace my sexuality as a primary part of my identity rather than an afterthought. It feels really good.”
“I cried on the plane. I realized, stark as night, clear as day, that the silence was killing me. Instead of moving through a moment, I was trapped inside of purgatory.”
“At 27, I came out as Korean-American. I was always Korean, of course. I checked the “Asian” box when filling out a form. My ethnicity was written on my face in the shape of my eyes and my small flat nose. But until a few years ago, it wasn’t an identity I felt connected to. There were many identities that came first — poet, bisexual, queer, feminist, activist, organizer, fattie, vegan. Being Korean was a fact, but not an identity.”