I thought Morishima summed up a small bit of the bisexual life quite well here:
http://dynasty-scans.com/reader/chapters/happy_picture_diary_ch04#4

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Additionally, it’s a lot easier to find hetero/bi guys in real life than it is to find bi/gay girls (especially since the girls I like tend to be femmier and my gaydar sucks anyways.) So for me, an OKC account was a less nerve-wracking way to find girls to date than going up to girls at bars only to find they are 100% heterosexual. And it worked–I found my girlfriend of a little over a year and it’s been the best thing ever.

And of course the last reason was that I didn’t want creepy dudes messaging me for threesomes or solely because of my sexual orientation. Reading some of these comments, I think I did the right thing.

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“Then you’re not really bisexual. I don’t think you’re confused or anything, just misinformed.”

“Do you know yourself? Do you like yourself? If you don’t even know if you’re bi or gay, I’m guessing not.” (This was a second message, after ignoring his less-awful first. Later, I got one saying, “I just want you to know I’m giving up since I never hear back from you.” THANKS D00D.)

And, of course, “That’s just not fair.”

Finally, I was like “You know, I’m a Kinsey 5.5 and am not so comfortable calling myself bi anyway. Might as well just list as gay.” It got easier, but ack. I’ve met some great people online dating, but I’ve also learned a lot about entitlement.

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I have zero problem meeting dudes in real life, but meeting ladies seems to require some sort of Internet-facilitated event. I want to keep “bi” in my profile, cuz I don’t want to lie, but geezums it’s such an effort to straddle these binaries?!

Thanks for the SamRo reference, too. I wish “Equal Opportunity Make-Out Artist” were an orientation box one could check.

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