Hey-o! Welcome to Lesbian Sexy Sunday, the best Sunday in all the land! You have a few hours before The Oscars start to roll around in expensive lingerie, you should get on that:
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+ Going from really difficult orgasms to really easy orgasms is not a pipe dream:
"What’s most interesting in your case, is that your experience of orgasm even during masturbation changed profoundly and, it sounds like, without a dramatic adjustment in technique. “It seems like it’s more of a psychological factor,” he says. “If somebody can suddenly start having orgasms, there could be attitudinal changes. It seems more likely that it would be an attitudinal change rather than a physiological change.” There’s also the annoying irony of getting what you want when you stop trying."
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+ The real reason for lesbian bed death: According to a study at the University of Guelph, there is a connection between the length of a relationship and women's desire for sex, even among young university students:
"Specifically, for each additional month women in this study were in a relationship with their partner, their sexual desire decreased by 0.02 on the Female Sexual Function Index."
+ Sexy webcomics are delightful.
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+ "Sleaze baskets" have been replaced with "sex positive boutiques" in major urban centres:
"While the sticky-floor triple-X joints have declined, chains like Babeland and the Pleasure Chest have thrived, selling high-end dildos and in well-lit shops to a very different clientele. Yelp reviewers draw a stark line between “sex-positive” establishments like the Smitten Kitten, a sex-toy boutique in Minneapolis, and the “neon-signed sleaze-baskets, where you kinda feel you could catch something just by browsing.” As urban amenities of all types have upscaled, from gyms to coffee shops to cupcake emporiums, so too have sex stores, offering a gentler experience at a premium price."
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+ There needs to be more than one way of being sex-positive, particularly since asexual people are often excluded:
"One strategy to help change this is to talk more about asexual people’s concerns, and more generally about things that affect low-sexual-desire people. Obviously, many people feel unwelcome in a movement that rarely addresses their issues and where the people often don’t even know basic information about asexuality like vocabulary, definitions or common issues. This would also serve to make a lot of the anti-asexual and sex-normative attitudes in the community visible. For example, when discussions of asexuality occur in public places, concern trolling about the health of asexual people often abounds — up to and including outright denial of asexuality — as does demonization of asexual people in romantic relationships. I imagine that individual sex-positive people who want to root these out just don’t know where to find them, whereas for an asexual person it can be like stumbling through a minefield."
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Autostraddle Anonymous Sex Toy Review #19:
It’s our 19th Autostraddle Anonymous Sex Toy Review! Over the last 2-3 years, we’ve been propositioned frequently by sex toy companies wondering if we’d like to review their toy in exchange for, you know, their toys. In 2012, in addition to “saying yes to the dress” we are saying YES to the sex toys!
This week we have a fun kit from the couples' section at Good Vibrations.
You Send Me Kit - $48 
+ Pocket Rocket Vibe Pink
+ Please Liquid Lube 2oz
+ Devour Me Cherries Jubilee (lick-able body oil)
+ Rub Me Amber Rose Massage Bar
+ Sex Checks
+ Screaming O Ring
+ AA Battery
Let's start with what is easily the best part of this kit: the massage bar. And it took me under three minutes to orgasm with the included vibrator. The massage bar is that good. It feels great, it's really easy and not too messy to use, and you do not actually need to know anything about massage (except maybe to avoid the spine/kidneys) to use it and have it feel good.
I was less a fan of the lick-able body oil, because even though it tasted mild and just a little sweet (and not at all like the cherry cough syrup I had been expecting), it didn't last nearly as long and didn't feel as silky. It was also easier to grab the bar than it was to fiddle with a cap with oily fingers to apply more.
Even though both were made with natural ingredients, they weren't safe for internal use and were a little difficult to wash off my hands in a hurry, which I would say is the one strategic set back of using either. I also recommend putting down towels or using sheets you aren't really attached to, because both left stains (worth it).
The included vibrator was, considering how small it is, delightfully powerful and fairly quiet. The kit also includes a disposable vibrating cock ring, which was the thing that felt weirdest to suggest using, but which successfully worked with a strap-on, and which was a nice change from a regular vibrator because it was easy to control how much it was involved (and, no hands!). I am also going to give a shout-out to Please Liquid Lube, because you can (almost) never have too much lube.
The sex cheques seemed like exactly the type of thing you want to fold up and leave someone somewhere they might discover it when it is just a bit awkward (for her) and just a bit devious (for you). They also appeared in a kit last week and my feelings are similar to this:
"Have you ever used sex checks or anything like them? They initially seemed silly and like something Dr. Phil would recommend, but were actually hilarious and sexy. The one I tucked under her windshield wiper ended up being inadvertently released onto the freeway, so I'd recommend planting your sex checks in safer, more obvious locations. The best part about the sex checks, aside from being able to say "sex checks" a bunch of times (try it), is that they're not heteronormative AT ALL. I don't think I have to tell you what a big deal that is."
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