I think men realize that they’re more likely to have “competition” from a butch/androgynous women for “their” women than a femme (though that’s not necessarily true of course). I think that’s part of what fuels their distaste for them – here’s a woman who they can’t subject to their fantasies and their typical roles of femininity in order to hold onto and fuck her, AND she’s also competition for vag. Major confusion and ego frustration!!

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In my daily life, I tend to go more for comfort than fashion, but I noticed whenever I was going to a lesbian bar, I’d get all ubergirly in a way I might have done in the past for men (before I came out). When I said this and how weird I found my ultragirliness to be, a new friend asked if I preferred butch/soft butch women and yeah, I do.

I realized I was getting all dressed up to please (myself and) them. I don’t care how men view me, but I want women to view me as cute and sexually attractive. Interestingly, the last man I ever slept with has decided I’m androgynous because I “don’t wear clothes that fit my body all the time.” Guess he, like many men, couldn’t handle the idea that I wasn’t dressing to turn him on!

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You’d think that somebody making as much money as she does would say “Fuck it” and dress how they naturally would, but it seems to work the opposite way: more money seems to ensnare people in the system even more, and make them even more subservient to it.

I do what I have to to pay bills and make rent, but she doesn’t have that worry . . . so what’s she thinking? I don’t know. I don’t have a TV and I’ve never watched her show, so I can’t say. I’ve seen clips online, but the point is I’m not rich and don’t pay attention to TV, so I can’t say what it’s like in her shoes. I mean, I bet if she lived frugally she could quit her job right now and never have to work again. So why does she wear a fuckin women’s suit for these people?

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1. I think there is endless mileage in butch/femme self-image discussion.

2. The world is in serious need of a crossover butch superstar.

3. The whole thing with blokes and their tappability standards, I’m concerned with how so many are so in the thrall of idiots like Trump. You see, like Iphis, I’m token lesbian within a group of male geek friends/co-workers, so I hear a lot of mantalk about women.

They make a lot of noise rating women according to the way the media would have them, yet they all go out with/are married to women that aren’t at all like identikit blondes and, ostensibly, love them very much.

I feel like their pointless bravado is fuelling the patriarchy and, well, we all blame the patriarchy, right?

4. Rachel Maddow is a walking totem for putting brains before (her own, obvious) beauty. For someone like me, that has always assumed that they’re gonna have to snare a partner based on their wits rather than appearance, that’s an incredibly powerful figure to have out there.

5. Anyone else think that yearbook photo has just a hint of Brittany from Glee in it? I am already envisioning what kind of amazing intellectual makeover could happen to her if they made Glee: The College Years

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i’d take that over being ‘tapped’ by buzzfeed any day of the week.

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