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by afeto

+ Anal is great! It can also make orgasm more likely. If you’re into it, here’s what to do:

“Going slow is, unsurprisingly, a necessary approach. ‘Anal sex should not be painful, so proceeding gradually in terms of speed, depth and the size of inserted object is of paramount importance,’ writes Dr. Jess. ‘Take time to deepen your breathing and begin with a very small object like your pinky finger before increasing the size gradually. Sex is not a race to the finish line and incremental experimentation can lead to mind-blowing results.’ Also, lube. As Dr. Jess points out, anal orgasms are much harder to come by when you’re feeling tense. And nothing inspires anxiety quite like the notion of unlubricated anal sex. Fortunately, there’s an easy remedy on the market, and you can find it in the aisles of your local drugstore.”

anzhelika anderson via queerishot

+ In Closer, Sarah Barmak uses history and personal narratives to discuss (mostly cis) women’s pleasure and sexuality.

+ Love the idea of a vibrator alarm clock, hate the execution.

+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erica Moen writes about pelvic exams.

+ There are a lot of bad sex ed videos.

Aviva Romelli and Selphie Labrys in the Crash Pad Series

+ Fetlife is now invite only in order to focus on addressing its issues with harassment and abuse. Many users are now heading elsewhere:

“Chaele Davis, a New York kinkster who has had an account on FetLife for three years, says she began to seek out other options when she heard the site was closed to new members. She was frustrated she could no longer invite friends and play partners to the site and says she found Facebook groups and other closed forums that allow similar discussion to be a comparable substitute for FetLife. She used the site more for community and discussion than dating, and says she has found kinky partners just as easily on OKCupid. In fact, after several harassment experiences on FetLife, she found these mainstream forums to even be preferable.

Davis isn’t convinced the blocking of new users will fix the site’s current issues with harassment and abuse. ‘There have been a lot of situations of harassment where there was no real response from the website,’ she said. ‘There doesn’t seem to be a response that shows a lot of empathy, caring and concern, and users remember that.'”

Do you use a kink app/strategy? What do you use? Does anyone want to talk about how Whiplr is the worst?

by four chambers

+ When a person slowly loves you less and less every day until your life together is a lie that someone (probably them) finally leaves behind, here’s how to handle it:

“I used to think the word was peddle-stool. Like a stool with a wheel. A unicycle type dealie. And so I thought the phrase ‘don’t put them on a peddle-stool’ meant like, don’t put someone up on one of them because they might just peddle away from you towards a better life and then you’ll be alone. Turns out it does not mean this. The real meaning isn’t as good as this one but it still makes some sense. It means stop putting people up on a little shelf like they aren’t the same as you. Like they aren’t a human being with teeth and shoes and fears. When someone leaves you can’t think “Well there goes a flawless irreplaceable angel”, because that’s not what happened. They’re just a person with exactly the same amount of worth as you. And you’ll be okay without them.”

adurey littie via bag-of-brains.tumblr.com

+ Don’t move in with a partner:

“From a logical perspective, absent of feeling, splitting the cost and use of something like an apartment with someone else makes sense. But, hey, feelings matter, too: it means that the time you spend with your significant other becomes more a default ,and less of a choice on a day-to-day basis. By moving in together, you are intertwining your lives unequivocally, rather than picking and choosing when you’re up for it.

It should go without saying that valuing the emotion and personal growth that comes with a decision like this is just as important as the objective finances of it, especially when considering how it might change your relationship. So often, what we believe we’re ‘supposed’ to be doing—the same reason we ask others about what they’re doing—dictates the pace with which we move through those decisions. (The steps that lead to marriage and having kids being at the top of the list.) Things where the independence you were primed to develop past childhood starts to hinges on other people, and your proximity to them.”

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