NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday: Thrill Me, Kill Me, Scissor Me, 69 Me, Kiss Me

Three weeks ago on NSFW Sunday we talked about what lesbians don’t talk about when they talk about sex AND YOU ALL HAD A LOT OF FEELINGS.

A few days before the aforementioned post we’d started an ‘anonymous google doc’ wherein Autostraddle team members asked their own questions and gave their own answers so that we could ‘determine’ what people ‘want to talk about.’

Today is our last or second-to-last week of continuing to bring you this crucial insight. Last week we talked about tops & bottoms and two weeks ago we talked about wetness & orgasms and today it’s about positions with bad reputations. BECAUSE WE KNOW YOU WANT TO SCISSOR, it’s all you ever want, you’re like fuck rocks & paper, let’s scissor, right?

There was a poor confused lesbian who called into Dan Savage and wanted to know if people still scissored. Do you? Feelings?

* Scissoring is a thing. Yes.
* My girlfriend and I were talking about this the other day and we were like “This is really a thing? Really?” Then again, we have no experience with anyone but each other…
* I wouldn’t be able to take it seriously, like, “Yeah sure let’s scissor! Sorry I keep giggling, is that ruining the mood?”
* I still have no idea what scissoring is or if I’ve ever done it.
* I haven’t because of the kinds of top-bottom dynamics that I generally establish in sex, but I have watched porn which involved scissoring. It looked hot. Would not mind trying at some point in time. (Perhaps when I’m roleplaying being the bottom in the relationship.)
* Yes, I’ve done it a handful of times. It can be kind of silly, but I think laughing during sex can be good/healthy and when it stops being silly, sometimes it’s pretty hot. It’s not something I would like request in bed, but don’t knock it til ya try it. It’s feels like a big wet vagina hug. In a good way.
* It’s not the safest way to sleep with someone unprotected if you aren’t 100 percent sure about their sexual health status; but if I know they test clean then yes.
* I think this has another name, right? One that doesn’t suggest that you end up looking at the other person’s feet. [Tribadism. That is a thing.]
*  A form of scissoring is hot. Actual scissoring is good for cuddling.
* I’m too scared to scissor. That shit looks awk.
*  Never done it. South Park has ruined it for me, never will do it.
* It was okay but South Park gave the whole experience a weird sense of shame.
* There are times when I’ m playing around in bed and the mood is carefree and it seems like something I could initiate/pull off with minimal embarrassment. If you feel comfortable with the person and with yourself, why not? Sex shouldn’t always be serious.


69ing. Is it a thing? Does it lead to getting off, or is it strictly for show/fun? Discuss:

* Um, yes. It’s a thing that leads to getting off, at least in my bedroom.
* I’ve done it, but I feel like it’s more to feel like you’ve done it. Like sexy Kilimanjaro. I wouldn’t say it was the #1 best for getting off, you know?
* It’s definitely a thing. I think it’s super hot and kind of a once in a while thing, but I wouldn’t want to do it with someone I’m not super intimate with. It’s pretty intense! I think most sex is strictly for fun/not just about having the max amount of orgasms, so yeah. It can lead to getting off or to other things too.
* 69 is a thing that I like to do. I find that it only leads to getting off when it’s done slowly and so admittedly it can be a little hit and miss, depending on what the other person is like.
* 69ing is a thing after a lot of yoga.
* It was a cool idea when I was a teenager, but now I find that it makes it difficult to focus on what you’re doing and nobody ends up having the best possible time.
* It’s a thing, but I’ve never gotten off with it. I honestly don’t like the position and where our noses have to be. There. I said it.

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More on Positioning Yourself for SUCCESS: You’ve likely already seen the Barbie Sex Positions page, as it’s one of the best things to ever happen on the internet and we’ve linked to it 2-3 times. College Sex Advice has LESBIAN SEX POSITIONS: OPEN SOURCE KAMA SUTRA in which positions are demonstrated by cartoon penguins. One of the penguins has pigtails. They are both very happy to be penguins, probably are in denial about global warming and overall universal cosmic apocalypse, coming in 2012.

The Encylcopedia Dramatica can be both offensive and informative on topics such as Scissoring. Wikipedia has a page on Tribadism with special drawings, b/c the internet is magic. Also here’s some fanfic about the Golden Girls scissoring! For a quick brush-up on clit-clatting, mashing cookies and clam jousting; check out the lesbian kama sutra glossary. Also, there’s a book for this: Lesbian Sex: 101 Lovemaking Positions.

ALSO ABOUT SEX, AND THEREFORE OF INTEREST:

The Scavenger has a great interview with Jiz Lee and it’s called Genderqueer feminist porn star: Jiz Lee.

We had an open relationship thread a few weeks ago, and this website wrote an unrelated article called Open relationships? like recently. Also a Rabbi said “In order for monogamy to work, it has to be ‘dirty.’”

New York Times says they like your/our small boobs, here: For the A-Cup Crowd, Minimal Assets Are a Plus!

Violet Blue has your update on the week in the war on watching porn.

SEXY TUMBLR ALERT:

This might be my favorite tumblr of the 3rd quarter of 2010. It’s called gazed! and it’s about ‘us’, or you know, the imaginary ‘we.’ It makes me think of that poem, ‘we real cool.’ And it’s not about sex or lesbians, but there’s sex in it, and girls without their shirts off, and girls being amorous with other girls, and girls riding bicycles. everything happens in a sunlight-dappled place where the sky is beautiful, grass is plentiful, and the girls are pretty/soft and is captioned like; “we’re strangers to ourselves” or we like a good rear view and we have to read the fucking manual again. Seriously. and we have something like this in mind and we practise and we reconsider our plans and we love our garden and we added police cars to our ignore list. a long time ago and we’re listening to old mixtapes.

That’s all, feel free to talk about yourself in the comments!

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    Haven’t attempted scissoring… yet. I 69′d with the girl I lost my virginity to. It was a little intimidating at first but mainly because it was my first time having sex. It’s totally hot, though… especially when you both climax at the same time.

    My experience has been: if you’re both open minded, comfortable with each other and attracted to one another then you can come in just about any position.

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    scissoring has been tried and i will only do it again as long as i have a negative test result confirmation. not so sure about 69ing. that whole nose comment is making me feel all kinds of apprehension.

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    Scissoring is definitly a THANG! yea sure ther may be giggling and is hella awkward to get in to position, but once to both get to THAT spot And both parties get their sexypornstarmoves on it’s amazing! Tho one thing if u are both skinney rubbin your pubic bones together things get nipped and can be a wee bit sore, that can ruin th mood.. BUT if u put a towel or something between th 2 of u,u can get th same stimulation, no pain and super long sexy time cos no cramping hands or arms!!
    Def do it!!
    Grind those hips ladies !!

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    Man, I love being a girl’s first, is that weird to say? It’s such a nurturing, sexy, lovely time, especially if you really like one another. That look of “OMG” on a girl’s face when she finally groks how it’s done is so damn satisfying.

    Tribadism/scissoring/tribbing is kinda difficult unless you’re about the same height and weight because then you’re in similar positions. It’s great for the kissing/yanking off clothes/going-from-making-out-to-sex part of the sexy times, but yeah, it’s not ideal for many people.

    Sixty-nine is so fun, but I can’t be the only person who feels they are far too distracted to be a good lover during it.

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    My main thought-feeling is I want to watch that South Park episode.

    I think my sex drive ran away because it felt bored and neglected. If someone sees it frolicking around let me know. I don’t want it back just yet, but I do need to know it’s safe and happy.

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    Try this at home: One girl on bottom her legs spread like a frog spreading her vaj, other girl on top (missionary style) and puts her clit directly on other other girls clit/vagina. It is tricky and you have to work on it but it is amazing and very effective for foreplay or full on orgasm. It is my favorite form of tribadism

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    i wish there was a cool name for when her thigh is between your legs and your thigh is between her legs and things feel nice. i would say, ‘i’m a fan of [cool name for thigh funtimes]!’ or ‘my number one feeling is [cool name for thigh funtimes].’ or ‘[cool name for thigh funtimes] ME THEN MAKE ME A SANDWICH PLZ.’

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    I’m a bit jealous of all of you dykes who have tried all that stuff.I have only ever had one-night stands, and often in the rest room of clubs, so it’s limited what you can do. But I always come so no worries. But yeah start that dating service, ‘cus I need a partner in crime :)

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          did you multiply or is there just a ton of girls who like to do it in the restroom?
          still there was something about m. the letter and the way you wrote that and what you wrote.

          //going back to making up conspiracy theories now.

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          well no, i have never multiplied, and i havent been with a “ton” of girls in a bathroom, thats just how things turned out. good luck with the conspiracy theories…

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          oh wow, no offense there… did I write that you have been with a ton of girls in a bathroom? because it seems like you read it that way. don’t take that personally, my question was if there are [insert: generally] a lot of girls who like to do that; and I wrote “a ton” as in “many, but using a total exaggeration instead of many”.
          as I said, no offense! and I sure know how things can turn out, you know?

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          oh hey! no offense taken, for really real! you wrote it perfectly fine and comprehensible, i just wanted to point out that im not a whore, not that you were saying i was one, haha. so….yeah, no worries! and yeah, i really do know how things can turn out! its all good!

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          ok, good then. :)
          there’s no shame in being a whore!
          like, when I told one of my best friends I was “a little slut the other day” and he simply said “a little slut?? you shouldn’t be a little slut!! be A BIG SLUT for god’s sake!”
          ;)

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    yes, this thigh thing…totally a thing. totally what my girl and me did before we graduated to fingerblasting. (actually, what we still do [with pants on] when one of us is on our period but we’re horny lol.)

    agreed though, frotting…not so much. not a great word. tribbing is okay i guess, still not the hottest name.

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    I can’t help but imagine all of these comments being written by Lisa Turtle. And then I can’t help but imagine Lisa Turtle scissoring and 69ing (with Kelly Kapowski of course.) I’m having a wonderful imagination day.

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    As a small-breasted lady, my ears sort of perked up at that article . . . man, NYT trend pieces are fucking bizarre, though. Such as: “as people’s weight has ballooned, breasts (mostly made up of fat) have only gotten larger, and commensurately bra cup sizes, too. K-cups now exist. Brandishing a tiny bosom may be a reaction to that trend.” Uh breast size is not exactly something that can be (well, easily) changed in order to follow a trend, and probs especially not for the reason of “ew, fat people,” weirdos!

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    The first, and so far only, time I’ve scissored with a girl we were having a sexyfuntimes marathon XD. It had been like four hours of me realizing that girls had erogenous zones and learning how to give a hickey. She decided that I had “tortured” her enough ;( and that she was going to get me back. It started with her seeing how far my legs would spread before I said “oww!”, which was difficult considering I had a twin bed at the time. One leg ended up against the wall with my toes point to a panda calendar. Some fingerblasting happened and then she was moving my leg again. Finally getting to the point: I was kind of confused when her foot went by my ear. I thought “scissoring? really? is that a thing?” Because I’d thought that straight guys made up scissoring as a way to mock the lesbians, like guess-what-I-can-do-that-you-can’t type of thing? I started to tell her that this seemed weird and awkward but she was thrusting her hips and I couldn’t think let alone speak. It felt amazing, after a few seconds of estacy induced shock I opened my eyes, looked at myself and her then we both started laughing. It was like “we’re really doing this and it’s hilarious in a kinky-feel-good way.

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