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+ Roxane Gay wrote about Fifty Shades and how it is ridiculous:
“Oh hell. I can’t do this. Normally I recap the entire movie but I simply cannot recap this entire movie. Fifty Shades of Grey is ridiculous because the book is ridiculous. I had fun, I laughed, and during the sexy scenes I pressed my thighs together (see: bad feminist).
The absurdities, however, were oh so many.”
For further reading, see her essay from a few years back about all the things wrong with the book. Also pair with Catherine Scott’s discussion of how kinkphobia influences the criticism of the franchise, and with Sady Doyle on how the movie is actually a feminist victory.
Viola Davis photographed by Mario Sorrenti via flashes of magnesium
+ Differently abled people can want to have sex, just FYI.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Abby Howard discussed safety and BDSM.
+ The 110 things about sex that you may not know include how many minutes Americans have sex a week on average ( 57), how many times the average person has sex a year (103), that people who talk more about sex are happier with their sex lives and more.
+ Carmen’s essay about her long distance relationship is stunning and beautiful and you should read it right now.
+ The Lingerie Lesbian released her spring lingerie wish list. Pair with the Lingerie Addict‘s discussion of queer representation in lingerie ads.
+ Revenge porn will become a criminal offence in England and Wales.
Madison Paige via dapper tomboy
+ It is still illegal to buy sex toys in some states.
+ C Squared, a new column at the Rumpus, will explore couples’ stories compared and contrasted with the author’s experiences. It looks pretty great.
exitthroughthelense via rodeohs
+ How To Come Out Like A Porn Star is a new anthology edited by Jiz Lee. At Salon, Lee discusses how coming out as a porn star is similar to and different from coming out about other things:
“Most people generally don’t have to ‘come out’ as being heterosexual, or come out as not being transgender. For those of us whose lives exist outside of what society considers ‘normal,’ the issue of disclosing information about ourselves can happen daily, and being ‘outsiders’ is a vulnerable and often dangerous position. People are afraid of what they don’t know, and most know very little when it comes to sex and gender.”
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+ Touch is pretty essential to survival, argues neuroscientist David J. Linden in a new book. In an interview at Alternet, Linden discusses touch deprivation, the similarities between pleasure from sex and from food, pain and pleasure and more:
“Linden suggests that although we might be quick to say we couldn’t live without the senses of sight or sound, it is actually touch that is almost inconceivably integral to our lives. Without the sensation of pain, for instance, our bodies would be at risk constantly; we wouldn’t remove our hands from hot stoves or notice our skin break when our clothes are too tight.
But what would happen without the sensation of pleasure — without the emotionally charged touches of family, friends and lovers? What would happen without sex? These touches, Linden notes, are also vital, both to our physiology and to our humanity.”
Tess Holliday photographed by Anthony Evans via tess holliday
+ The Notorious RBG has all the sex advice you’ll ever need.
+ Don’t visit RedTube.
+ Wired‘s 2015 sex issue discusses vivid nudes, awkward sex in movies, the version of the talk you didn’t have with your parents, demisexuality and more.
Dani K 9/14 via Jessica W Levin
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The 110 sex facts is in fact interesting (#25 for random science trivia). It is also horrifically depressing (#18), amusement inducing (#73), makes me wish I wasn’t currently single and not sleeping with anyone (#83), and that is seems like men are doing it wrong if its for retention, not fun (#99).
another interesting read about 50 shades: ‘The Sly Capitalist Seduction of “50 Shades of Grey”‘ – – – http://www.buzzfeed.com/annehelenpetersen/submit-to-capitalism#.fr84WRPoY (though I disagree with her concluding paragraph, considering that in the next book/s they get back together)
As a disabled person the fact the you used the phrase Differently Abbled’ it is disabled thank you very much, also the article you linked to uses the term Wheelchair bound, wheelchair users are not bound by their chairs the only thing that they are bound by are the fucked up views of society.
It is amazing that autostraddle is including articles on disabled people having sex, but PLEASE can thought be used otherwise you will be just as bad as the rest of society
I logged in to just to say something similar about “differently abled”. I also don’t feel like the article itself is a very positive portrayal of disabled people who seem very passive and unable to make decisions about their sexuality without outside “help”. Not that disabled people are mentioned a lot, most of the article is about a “selfless” and “noble” able bodied sex worker who isn’t repulsed by having sex with disabled people and how great she is because of that.
speaking of 50 shades of gray, this tumblr person has been posting fake passages from the book and several of them are quite amazing
as an example, a silly bit of one of the posts:
(also, reading these out loud to your friends goes over really well)
SO MANY THUMBS