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+ Compersion is what happens when a thing that makes your partner happy — sleeping with someone else — makes you happy, too:

“Compersion is something that can benefit any relationship in which you might also feel jealousy, which – people being what they are – is pretty much every relationship. My point is, compersion isn’t just something for non-monogamous people to think about. We can all value and support each other and experience joy in the face of one another’s happiness. I don’t claim that this is always easy. For a lot of us, jealousy comes naturally, but the rewards to be reaped, in terms of close bonds and mutual respect and support, are huge when you learn to be genuinely happy about the happiness of you partners, friends, family members and colleagues.”

Alexis via Andrew Thomas Clifton via deviantfemme

+ Eating apples can allegedly increase your sexual function, according to a recent study:

“Researchers analyzed the apple-eating habits of 731 sexually active Italian women over the course of seven months, polling participants between the ages of 18 and 43 with no history of sexual dysfunction. The women were classified into two groups — those who ate one to two apples daily and those who ate none — and asked to fill out the Female Sexual Function Index (FSFI), which includes more than a dozen questions regarding desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, satisfaction and pain. All in all, Group A (the apple-eaters) totaled higher FSFI scores than their non-apple-eating counterparts, indicating increased lubrication and general sexual function.”

via deviantfemme

+ If you’re not sure whether you’re sexually compatible with your activity partner, there are a few things to keep in mind:

“How flexible are you willing to be? Can you practice random acts of sexual kindness with your partner? The most successful couples I’ve work with have been the ones who are happily willing to accommodate their partners every now and then. One partner will try out a new sexual behavior that they had never considered before. The other partner is open to sexual contact even when they’re feeling a little tired or run down. Notice that this is vastly different from feeling pressured or obligated to have sex.”

via loneookami

+ The Unlaced Librarian can think herself off, and has a guide so you can try it too:

“Even when I think myself off, my body follows the same sexual pattern: I get aroused then I plateau three times. Sometimes I keep the same fantasy, but often I switch fantasies three times before climax. Though I’m not moving, my body will be very tense at orgasm so I have to mindfully tell my body to relax. I imagine all my joints are coming unhinged (a tip I read in a magazine once that has been highly effective). My mind trick generally takes about 15 minutes. Learn your own responses. If it takes you longer to climax during sex or masturbation, it will take just as long when thinking yourself off. I find my mind trick works best if I’m laying on my stomach, which in a way mirrors some of my favorite sexual positions.”

+ Travelling with sex toys? Remove the batteries, pack them between layers of clothing, put them in clear plastic bags so it’ll be easier if you’re searched, and more.

+ These sex myths are fascinating.

Brittany Clybourn for Wilhelmina via darksunshyne

+ You shouldn’t outsource your emotional responsibility in relationships, particularly open or poly ones:

“Like anyone, poly people are quite capable of falling short of their goals from time to time. Which is why it also helps to be patient and flexible (to a point) as people develop the emotional and communication skills to handle adult relationships, especially poly/open ones.

The catch is, some people don’t necessarily value self awareness or direct communication, even if they have poly/open relationships. This is a skill, and sometimes a goal, that must be learned. Rather than look inside themselves, speak up clearly, and listen closely, and practice courage, some people prefer to rely on their partners and or metamours to guess what they really need (despite whatever they may have said) and to automatically shield them from their unarticulated fears.”

Free Spiiirit in Alien Pass!on via www.freespiiirit.com

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