Comments on: NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Wants to Show and Tell

By: Mae

Mae — Wed, 09 May 2012 14:34:33 +0000

Amanda Palmer is awful and ableist and I feel bad now.
Scrolling back up to the first picture does, however, help.

By: Cath~

Cath~ — Wed, 09 May 2012 07:05:23 +0000

I’m extremely qualified at snuggling, cuddling, and yawning.

By: Digger

Digger — Tue, 08 May 2012 10:34:39 +0000

There are an awful lot of jerks out there. I know. I’ve dated several of them. (Hey D..are you still an ashole?) But..And I can’t stress this enough..There are even more beautiful, wonderful, thoughtful, amazingly loving ladies than there are jerks. I’ve been grateful for each of those I’ve met or dated. So don’t lose heart. Ms. Wonderful is waiting for you too!

By: Digger

Digger — Tue, 08 May 2012 10:24:32 +0000

1) Pictures of women. Femme. Butch. Curvy. Multi race representative. Whatever. PICTURES OF WOMEN…YES! FUCKING YES!

2) Riese..I HAVE seen your girlfriend. She smacked my ass. ‘nuf said there.

3) Marika..I fucking adore you!

By: Hilary

Hilary — Tue, 08 May 2012 06:01:15 +0000

You are always so nice to me. Thank you. And I’m sorry that I’m a whiney mcwhinersons.

By: Marika

Marika — Tue, 08 May 2012 00:11:44 +0000

If you want me to be honest, I don’t give two fucks about the pictures in the NSFW sexy sunday posts because I am very much aware that no matter what they pick, somebody will complain. It’s only a few pictures a week, and every week when not everybody can be represented somebody starts bitching. Too many femmes! Not enough curvy women! When there are enough curvy women, all of them are white! When there are curvy women and women of color, all of them are femme (which I’m not sure I completely agree with your designation of all of these women as femme, considering many of them are at least half naked. it’s a little hard to say then).

It is impossible to represent everyone all of the time with a half dozen pictures or so a week. BUT I actually thought this post was particularly good, because they linked to an entire gallery of cute bois instead of just throwing in a picture of one. It was awesome. More naked queers are better naked queers.

Furthermore, it seems to me that the NSFW sunday posts should actually more be focused around the articles or links that are posted and not the pictures, which are an afterthought to me as I’m reading (it’s more like click link, read, ooh, naked girl, repeat). And the links are often really flipping amazing, inclusive, and thoughtful. Not to mention every fashion post that has something amazing for masculine of center queermos (thanks for the swimsuit advice, AS, it came at a very appropriate time for me).

I would also just like to point out that I know quite a few straddlers in real life, very few of whom are femme and many of whom would be very angry that you’ve arbitrarily assigned them that identity.

I could say more, but this is obviously about as fruitful as another stupid argument about bisexuality, as you’re excessively determined to be offended and stay offended. Between Riese, annetheman, Carrie, and I, I think most points have been adequately addressed and I’m done and will go quietly enjoy my evening, perhaps with a raspberry gin fizz.

tl;dr point is I like it here and I’ve never felt excluded

By: rumpuskat

rumpuskat — Mon, 07 May 2012 18:38:58 +0000

Ok, I missed that part. My argument still stands. You can’t possibly look at this page and tell me there is not a problem. This NSFW post is typical of what appears on this website every week– 95% ladies in high heels and one girl with short hair thrown in for “diversity.”

I don’t know who is complaining about the over-representation of masculine people on this site (or what universe they live in). Maybe it’s time for Autostraddle to change the text under the logo to “news, entertainment, opinion, and femme-on-femme culture,” because that’s clearly what it is and that’s clearly who most of their readers are now. Which is fine. They just need to be honest about it.

By: Marika

Marika — Mon, 07 May 2012 18:30:06 +0000

Sexy. Unf. (see you at the next A camp?)

By: Marika

Marika — Mon, 07 May 2012 18:28:45 +0000

“get complaints that our website is too focused on masculine/butch women”

reading comprehension is your friend! Some people will say it’s too much, some people will say it’s too little, AS is trying to strike a happy medium of representation for everyone.

Just as annetheman doesn’t speak for the greater group of butch/boi/androgynous queer women, neither do you speak for them. Or me. Because my queer, sports bra clad, buzzed fauxhawk, men’s clothes sporting self feels pretty well represented.

And now if you’ll excuse me, I’m running low on boxer briefs and have to run by American Eagle.

By: rumpuskat

rumpuskat — Mon, 07 May 2012 18:06:58 +0000

You have already lost a lot of readers over this. You will continue to lose readers over this.

And the fact that a single masculine lesbian doesn’t feel left out when she looks at pages and pages of lipstick lesbians one doesn’t prove anything. She doesn’t speak for all of us just because she agrees with you.

If you keep getting complaints “all the time,” then gee, I dunno, maybe you really do have a problem! I suspect that your dismissive attitude towards masculine lesbians IS your problem.

By: Digger

Digger — Mon, 07 May 2012 13:11:57 +0000

Marika I would make that trip. Did I mention I carry an EpiPen?

By: smartypants

smartypants — Mon, 07 May 2012 04:34:24 +0000

As physician, I’m so heartbroken to hear this…
So glad you didn’t let it stop you from the labial self-love you deserve!

Carry on.