Comments on: Gays Beat Straights When It Comes To Keeping Their Special Friends Healthy, Study Says

By: Paper0Flowers

Paper0Flowers — Fri, 22 Jun 2012 06:54:31 +0000

“To be honest, I don’t think I would’ve been receptive to “health work” delivered by a man, and the only time I engaged in “cooperative health work” with a boyfriend, it quickly turned into a calorie-reduction contest/cooperative eating disorder!”

This this this. I was going to say this: I would’ve reacted defensively and insecurely if my boyfriend suggested I not eat certain things. I would have seen that as his “polite” attempt at policing my body for his own purposes. But the same comment from my mom or my girlfriend would be coming from a place of concern and love.

Basically, I hate men and won’t take any of their advice #BOTP

By: Jenn

Jenn — Mon, 18 Jun 2012 07:12:18 +0000

Great article. I’m glad to know studies like this are being done, I had no idea. Now, excuse me while I nerd out and read that entire study.

By: Melanie

Melanie — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 19:52:59 +0000

“even if the differences are a product of socialization, they are still differences at this time, until we overcome that socialization.”

That right there.

By: Laura R.

Laura R. — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 19:31:59 +0000

Whoops, you already said my comment but better.

By: Laura R.

Laura R. — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 19:30:36 +0000

Yeah and also from an early age guys are allowed/encouraged to think most of what happens to girls during puberty (besides growing boobs, natch) is “gross.” Talk to a guy about your period and you’re forcing something horrible on him. Whereas Cosmo spends like 50 pages an issue talking about the intricacies of penises.
Also it seems universally acknowledged that men’s health is “simpler” to deal with/understand than women’s. This all reminds me of Rachel Maddow’s “Man Cave” segments when she tries to explain shit about the uterus to unwilling male viewers — hilarious but mostly b/c it’s real (BOTP man).

By: Krissy

Krissy — Sat, 16 Jun 2012 23:53:29 +0000

http://thehairpin.com/2011/01/women-laughing-alone-with-salad/

By: Emily

Emily — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 19:27:30 +0000

The only thing this article is missing is a picture of a woman laughing while eating salad.

By: mary

mary — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 16:59:51 +0000

It was the men happily shopping for veggies while wearing a giant triangle pin (as you do) that did it for you, wasn’t it? I know it was for me.

By: James

James — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 16:51:03 +0000

“but that you as a person are more wired for a more intense relationship.” THIS!

Now on one hand I am attracted to women, physically. So intense or not, I like boobies and other things…

But, I’m also not willing to call myself a lesbian because I identify deeply with the person, so if I feel like we vibe then I’m all in. So the guys I’ve dated fall into that category. It was easy bonding with them and being corny or super deep.

And I like girls (outside of the fact that I like boobies and other ribald things…) because it’s so much easier to get to that level of intensity. Which then makes other things so much better.

The average straight male hasn’t found a reason to break out of the patriarchal pedestal of emotional unavailability and privilege awarded him. So… it makes it really easy for me to like women.

Note: I don’t want to trivialize or make it seem as if I like women because men are the way they are. I’m just attracted to people who get me.

By: James

James — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 16:25:15 +0000

“…and the commonly agreed-upon reason for this result is that without a good woman around, men absolutely cannot take care of their own shit. Just kidding! Actually, not really.”

I blame Steve Harvey.

By: bornsecular

bornsecular — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 15:47:53 +0000

i.e. the most common symptoms that most people think of when they think heart attack or any major cardiac episode don’t actually happen to every patient and many women often have cardiac arrest w.o any chest pain at all, and don’t recognize their fatigue/sleep disturbance/ shortness of breath as symptoms that are experienced by most women who have heart attacks.

(just as an example, because my mom had been tired for months before going to the hospital 2 years ago, and didn’t think it was a heart problem because she had no chest pain-the most widely discussed symptom/the one portrayed most in all media)

By: riese

riese — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 15:16:47 +0000

i think there’s some merit to your point, in my opinion… i’ve always wondered about that, but i know it’s essentialist to say so (but also, even if the differences are a product of socialization, they are still differences at this time, until we overcome that socialization) … like if part of being gay isn’t just that you want to bone people of the same gender, but that you as a person are more wired for a more intense relationship. that’s just from my own personal experience though, but i don’t think it should be discounted as possible for some people, even if it isn’t everybody’s experience.