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  • HELLO and welcome to the 149th installment of Things I Read That I Love, wherein I share with you some of the longer-form journalism/essays I’ve read recently so that you can read them too and we can all know more […]

    • The Forsaken: A Rising Number of Homeless Gay Teens Are Being Cast Out By Religious Families

      Thank you for making me read this!

    • “It’s a survival thing. In America, we lose six queer kids a day to the street. That’s every four hours a queer kid dies, whether it be from freezing to death or getting the shit beat out of them or a drug overdose. This is our next real plague.”

      what agonizing statistics

    • The article about LGBT youth homelessness broke my heart, and made me angry, and now I feel powerless … I wonder what the stats are in other western countries, the UK for example. Probably similar, unfortunately.

      Anyway, thanks for making me read it.

      (Also, the article about the Chilean miners was very good! They really did show…[Read more]

    • I look forward to this feature every week! Now that we have largely succeeded on marriage equality, we should turn our resources to the homeless queer youth problem. Too bad it can’t be fixed by court orders.

  • Last week as I was smashing together two triumphant videos for A+ (a membership program we invented in hopes of creating a sustainable income source that’ll save us from having to shut down next year), I began […]

    • Reading this made me realise that I think I lurked here for 4 years before finally making an account?!
      Also, Alex doing Call Your Girlfriend will forever be my favourite.

    • The Real L Word parody NEVER gets old for me. Julie Goldman as Ilene Chaiken is brilliance and magic and perfection.

    • Just FYI i have a vid of Alex doing call your girlfriend at acamp 5.0 Lol. I miss tiny pineapple. Bring it back pretty please?

    • If you guys only posted videos of Alex dancing from now on, I would totally be okay with that.

    • One time I got broken up with and watched every video on the autostraddle youtube channel and this reminds me of that except I’m laughing instead of crying so that’s a plus

    • “…we might as well get married at k-mart” has me in tears

    • Excellent list, excellent videos, excellent humans.

    • And it’s get better to watch these videos, I wish that I’ve knew this website for a long time, but as they’re saying better to be late than never.

    • Hahaha these are amazing. I could watch behind the scenes footage/consume Team Autostraddle communications all day.

    • “I’m gonna have triplets and I’m gonna name them Brooke, River, and Stream and then we’ll see which one succeeds.”
      This is something that periodically pops into my head and I have to just stop and appreciate it for a minute.

    • The “Bad Romance” video was so hilarious!!! Riese’s insanely amazing dance moves made me happy just watching her dance with fun abandon! Thanks!

    • the words with girl episode is pretty much instant win…plus alex dancing…obviously. :)

  • ThumbnailWelcome to the fourth episode of the second season of Faking It, a claymation program from the network that brought you Snooki & JWoww.

    We open on another resplendent Austin afternoon, where my Mom’s […]

    • Why did they put her in a closet with a very attractive girl and have her not even respond at all?
      Seriously, she had to go talk to Liam?
      I just think this show is pretty ridiculous. Faking It does have some social responsibility to not gaybait, and to portray queer characters as actually queer because of its audience in my opinion.
      They show…[Read more]

      • Last episode, she responded the same to the boy and the girl. I don’t like that she’s bi and not a lesbian, but I don’t expect her to flirt with every girl that flirts with her and it seemed to me that she did notice her, but was otherwise distracted.

      • Totally agree that the Karma thing feels forced, but maybe that’s just wishful thinking because I’m so totally over it but high school Amy isn’t?

        She seemed to have really great chemistry with Reagan for the, like, 10 seconds they were on screen together and then I swear I have no idea what Reagan said that made Amy be like, “That’s a great…[Read more]

        • I think it was when Reagan referred to the party as a “soap opera,” and Amy became inspired to make a scene (ie the comment about winning a daytime emmy)

    • Are you serious? Do you really have no sympathy for Liam’s character that all you see is that he spilled a secret. For one I absolutely believe it’s a secret he’s able to tell and shouldn’t have been burdened to keep as the child in the first place. The pressure and the way his family treats him is abhorrent. Money doesn’t make up for emotional…[Read more]

      • No I absolutely think it’s a terrible secret for him to have to keep. But it’s not his moms fault, it’s his grandparents fault, so it’s kinda shitty to ruin her engagement party over it. He shouldn’t have to keep it, but there’s a time and a place for dealing with that and a party isn’t that place.

      • I agree, I’m getting tired of the crapping on Liam attitude. Karma is the most self-centred character in the whole show but she doesn’t get crapped on as much as Liam. Liam is still just a teenager, and to have to keep that big of a secret when everybody in your family treats like crap is horrible. Since Amy ruined the party and Liam got blamed…[Read more]

        • I mean, I also took Amy to task for ruining the party? I’m hyperbolic about how much I like a thing/person as much as I am about how much I dislike a thing/person.

        • Liam has homophobic attitudes toward lesbians and according to the show he apparently fulfilled his dream, since Amy suddenly craves men sexually now after sleeping with him.

          Gee, I wonder why he isn’t popular among lesbian women and their allies…

          • He doesn’t seem happy about having “fulfilled his dreams”… If he was such a douche bag he would have been celebrating and shouting about it all over the school. To me he comes across as ignorant as a product of his environment.

          • Amelia replied 3 days ago

            And that’s exactly the problem – they made him a lesbophobe but they don’t portray it as a big deal. By trying to make the audience like him, without ever calling out his attitudes toward lesbians and make it clear how ignorant and damaging they are (which would be hard now, since Amy after being portrayed and gaybaited as a lesbian suddenly…[Read more]

      • “Sometime the writers on autostraddle come off as a bit man-hating. It’s repellent to see the stereotype perpetuated. He’s no worse character than anyone else on this over the top show.”

        Perceiving lesbians as a “challenge” to “conquer” really isn’t according to you that bad, and disliking such character is a sign of “man-hating”??

        • It’s pretty obvious that he’s actually in love with Karma and doesn’t just want to “conquer” a lesbian. He even got pushed into the threesome idea, how many times exactly did we hear Liam say that all he wanted was to turn a lesbian? It seems you’ve already made up your mind to hate him so go ahead if it makes you feel better. I’m taking myself…[Read more]

          • Amelia replied 3 days ago

            Gregg, do you think part of Liam’s attraction to Karma is about the fact that he thinks she’s a lesbian?

            GS: Definitely. I mean, realistically, with straight guys in school, I think if you ask a bunch of guys, do they think it’s hot? They’ll say yes.

            MJW: Well, it’s hot and it boosts your confidence, right?

            GS: It’s like a challenge, you…[Read more]

          • Amelia replied 3 days ago

            BTW, I see that one of your favorite TV shows is “Sherlock”, where they made Adler a lesbian only to show how cool main character is because she couldn’t help falling in love and lust with him.

      • “Sometime the writers on autostraddle come off as a bit man-hating. It’s repellent to see the stereotype perpetuated.”

        Tabling the misandry thing for a second, real people aren’t stereotypes. Period. But that’s not what you said, you didn’t say that Riese *was* a stereotype, you said she was *perpetuating* the stereotype — causing the…[Read more]

    • Whoa wait how did I miss that Heather Hogan was coming to Autostraddle?! THAT’S FANTASTIC NEWS. OK, now I will finish reading this recap. Thank you.

      • She just announced it today on her social media presences!

        • HEATHER HOGAN IS COMING TO AUTOSTRADDLE!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG OMG OMG OMG!!!

          I kid you not, this feels like Christmas.

          This is everything that I have ever dreamed and prayed to the queer lady internet god(desses) for.

          Excuse me, I’m continue to flail about my apartment now.

          ——————–

          (It’s such big news, I just went to my…[Read more]

        • Oh wow, thank god, because I was actually just afraid that you were just messing with us like “HAHA WE CAN ONLY DREEEEEEEEEEEEAM”.

          First Roxanne Gay on The Toast, now Heather Hogan on Autostraddle? WE CAN HAVE NICE THINGS AFTER ALL!!!

      • She was the only reason I still check AfterEllen as regularly as I do. SO FUCKING EXCITED, Y’ALL. When I was a baby queer who didn’t know where to look or have much to read, I lived at AfterEllen. Then media production intensified and I got more discerning in what I wanted to read/what I expect from my queer media and moved mostly to…[Read more]

      • I’m SOOOOOOOOO happy that HH is coming to Autostraddle, but I also want to know, does this have anything to do with TotallyHer Media’s acquirement of AfterEllen? Because Karman Kregloe is also stepping down as EiC.

    • But srsly Reagan was mad cute

    • I love how you kept writing “where’s Reagan?” because that was my thought process exactly. I am SO ready for Amy to move on from Karma to her, although I’m slightly sad Jasmine from season one totally disappeared.
      Also I don’t really hate Liam at all after this episode, even if he makes me roll my eyes constantly.

      • I had the exact same feelings about Jasmine! I was so excited to see a lady-loving women of color on television. I thought it would have been so great if they had an interracial lesbian couple. I really want Jasmine back on.

    • This episode was a huge improvement from last week’s mess (mostly because of the cute girl that flirted with Amy.) Side note: How much longer will they drag on this whole unrequited love thing b/w Amy and Karma?

      • it looks like that’s gonna be the topic for next week’s episode, which is really really unfortunate. i’m ready for her to move on.

    • WHERE’S REGAN, MOAR REGAN PLZ

      Also I don’t know if anyone has watched the scene from next week’s episode that they have online but it looks like Amy’s mother–while she’s still pretty much pulling for Amy to go “jk I’m straight”–has at least started making an effort to be supportive and understanding, in her way, which I appreciate. The “I’m…[Read more]

    • I can never decide if it’s better to watch the episode before or after reading the recap. This week I read 1st but I’m actually pretty excited to see this episode, anything is better than last week.

    • I am still 100% here for Oliver.

      • But I mean, his character is kind of like the closest thing we have on to an even-maybe-kind-of-coded-as-trans-feminine-young-person on television.

        So yeah. Representation.

    • I have still only watched two episodes of this and I am just immensely enjoying the recaps. For this reason I have only ever seen screencaps of Oliver, but I know that I have a big old bisexual crush on him.

    • I really liked season 1 of this show against all of my own expectations, but so far I’m feeling let down by season 2. I dunno. For all we were promised no queerbaiting with Amy they are doing some pretty shitty stuff to her character. This week was a little better because it lacked the last episode’s ridiculous racism (why was that plot even a…[Read more]

      • “For all we were promised no queerbaiting with Amy they are doing some pretty shitty stuff to her character. ”

        Never trust showrunners, honey. All they do is lie to try to keep you watching their show. The only thing I’m looking forward to with this show is if this season’s finale will be worst than the first one and how long it will take…[Read more]

        • Soooo true. I don’t know why I still get my hopes up. Maybe I need to make a new rule never to watch shows with gay characters after the first season? That’s the longest any show seems to be able to maintain before devolving into BS.

          • 2014 has been my year of zero fucks in regards to tv “lesbians”. I have been burned far too many times to the point where I just have to get out of the abusive relationship I clearly have with these kinds of shows.

    • Lauren replied 4 days ago

      Riese, I absolutely loved this recap, and I think it was one of your best ones ever! “NOBODY PUTS AMY BACK IN THE CLOSET!” “HAHAHA. Don’t worry, I’d never not abort this guy’s baby.” The Gossip Girl reference.

      If Amy and Reagan continue to have the sizzling chemistry that they had together in that closet, I’m completely onboard with shipping…[Read more]

      • ” The attraction between the two feels believable so far, and they haven’t even had a scene together for more than 30 seconds. And they’re both so hot too!”

        AGREE

    • I’ve still never seen a single episode of this but read the recaps religiously.
      Also I absolutely LOST it at “But we still don’t know who killed Jenny? What a devastating story”
      Need more Laverne in my life always.

    • HEATHER HOGAN THAT IS FANTASTIC!

      I really really need to find a job so I can join A+, you guys are so good to me.

      Also, Oliver was reading Nietzsche, I’m starting to think that he is high-school-me… hiding out people-watching, crushing on unavailable maybe-lesbians, reading Thus Spoke Zarathustra (and hating Jenny Schecter even more),…[Read more]

    • “Riese has written 1756 articles for us.”

      Sorry, totally off-topic, but that just caught my eye. It is A LOT.

      • i know, right? and that doesn’t even count for the articles by “the team” that were actually by me or involved weeks upon weeks of my work to get them up

    • Should I suffer through the show for Laverne? Because I lobe her but I have my limits.

      Obligatory: I hate Shane

      • Clearly meant love not lobe
        Though I may lobe her too (Google’s lobe)

      • I mean, she has a pretty big role in this episode. You could just fast forward through the scenes she’s not in.

      • Gasp! I’m not the only one that doesn’t love Shane.

        • No, I can’t stand him either but you can tell he is the showrunner’s pet so I’m not going to hold my breath that he’s going to disappear. Same goes for Liam.

    • I was super disappointed by Laverne’s role in this. Not only was her performance pretty hammy (which could’ve been fine because humour and stuff), but I’m pretty sure that – by having her character choose Oliver for the club, etc – it means we won’t be seeing her again? This was probably already known by those who had read about how long she’d…[Read more]

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  • ThumbnailLast night’s episode of my favorite currently-airing sitcom, The Mindy Project, introduced this season’s brand new lesbian character, Dr. Jean Fishman, played by Niecy Nash. You may remember Niecy Nash from Reno […]

    • I knew you’d have prompt coverage of this wonderment! I really liked the episode and think it’ll be cool to have Dr. Fishman as a semi-antagonist.
      (I think they might have been married and not just dating? Her and Julie Goldman?)

      (Also, I truly appreciate that someone other than me occasionally still thinks Lawyer Ted before Danny Castellano.)

      • I had “married to julie goldman” in the headline when I published this post and then I had a panic like, “wait. were they really married? or did i just assume that?” and since i was in that rare period of time in tv land where the episode was still inaccessible online in any capacity I couldn’t double check so I changed it to girlfriended and…[Read more]

    • i made that face for the ENTIRE buttsex episode

      like, what a mess

      hopefully this one will restore balance to the mindyverse

    • I knew Niecy Nash was going to play a recurring lesbian character and was super-psyched because YES, Reno 911! I have the box set. And Raineesha was totally my favorite. But I had no idea Julie Goldman was playing her wife till she showed up! I hope she’ll make another visit or two as well. I was a little annoyed that Jean would cheat on her wife…[Read more]

    • Humm, maybe I’ll give it a chance and start watching it. It didn’t interest me at all before.

    • Haven’t watched since Season 1 and now I have to because duh

    • So, is it ridiculously weird that the feeling I got when Julie Goldman came on screen, was that somehow my real life and the Mindy Show world were intersecting? Nevermind that I only know JG from her webisodes…

    • i actually screamed at my tv when julie walked out. best ever.

  • Welcome to You Need Help! Where you’ve got a problem and yo, we solve it. Or we at least try.

    Q:

    I feel very shitty, Riese :/ I’m almost thirty and haven’t achieved huge success in my professional life […]

    • “I think we get down on ourselves the most when we feel like we’re stuck in a bad spot and we don’t trust ourselves to do anything about it.”

      True fact!

      Thanks Riese! This is some really good advice, and if that reader needed to hear it, and I needed to hear it, I would wager there are bunch of other readers who need to hear it too. Anyway,…[Read more]

    • “There are people reading your question who have the things you want who are thinking, ‘damn, I wish I had a girlfriend like this girl does.'”

      Damn, I wasn’t even thinking about my lack of a girlfriend til this line. :(

      But this is all great advice! I hate being so far behind many of my college friends when it comes to money, but I love my…[Read more]

    • oh my gosh, i really needed to hear all of this, especially right now. i’m still a student and no one around me has money so it doesn’t bother me that i’m perpetually broke, but the feeling of success/lack of it is such a stupidly important thing to me. as an artist i’m constantly comparing myself – the first thing i do when looking up an artists…[Read more]

    • Ugh, the timing of this is seriously great for me. Granted, I’m a few years younger that the person who sent you that message, but it seems like all of my friends have their shit 100% together and I’m over here like “what’s up I still live with my parents and eat ramen twice a day lol holler.”

      Like, my friends are all wearing slacks and taking…[Read more]

      • Congratulations! It doesn’t matter how long it takes, you’re on the road and chugging along — and you got straight As! Well done :D

    • I, too, am nearing 30 (next week!) and feeling like I’m unsuccessful. I needed to read this.

    • Riese you are the best. I love this so much.

    • Riese can you start a newsletter that just emails this advice to me maybe once a month? That is a service I could benefit from.

    • I needed to hear a lot of this today. Thank you, Riese :)

    • There’s so much truth in this. I’m in my mid-twenties and two years ago I thought I had finally figured out what I wanted to do in my professional life, but I’ve come to realize that I really want to do something totally different, which means giving up on everything I’ve been working for and starting over AGAIN when I already felt wayyy behind my…[Read more]

    • Sometimes I find posts on here that help me more than anything else in life. (OK more often than sometimes. 90% of the time) Up until a few months ago, I thought I always wanted to work in the hospital as a nurse. But then a lot of people at work started talking about things and opportunities as a nurse and sometimes I think about ‘what if’ and…[Read more]

      • My sisters are both still with my parents (ain’t nobody can afford to live solo in California!) and I 10000% endorse staying with your parents when the relationship is good. Benefits for everyone!

      • Nursing is a pretty awesome job because there are so many environments to work in and so many specialties (I’m an OR nurse, current civilian and former military). But the education is seriously draining- lots of clinical time, and it will be really challenging if you aren’t sure it’s for you. As far as the financial side goes, a number of…[Read more]

        • How cool! You and my wife are OR nurses. Its an area I could probably never do.

          That is very very true. Nursing school isnt for everyone..you do kind of shun your social life to the side. Im surprised i even managed nursing school given my drinking memories. Haha. But I know its a very stable profession because healthcare isnt something that…[Read more]

      • I’m also part of the 25yo-living-with-parents club! It’s the only rational option for me at the moment, but my brain still tries to make me feel bad about it. Sometimes it succeeds. Sometimes it doesn’t. I’m just really grateful to have such awesome parents.

    • “We broke up, obvs, because I was a criminal who wanted to date girls.”
      This is how I’d like to describe every time I broke up with a boy. Actually, I think I want “Criminal who wants to date girls” business cards to give conservative relatives

    • oh riese, i love you. the whole second half of your statement REALLY spoke to me. I’m 33 and still have no idea if i am gay or not, not sure i love my job anymore (toddlers are draining my soul), barely make enough to live alone (which i know is a luxury), and don’t know what i want to be when i am grown up, which is now. UGH, LIFE. And yet, day…[Read more]

      • You can get out of that mindset! I believe in you! It’s hard and scary and sometimes feels hopeless, but it’s worthwhile and you’re worthwhile and we all have your back. <333

    • I had an 18-month stretch of unemployment that ended this year, and these are the kinds of things I was repeating to myself on a regular basis. I really wanted to hear them from other people, just to know I wasn’t just giving myself false hope.

      I got lucky, and now I have the privilege of struggling with impostor syndrome. It’s mostly under…[Read more]

      • Yup, I also live in imposter syndrome land. And not just professionally – I keep waiting for my friends to realize I’m not the awesome person they think I am…

        My brother came up with an ingenious way to fight it. “If these people are all so much better than me and they think I’m great, they must be right and I must be wrong because I’m such…[Read more]

        • (i have the worst case of imposter syndrome ever, which as you can imagine is complicated for a person who does the job i do)

          • I can imagine, yeah. I know that telling you that I think you’re a badass isn’t likely to make you believe it, but… YOU’RE A BADASS OKAY

      • I feel an Imposter Syndrome’s Anonymous Support Group is needed.
        Where we can all do our day and night jobs safely and ?competently? and then go to the Anonymous Support Group with a mask over our faces so no one knows who they are talking to, and all sorts of shame and integrity are preserved and remain confidential, but we talk and share and…[Read more]

    • this was so fucking amazing. thank you, riese!

    • Thanks for the pep talk Riese. I needed the shit out of this today.

    • Thanks for this. My gf is doing so well and we’ve only been out of undergrad for a year. I mean I know I’m lucky to be in graduate school but I’m so tried of volunteer work and unpaid internships. I feel like I made responsible choices but there just isn’t work. It’ll another two years before I can even hope at gaining financial independence.…[Read more]

    • The part about sometimes your job isn’t super fulfilling is so true! I spent so many years doing what I’m passionate about- working with disadvantaged kids- but not advancing in a career or making enough money to live on. Now I’m working in a job that is 100% not my passion- but I get paid a ton more and have job security- and I volunteer with…[Read more]

    • Yes. This is relevant to my life. Because a ton of my friends are 10-15 years older than me. Of course their lives are more put together than mine! Of course they have real full-time adult jobs and have serious relationships and even children! They have had at least 10 years more time to get to that point!

      But at the same time, I’m looking…[Read more]

    • Sometimes you just need a cheesy country song to spell it out for you:

      “I will stumble, I will crawl, bang my head against these walls, in the end I won’t have it all, but I’ll stand tall.”

      Priorities shift and goals are moving targets, but if vacations and bank accounts are what kept us standing tall, I never would have made it out of…[Read more]

    • This is such a good thing to read one week into grown-up life. Thank you always, Riese.

    • I’ve recently made the choice to STOP having the “professional” well paying job with fancy nice work clothes, because it made me miserable.

      Now I’m back to being a loser, and kind of feeling shitty about it. Thank you for this very well timed, wonderful advice! So much of what I needed to hear.

    • I’m sliding into 32, wildly underemployed (and I feel it even harder because I’ve had internships in the place I “deserve” to be employed, ahahah entitlement, and I’ve never gotten a full-time offer out of anything), and painfully single with maybe one actual not-straight female friend. I ALSO NEEDED THIS. Ugh. Let’s all hold each other very tightly.

    • Bookmarking the eff out of this, and I might even set a calender reminder to read it at regular intervals. Thanks Riese!

    • Lisa replied 5 days ago

      THANK YOU so much for this. I’m in grad school in a field I’m not even sure I want to be in, totally drowning in anxiety at the moment, while a bunch of my college friends are having real jobs and lives and can do things like rent their own apartments and act like grownups. And the impostor syndrome is a pretty much daily occurrence whenever I’m…[Read more]

    • this is the second awesome advice column i’ve read today (the other being from the other side of the same page, http://nymag.com/thecut/2014/09/ask-polly-i-hate-my-job-what-should-i-do.html) but this is the one i’m going to bookmark. stellar.

    • To the person who wrote to Riese, dont feel bad okay? Remember that theres a lot of here with just about the same problem or situation andwe are here for you. Thats what I have come to love about this place. No haters. <3

    • This was something I really needed to read today, so thank you!
      Just trying to take deep breaths and focus my energy on being happy for my friends instead of freaking out, haha.

    • I love this and needed to hear it so so much, many thanks, Riese.

      I perpetually feel like I’m playing dress-up in my business professional clothes and any day now they’re going to find out I don’t really know how to adult.

    • From the “it gets better” side of the fence:
      At 30, I was struggling with a lot of mental health issues. I didn’t have the terminal graduate degree I was “supposed to” have by 30. Didn’t have any kids and my life plan said I “should” by then. Didn’t have a real job. Felt like a big loser/failure in many ways.

      At 36, I am pretty happy and…[Read more]

    • Riese this is so timely and so perfect, right down to the Joan Didion (though I don’t envy her now). Autostraddle’s advice column really is a hidden gem.

    • I constantly feel inadequate about every factor of my life but then I go for a walk on the beach and other people’s dogs choose to hang out with me because I am great at throwing sticks and giving unlimited pats and the owners literally have to drag them away as I quietly whistle them back.

      I forgot what my train of thought was because I…[Read more]

    • I have ridiculously successful friends (who are that way, I have to remind myself, in large part because of a hefty amount of privilege, because I went to a college where privilege abounds) and every time I start comparing myself to them and feeling like a fuckup, I force myself to stop and ask, “Well, what are you going to do about it?” Sometimes…[Read more]

    • this article came out at just the right time. thanks for writing this! being an adult is the weirdest

    • I read this as I was sitting in my car waiting for a job interview. Talk about perfect timing and a great perspective reminder. Thanks, Riese!

    • I love you, Riese. I hate how financial stress can make us feel worthless as humans. Grrrrr….The comparisons to friends can be deadly. I’ve made a number of changes to make this less painful (no more Facebook, no more pretending I can afford my rich friends’ lifestyle). Hanging out with people who are also following their own path on their own…[Read more]

    • spot on!

    • Wow, Riese. Thank you for this. In a dramatic reversal of roles Carrie actually e-mailed this post to me and said “you should read this NOW!” and in a less-dramatic/predictable return to our usual roles she was right. And you are perfect and really just have the best words for everything ever.

  • HELLO and welcome to the 148th installment of Things I Read That I Love, wherein I share with you some of the longer-form journalism/essays I’ve read recently so that you can read them too and we can all know more […]

    • I really like Zadie Smith’s essays. She says some of the things I’m thinking that I didn’t even know I was thinking.

    • As soon I saw “The Plane That Fell From The Sky” and the year 1981 my brain jumped to oh my this about the Pam Am flight that crashed in a residential neighborhood killing everyone on the plane and some folks on the ground but read the rest of the stuff under the link and nope this one’s not it cause these folks didn’t crash.

      I guess something…[Read more]

    • Anna replied 1 week ago

      This question has plagued me since the dawn of this segment. In the title, is “read” past or present tense?

      • I am almost certain it’s past tense. Considering the inspiration is “Things I Ate That I Love.”

    • I’ve always loved this segment, I read the articles when I’m bored at work which has led me down many a Wikipedia rabbit hole. I’ve always wondered what the asterisks mean though? Are those ones like, especially good?

  • ThumbnailWelcome to the third recap of the second season of Faking It, a politically progressive dance film from the same network that brought you A Double Shot Of Love With The Ikki Twins. I apologize for the lateness of […]

    • “Almost as if Television simply prefers humans who are into men, in general. Seriously I wanna see a showrunner at the fucking upfronts talk about how the male lead on his show isn’t sure about his identity yet or doesn’t believe in labels. Sometimes it feels like the message is: women are never enough.” YES YES YES

      Your thoughts are my…[Read more]

    • The story is set in Texas yet they import a latin@ love interest from Brasil. Not the just the love interest but a busload of sexy Brasilian refugees that are so far just eye candy.

      Are Chicanas unacceptable, too unfashionable?

      • JP replied 1 week ago

        It’s idiotic story lines like this that make me just not really enjoy watching. I wish it would focus on Amy’s road to self discovery instead of the other side characters.

      • SERIOUSLY THOUGH. This whole white washed Austin business has been killing me since the show started! There are a lot of people with Mexican heritage here specifically (I’m one of them!) but the high school appears to be in a white people bubble. Also, chime in here Austinites, but there is no way Amy’s house could be in Austin. That grass is way…[Read more]

    • “This year’s Network Responsibility Index revealed that in the 2014-2015 TV season, we can expect to see 31 bisexual female characters and 44 lesbian characters, as opposed as 12 bisexual male characters and 82 gay male characters. WEIRD, HUH? Almost as if Television simply prefers humans who are into men, in general.”

      I’m confused by this.…[Read more]

      • But majority of those lesbian characters are showed to be sexually attracted to men.

      • Besides, I think that the way they portrayed Amy doesn’t crush but strengthens damaging stereotypes about queer women’s sexuality.

        Putting the fact they lied to fans about Amy being lesbian aside, she was showed to be completely disinterested in guys before. Oliver made her feel nothing. But then, after having sex with Liam (which, as Covington…[Read more]

        • tru.
          It’s so disheartening.
          I remember when I was in middle school, not out, didn’t know any other queer kids, I’d watch any show featuring young lesbians (really anything with subtext tbh). To see someone on screen that I thought I could see myself in, and then to have that taken away was not a good feeling. They’re really not doing anything…[Read more]

        • yeah, you’re totally right. It was poorly handled and is probably more damaging than good. I should have thought it through some more. I actually forgot all about Oliver from last season. Thanks for that reply.

    • God, I hated this episode. Bring on Laverne Cox already.

    • Yes yes yes, all of this. This week’s episode was offensive in lots of different ways (mostly just racist though. Very racist).

      I was disappointed with the Amy having feels for a guy thing too – I felt it was forced and I disliked that it played out through the lens of Karma and what Karma thought. I would like to see Amy exploring her…[Read more]

    • Who even let this episode out of the gate? Like, if the writers were okay with it is ENOUGH of an issue for me (credibility wise) but there’s a lot of people involved in these things. Whoever thought this was good quality entertainment, on par with the previous episodes, and would continue to secure a bright future for the show, obviously…[Read more]

    • Autostraddle is saving TV, basically. Zero percent chance I would watch this without the promise of recaps <3

    • “Sometimes it feels like the message is: women are never enough.” Yes, this. I’ve never managed to articulate it so clearly, but that’s definitely a sentiment I’ve run up against time and time again in real life as well as on TV.

      I was really rooting for this show, but this episode disappointed me on SO MANY levels with the racism and general…[Read more]

      • I think they intended for Shane kissing Karma to be interpreted as Shane wondering “How have both Amy AND Liam fallen so crazy in love with Karma? Who ARE you? Some magical human being whom everyone is attracted to, defying the laws of how the universe works? Nope, those two are just weirdly obsessed with Karma”. But it could too easily come off…[Read more]

    • Covington made it clear in recent interview that indeed the fact Amy couldn’t help her body responding to men was the reason why she had sex with Liam:

    • So they lied to and gaybaited lesbian fans:

      “I don’t know about Karma’s path, but for Amy, she is a lesbian, and Carter and I talked about that. We don’t want it to be a tease, we don’t want people to feel like they can relate to this vulnerable process that she’s going through, and they can relate to this girl because she’s a lesbian and then…[Read more]

      • I feel like there’s a clash between how Rita approaches Amy (which makes more sense) and how the writers are trying to structure Amy which is awful and forced and gross.

    • I’m with you, Riese. I also like and enjoy this show, even if it’s the unpopular opinion.

      I know they’ve said that Amy is currently questioning and exploring her sexuality. But I used to have a solid prediction about which way they will go when they finally do “bust out the label maker” for Amy. And now I can’t seem to figure it out. During…[Read more]

      • “she feels more of a sexual attraction to guys and more of an emotional attraction to girls.”

        Which is really terrible, typical desexualization of queer female sexuality in its same-sex aspect.

        • Oops, now I realize that I meant to say “more of a ROMANTIC attraction to girls”.

          • I don’t think it changes anything. Like I noted above, it strengthens damaging notions that queer women’s same-sex attractions are more emotional in nature because all women do is to cuddle and talk about feelings, while when it comes to attraction to men, it’s raw, real, strong sexual lust, because it leads to procreation, which desexualizes…[Read more]

          • But to make things clear, I agree that’s what the show’s doing, I don’t call you out for your interpretation, which I think is, unfortunately, correct.

          • I think the show has made it clear that Amy’s sexually attracted to Karma. She gets uncomfortable when Karma undresses and she admitted (at least by not denying) fantasizing about her while mastrubating.

            I don’t think the convo in the bathroom was meant to mean Amy wasn’t sexually attracted to girls, but that sometimes she’s attracted to guys…[Read more]

          • Annie, now IMO it looks like she’s much more strongly turned on by men than women – it’s men in general that wake “Sexual Hulk” up in her, that’s why she couldn’t resist having sex with Liam despite disliking him when she was drunk (confirmed by Covington), while when it comes to women, it’s only Karma, girl she’s in love with.

            They had chance…[Read more]

    • “Sometimes it feels like the message is: women are never enough.” Exactly. And it’s so ironic that women are told this about other women. Because men are told that women are more than enough for them, women are everything! What a double standard.

    • There is such a thing as having different sexual and romantic orientations, I doubt the writers would go there, but it’d be nice. I only know this show from these recaps, but it seems like Amy could be a homoromantic bisexual, (she was excited about the threesome for the sex with Karma right?) or with fluid sexuality this could just be a small thing.

      • And? How does anything you said negate Riese’s point or the fact that the people from the show lied to us saying that Amy is lesbian: “but for Amy, she is a lesbian, and Carter and I talked about that”.

    • “Sometimes it feels like the message is: women are never enough.” Well, in a world where men are considered subjects and active agents while women are considered passive objects of male pleasure, it follows naturally that men can afford to disregard women entirely if not attracted to or amused by them, while women on the other hand, given their…[Read more]

    • This episode felt like it was written by the staff at Saved By The Bell. Deliberately insulting. Which is a bummer, I’d really been enjoying the show and giving them the benefit of the doubt.

      That said, the final image of Liam saying he has to tell Karma and then the shot of Amy/Karma best-friending-it-up gleefully on the Ferris Wheel did at…[Read more]

    • Yeah, I understand the anger over lesbian-bating because that is a totally arguable point. I just want to say that as a lesbian-identified person who sometimes has superficial feelings for guys, I had a mini-happy dance when Amy said she feels the same way. This little nuance to a lesbian identity is hardly ever talked about or held up as…[Read more]

      • “This little nuance to a lesbian identity is hardly ever talked about or held up as something that is ok to feel”

        It’s completely the opposite. It’s hard to find a lesbian character that isn’t sexually attracted to men. Just few days ago on “Hell on Wheels” lesbian character started sleeping with a man, being obviously entranced by lust for…[Read more]

      • Yeah, at this point, I’m willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. Amy is in the middle of a journey of self-discovery, and until we reach the end and find out the answer to the question of how she identifies (whether she’s lesbian or bisexual), I’m going to hold off on passing major judgement. Because Amy could easily end up being a lesbian,…[Read more]

      • Pretty much every lesbian character on television has that “nuance to a lesbian identity”. The true anomaly is the lesbian on tv who doesn’t experience feelings, even superfificial, for a guy. As for the identity is her own thing, that reminds me of political lesbians who would call themselves lesbians while having sex with men all the time and…[Read more]

    • I actually really identified with Amy’s my body reacts but my mind doesn’t bit. Like just because you are physically into guys doesn’t mean you aren’t a lesbian romantically. For me as like a super-gay I used to feel really upset and that I couldn’t identify as a lesbian whenever I saw a guy and got feels, but then I realized it was just my body…[Read more]

      • oops just realized this is exactly what Zoe said above me but ya :)

      • But you’re aware that there are popular damaging homophobic stereotypes that lesbian women “deep down need d***” and they’re not “truly gay”, like gay men are, something that also stands behind sexual harassment and even “corrective” rapes, and that, just like Riese pointed out, overwhelming majority of queer female characters (including lesbian…[Read more]

    • Seeing comments from lesbian identified women who are sexually attracted to men and condone this kind of portrayal I just wanted to say this. I’m corrective rape survivor. That I, in loose translation, just need to be f***ed good to start liking men was something I’ve heard when that happened. Whenever I see yet another portrayal of lesbian…[Read more]

      • I certainly did not mean to invalidate your experience, corrective rape is a violent patriarchal act and I hope nothing I say would every condone it.

        However I don’t think that my identity as a “sexually fluid lesbian who is also sometimes attracted to men” invalidates your identity as a “lesbian who is only every attracted to women.” This…[Read more]

        • You and I claim the same label, but your and mine feelings are contradictory.
          You want your experiences as a lesbian who’s attracted to men be considered valid, which, because of popular homophobic stereotypes that say pretty much the same, works against women like me, since example of women like you is used as an argument for our…[Read more]

          • This could not be said better Amelia. Television, at this time, is giving viewers two types of lesbians. There is the lesbian who is sexually attracted to men and the lesbian who dies to assist in the plotlines for straight people. One of the major reasons the former is pushed on viewers is that there seems to be a hesitance by sites to call…[Read more]

          • I would like to say thank you for your thoughts and comments. For a long time I kept reconsidering how well identifying myself as lesbian suited me because I do experience sexual attraction to men and I’ve had some enjoyable experiences with them.
            Your comment, along with a couple of other recent experiences has made me reconsider my “label” and…[Read more]

        • And if you’re speaking about “sexual fluidity”, I recommend to read the book of the person who created that term and theory, Lisa M. Diamond. Because in the concept of sexuality she formed on conclusions from her longitudinal research, “sexually fluid lesbian” is not a woman who’s sexually attracted to men and women but emotionally prefers women.…[Read more]

    • I never watched faking it again after the season 1 finale but riese’s recaps made me want to comment.

      For the Tv Gods aka Producers, Did you guys know there is a sexuality named bisexuality? But, It’s evident to say that you guys are fixed on the idea of creating characters like amy. I’m not hating on you guys. I just want to let you know.

    • 1. This episode was so ridiculously racist. seriously what the fuck, MTV.

      2. I really genuinely love the show – mostly because I relate so much to Amy. I relate to the occasionally-being-turned-on-by-men thing (which definitely happened more in high school than it does now) and I relate to the having-drunk-boring-sex-with-men thing and to the…[Read more]

      • Amelia replied 1 week ago

        “(Also it feels relevant in this conversation to mention stats on queer women and sexual assault- bi women are at a much higher risk of sexual violence than lesbians and straight women. “Additionally, nearly half of all bisexual women and one in eight lesbian women have experienced rape in their…[Read more]

    • Also can we talk about how Shane as a character is such a great portrayal of white cis gay men? Like he’s so horribly racist and misogynistic and he acts like he can just kiss Karma without her permission (and it seems against her will) and get away with it because he’s gay so obviously his touching a woman’s body without her consent is ok… and…[Read more]

    • All I wanted was for Amy to be a real lesbian, that’s it. They couldn’t give it to me. I love you Shane, but not even you can keep me watching this show after they confirmed her bisexuality. I’m out. I’m tired of this storyline.

    • I did want to comment on everyone else’s responses of the racism.

      The whole show is essentially a caricature; a humorously skewed version of everything like how the school isn’t exactly like most high schools we’d think of. They poke fun at many attributes of American teens and families. I actually think it was more of a parody of how…[Read more]

      • Jessie replied 1 week ago

        THIS. It’s so obviously over the top to me that I have no idea how anyone could not see it as a parody of the way American’s, or at least the American media, imagine a whole group of people to be.

    • “Have you noticed that all their friendship rituals seem like, kinda affected and youngish?” Totally agree. How old are these girls supposed to be? When I was a teenager my friends and I bonded by drinking lots of cheap booze, going on road trips and skipping class to go to the beach. They act like they’re 12.

      • Thank you! I mean maybe I watch too much Skins but I was one of the best behaved most academically serious most sober kids I knew in high school and we did a lot more drinking / breaking into hotel pools or pretty much anywhere / drugs / sex / smoking at all night diners / watching movies for grown ups / generally fucking shit up / than these kids…[Read more]

      • I don’t know if it was because I didn’t have a BFF, I went to a boarding school as a day student, or because I was super boring but my high school socialization mainly consisted of eating food, watching TV or movies, and occasional afterschool hangouts in nearby woods and fields where we mostly just talked about feelings and emotions before we had…[Read more]

    • This episode was so painful to watch. Bringing in the Brazilians was such a lazy plot device, the racism was disgusting, I almost gave up at the sunscreen scene.

      Amy deserves so much more than a half-hearted rebound with a hot chick with whom she can’t even communicate. And we deserve so much more than another sexually confused girl who can’t…[Read more]

    • As a brazilian… Just no. Nope. This episode was so racist I couldn’t bear to watch. (Also, those banners were in spanish and what language were they speaking? Because there’s no way in hell that was brazilian portuguese)

    • Theory re: Amy attraction to men.
      Amy was thinking so hard about Karma when she had sex with Liam that she was turned on during sex, not by Liam but by Karma. So she kind of finds men sexually attractive though a weird lampy, Karma related thought process.

      Yep, it is a shit theory but it beats “Here have a lesbian character, psyche! She is…[Read more]

  • Hey, have we told you lately how we love you? Is it too soon? Would it be better if we just said that we REALLY REALLY REALLY LIKE YOU? Or that maybe we don’t know that much, but we know this much is true: we are […]

  • ThumbnailGLAAD’s annual “Where We Are on TV” and “Network Responsibility Index” reports intend to serve as a barometer for progress in LGBTQ representation on American television, and this year’s reports, as usual, reflect […]

    • So stoked for some of these shows. I’m really enjoying brooklyn nine nine and gotham

    • I really love this list! There’s also Carmilla on Youtube where I believe pretty much all of the characters are lesbian as well as half the cast.

      • I am waiting with baited breath for the Autostraddle spotlight on Carmilla, where I can flail about my endless joy at this perfect little gem of a webseries’s existence in the comment section with everyone else.

        (Because seriously, you guys. This show is flawless besides the disappointing absence of queer folk of color. *crosses fingers that…[Read more]

        • Carmilla is so awesome. I really wish more people knew about it. I do wish that they had more POC but it really is a good show and the main character Lauren reminds me of the girl from Faking It.

          • Sorry to correct, but the main character in Carmilla is Laura. The character in Faking It is Lauren. Don’t worry, I’ve made that mistake myself at least once in my tags.

            (I’m really sorry I’m so obsessed with this show.)

        • Ahhhhh this is the best thing to happen to YouTube since cats were invented!! I’ve watched it three times now, and got my girlfriend addicted to it too! IT’S JUST SO GOOD AAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

          Who of the cast is also queer?? I’m guessing LaFontaine and Danny, but who else??

          Also, double-yes to anticipating Autostraddle’s coverage and…[Read more]

          • Carmilla’s actress, Natasha Negovanlis, and LaFontaine’s actress, Kaitlyn Alexander, have both confirmed themselves as queer. No word yet on Danny’s actress, Sharon Belle (she doesn’t have a Twitter). However, Natasha also said that she estimates at least 50% of the cast/crew/production team of Carmilla is queer, so that’s also thrilling.

            In…[Read more]

          • Yesssssssss, that’s fantastic!! And I only found out the other day that they’re Canadian which just makes my love triple.

            I really, really hope that they release a DVD set or have merch available soon because I will throw so much money at them!

    • Leanne is queer? What did I miss?

      • season 2, episode 6 (i.e. The Poussey Episode), Leanne says, “I had a thing once with my boss at Long John Silver. Then I found out his wife was wicked hot.”

        • Wow I totally missed that.

        • I interpreted that as her being flattered he would cheat on a hot wife with her! Rather than that there was anything going on with the wife. If she was queer it would be strange she would have taken Pennsatucky’s side in all the homophobic laundry rants of season 1.

          • Yeah, I didn’t see anything queer about the comment either. I see how it could be interpreted that way, but it wouldn’t really make sense in context.

    • I think that GLAAD’s reports are pretty far down the path of irrelevance if they (among other things) don’t take streaming services into account. It’s clear that some of the most noteworthy LGBT-inclusive TV programming is happening on streaming services, and original content from these sources will only grow in relevance as time goes on.…[Read more]

    • I really wish queer would stop being used as an umbrella term for all lgbtq people.

    • Who’s the one in the sheet music shirt? I’ll watch that show.

    • Omg, I will never stop watching tv now. Also, very sad and very unsurprised about the continued lack of trans* character on network tv. Good to see that GLAAD is making it more of a factor.

      Also, Transparent is SO good so far that it is the thing that has finally convinced me to start my Prime trial.

    • CBC is playing Janet King, an ABC (Australian Broadcasting Corporation) series, who’s main character is a lesbian (but white, cis, able bodied) but not sure how much of the show will focus on her sexuality and her relationship with her wife as only one episode has been aired. CBC also has an original TV show airing tonight called Strange Empire,…[Read more]

      • Kelsey, I can tell you that Janet King’s sexuality/relationship does feature strongly, but generally only has 1-4 mins of domestic scenes each episode.

        That said (and no spoilers) there is a developing storyline throughout the series.

        It’s an excellent show btw.

        (I’m an aussie)

    • House of Lies has two additional trans characters, Don Cheadle’s character’s pansexual, genderfluid child Roscoe and Roscoe’s love interest (as of early-ish in season three) Lex, also played by Bex Taylor-Klaus. AFAIK, Roscoe isn’t explicitly trans-identified, but Lex is and Roscoe’s gender identity does come up

      Marty: Hey, so, Lex? Boy or…[Read more]

    • It’s ‘interesting’ how generally the only demographics where representation of women surpasses the representation of men, are the demographics which are most easily sexualized, or sensationalized. (i.e. bisexual women, and trans women)

    • Killing Shay on Chicago Fire was the dumbest decision. I was such a Chi Fire addict, but I’m free now. On a male-dominated show they killed off one of two women – and that’s after killing or writing off 3 other women – and then replaced her with some boring straight lookalike as a future love interest. So annoyed. >:[

      • I’m still not over this. It was bad enough they killed her off but then to add this new blonde STRAIGHT woman is so transparent. I didn’t read anything about who was being killed off and I was naive to think they wouldn’t kill off one of only two women but then when it happened I was like, yea actually it’s not so surprising with this show’s track…[Read more]

        • I know, I was naive too. The writers “reasoning” for this was so stupid. They wanted to kill a character who affected the most people? Uh, kill the chief, kill the guy with a wife, kids, and co-ownership of the bar, kill Severide or Casey…. Ugh it drives me nuts and I haven’t seen any outcry about how this show seems to think women are so…[Read more]

          • Exactly! I watch too many supernatural shows because I was like there has to be a way she isn’t really dead but nope, soap opera magic would work too though haha. The writer’s reasoning actually pissed me off more because they seem clueless or unconcerned as to what kinds of tropes they fed into by killing her off.

    • I watched a bit of The Strain which just so happened to have in Dutch and she gets asked men or women and she answers something to the effect of: complicated relationships that end disastrously.

      So uh my betting money would be on bisexual. >_>

      Which is validly homo to me, bi the way, just got a vibe we’re only going to see her get a man if…[Read more]

    • Okay I realize this is 100% my fault and I’m mad at myself, not you, Riese…but I’m only part of the way through season 4 of Pretty Little Liars and I’m really upset about that thing I just read about a certain character who they killed off!!! Ugh. This is just proving to me that I need to rethink my priorities. Maybe I should have caught up on…[Read more]

    • Definitely on the verge of tears with that Leslie Shay spoiler there. I can’t handle this right now. You can find me in the chocolate aisle at Walgreens.

    • There are also Abby and Elodie on WGN’s (yes they apparently have scripted original dramas now?) Manhattan, which is about the Manhattan Project. I think it’s the best show on TV right now that no one is watching, and I’m surprised that I haven’t seen a ton of it floating around tumblr or other fandom-y parts of the Internet since WWII + queer…[Read more]

      • Haha, we literally made the same comment at the same time. Oopsy. Posted mine before the site refreshed with yours.

    • Rachel Brosnahan (Rachel Posner from House of Cards) also plays a not yet labeled but probably bisexual on WGN’s Manhattan (which is a pretty good show.) She’s been sleeping with a woman for the last couple of episodes.

    • Wow thank you for compiling this! What a great breakdown.

    • On previous episode of “Hell on Wheels” lesbian character Louise had sex with a man, which was initially forced, but she quickly reciprocated and started enjoying it and in next episode that aired few days ago, she’s showed to come back for more sex to him. The man even said that he turned her.

      • :sad panda face:

      • I need the names and pictures of the writers for both those episodes so I can ritualistically burn them in effigy, but it’s not the right time of year.
        Yet.

    • East Los High is SO GOOD. It’s the first show I can really think of that manages to pull off awesome soapiness at the same time as being really responsible. And Jocelyn is the cutest little lesbian.

    • It king of bugs me how you guys refer to all these characters as “queer.” Queer is literally a slur–and yes I get that people can reclaim slurs INDIVIDUALLY–but referring to all these characters (and real people in other articles) as “queer” just makes me uncomfortable. Is it really that hard to just say LGBT?

    • It kind of bugs me how you guys refer to all these characters as “queer.” Queer is literally a slur–and yes I get that people can reclaim slurs INDIVIDUALLY–but referring to all these characters (and real people in other articles) as “queer” just makes me uncomfortable. Is it really that hard to just say LGBT?

      • Well, this is true in someways but not in others. True, queer can be and is still considered a slur by many folks, and true it is used as a personal identifier for some folks(and not others), but false it is not reclaimed on a purely individual basis. I think it’s valid to critique the use of Queer as an umbrella term for people who do not…[Read more]

    • Black Sails better not let me down again. They demolished Max and Eleanor. If I don´t see some Anne Bonny and Max time I will be one angry lesbian. I will be one angry black lesbian *growls*.

    • Thanks for putting this list together! Good to know which shows I should check out this tv season :)

      One quick correction: Almighty Johnsons isn’t canceled here in the U.S. – it originally aired in New Zealand and was canceled last December after 3 seasons, but now those seasons are airing on Syfy on Fridays (and, as far as I’m aware, they plan…[Read more]

    • Not a queer lady, but there is another trans character on TV in Tony on Orphan Black. There’s even a scene where one cis person corrects another cis person on Tony’s pronouns. My heart was warm.

    • I’m curious now in retrospect if Sara Lance was left out of this article accidentally, or if Autostraddle had an advance peek or spoiler knowledge of the events of the season premiere last night. My partner and I had thought it was odd at the time reading this that Sara was left off the list even though Nyssa was mentioned. This morning, that…[Read more]

    • Do we know whether there will be a season 3 of The Fosters?

    • Thash replied 1 week ago

      Entirely unprepared for the little bit about Shay being killed off! Why, Autostraddle, why?! *sobs*

    • April replied 1 week ago

      I could be wrong, but I thought that the whole storyline involving the “lesbian” having sex with the guy at the end of the “Faking It” season one was only because she had been drinking and didn’t really know what she was doing, and she was still confused about her sexuality and technically still “in the closet” to herself. Even though she was…[Read more]

    • What about Stahma from Defiance?

  • HELLO and welcome to the 147th installment of Things I Read That I Love, wherein I share with you some of the longer-form journalism/essays I’ve read recently so that you can read them too and we can all know more […]

    • That Zimmerman Family one was a weird read. I’m Canadian and while I followed George Zimmerman’s trial (and was infuriated by its verdict), I haven’t heard much else about him and definitely nothing about his strange clan. George and his siblings seem to have been adrift for the last decade and are clinging to the aftermath of “The Incident” as…[Read more]

      • Yeah like…they get to have a dead son and donations, you get to have a living (unimprisoned!) son and no donations…wanna trade?

    • I got really attached to the word ‘problematic’ around 2002 (in my early 20s) largely because it was a way of softening criticism for the sake of diplomacy when dealing with people who shut down when you say, call racism or white supremacy for what it is. It has the potential to describe those grey areas that aren’t intentionally/obviously fucked…[Read more]

    • I did not expect to cry but then I read the words: “When a pretty girl is raped, it’s a tragedy, and when a fat woman is raped, she should be grateful” all I could think about is a friend from childhood how very close that phrase is to what her rapist told her.

      And then all I can think about is the attempted stranger rape that occurred a…[Read more]

    • That Paula Deen article was wickedly sassy but also really thoughtful towards the end. It’s now my second favorite cruise ship essay after the DFW masterpiece shared in this column a while back.

  • ThumbnailWelcome to the second recap of the second season of Faking It, an educational television program for children from the same network that brought you The Pauly D Project.

    We open in the avant-garde […]

    • What is worse, that I think Lauren is my fave or that I could PAINFULLY relate to the Amy and Karma situation from this episode?

    • Ugh, so close with that kiss!

      I saw on tumblr someone being all “Karma’s tshirt is covered in arrows and Amy’s is covered in holes this is significant” and now I want to look for symbolism in EVERY costume (obviously the #karmy tshirts are kind of…obvious.)

      • Oh man, I remember reading into the outfit coordinations with Quinn and Rachel on Glee………………..siiiiiigh those were the days.

    • Amy’s trying-not-to-cry face is the actual worst. It’s like my heart time travels back to high school and I feel all of those hopeless-crush-on-my-best-friend feelings all over again.

    • when will this show not be boring

    • I really like this series, but honestly my favorite thing about it is reading your captions! Perfect as always

    • This recap is hilarious and I lol at this show/enjoy it. It kind of hurts my insides to relive all this shit from high school/crushing on the friend though??

    • Amy’s overalls and striped shirt outfit at the beginning was very cute and awesomely gay. And her expression when Karma took off her shirt was spot-on perfection.

      I though it was kinda eerie just how closely the characters and the plotlines from Faking It mirror those of the Twilight series. And I loved how they got all meta and snuck in an OTP…[Read more]

    • Also, once I was at the bridal or baby shower of a close family friend, and my friends and their cousins played Truth or Dare, and they totally Dared me to also drink a greenish-brown glass of a gross combo of random stuff, but I wouldn’t do it. I don’t remember what the punishment for that was (I was called a chicken and I had to answer two…[Read more]

      • I tried reading the After Ellen recaps, and I can’t anymore. I get more out of these recaps, and feel that over in After Ellen they are looking for what to nitpick on purpose.

        That being said, I my sleepovers in highschool had more UNO and drinking! We always got bored with truth or dare…

      • I feel like sometimes the lies reveal just as much as a truth would? like if nobody would believe your lie than you may as well tell the truth. i think the risk of lying is that IF EVERYBODY LIES, THE WHOLE MOVEMENT SINKS

        • Yeah, the ideal way for it to work is that you only resort to lying for the few big secrets that you absolutely don’t want anyone else to know (Lauren, Amy, and Karma are the perfect example of this) and only when you don’t want to be dared to do something like drink inedible green goo liquid. It’s like, you’re not hooked up to a lie detector…[Read more]

    • I tried reading the After Ellen recaps, and I can’t anymore. I get more out of these recaps, and feel that over in After Ellen they are looking for what to nitpick on purpose.

      That being said, I my sleepovers in highschool had more UNO and drinking! We always got bored with truth or dare…

      • AfterEllen is always the worst. Yesterday someone sent me a link to a recent and thoroughly disturbing piece over there about femmes that made me want to tear my hair out.

    • I love this show, but it quickly went straight (pardon the pun) back to being boring after the first episode of the season. The Karma/Liam tension is mundane and overly drawn-out and literally nobody cares about them, the end.

      Side note: it really annoys me that the one Asian person in the show is a ditzy prop rather than an actual character.…[Read more]

    • and once again, i must add yet another lesbian-themed show to my I WANTED YOU TO BE GOOD BUT YOU ARE SO NOT GOOD list. the list groweth.

    • JESUS joseph and mary, I cannot watch this show without wanting to straight up immolate Liam. What an entitled douche.

      “Oh hey, I’m mad at you because you didn’t totally OUT THIS GIRL to me while she was in the process of discovering her sexuality”

      When, ironically, Shane totally did? I mean, they all started the season under the impression…[Read more]

    • On the one hand, outing an intersex person during Truth or Dare is not acceptable even if she’s being a jerk.
      On the other hand, Karma’s general kindness to Amy is actually heartwarming in that it indicates that straight girls have come a long way since I was in Amy’s position.

    • I have to say though I am getting bored with the lack of girls making out, I am happy that though Karma doesn’t really know how to handle Amy being in love with her, she tells her straight up she isn’t into her like that, and doesn’t string her along.

      Also, if we could have more captions of Amy bragging about her mad sex skillz, that would make my day.

    • Caption game is en pointe today, Riese. Excellent work, as usual :)

    • “KARMA STRUGGLES TO FIGHT OFF THE GHOST TRYING TO EAT HER HEAD”

      And this is when I died from the brilliance. Riese, these captions were PHENOMENAL, good job.

      I kinda feel like this episode was just a giant waste of time? I mean, I love Lauren exponentially with each episode, but the whole side-plot with the dudes was totally boring and…[Read more]

    • In case anyone on this site didn’t already know: when you fall in love with your straight best friend and then tell her and then you stay friends even though you’re crawling out of your skin to be around her….. in real life it’s not resolved in one damn chat at the end of an episode. And the hardest part is not any one particular moment, it’s…[Read more]

  • HELLO and welcome to the 146th installment of Things I Read That I Love, wherein I share with you some of the longer-form journalism/essays I’ve read recently so that you can read them too and we can all know more […]

    • I’m gonna admit that I didn’t read the whole Slack article, but I just wanted to say that the AS team should try it! You don’t have to pay for Slack! There’s a free version which is free for as long as you want for unlimited users! So yeah. I had never heard of Slack until this past summer, when two projects/jobs I was involved in started using…[Read more]

      • I was about to say this as well, as someone who convinced my office to start using Slack this summer and is now loving it.

        HOWEVER I took another look at the pricing plan and remembered that the free version only archives 10,000 messages, which might be a downside for the AS team. Having access to conversations you had 6+ months ago is pretty…[Read more]

        • We use Skype now — but it seems like a lot of the features are only accessible with a paid account? And our team has like, a BILLION people in it.

          • We just started using Slack in the office – it’s fantastic. Seriously. It’s chatting, direct messaging, groups, and integrated with a bunch of services, and its free to use for as long as you want to use it with as many users as you want. I particularly like the desktop app that you can download. It pings you when you get a message with an…[Read more]

    • The Source Of All Things article is heartbreaking.

      • Honestly I couldn’t bring myself to read it. Not in a good place for it this week. Your comment that it’s heartbreaking only confirms that decision.

      • I guess it’s a whole book, too…

    • Loved ‘Without You I’m Nothing’, the piece about rock star wives. Create feminist spaces everywhere!

  • ThumbnailWelcome to the first recap of the second season of Faking It, a delightful and horrifying television program from the network that brought you Trailer Fabulous. Last night while I was celebrating my 33rd birthday […]

    • “I would’ve wrapped that sucker in duct tape and then tissue paper and then a boring magazine and then a plastic bag and then probably a burlap sack before disposing of it in a garbage can 25 miles out of town.”

      My girlfriend and I were laughing our heads off the whole time we read this! I’m not sure if I am more excited for faking it to be…[Read more]

    • I think this might be my favorite recap you’ve ever done! Truly, it is a masterpiece.

    • FINALLY! I was seriously waiting for the recap all day. I tried watching an episode last season and just couldn’t, so for now I’m settling for your recaps and my best friend’s immediate reactions.

      I hated the cliche tv lesbian ending they gave Amy last season, but I am happy where they are going with it. I can relate to her for this, coming out…[Read more]

      • that is a very apt metaphor

      • I was about to post a comment saying basically the same thing. Why cringe through an entire episode when the AS recaps are SOOOOO much better?

        As for Amy I think full blown “what have I done? O.o” rocking in the corner is the only way forward but this is MTV.

    • Wait is Buffalo Exchange a real thing?? Sounds like an extremely important establishment that I should know about.

      • Yes! It’s like a resale clothing store, the first one I went to was in Williamsburg (Brooklyn) and now I live in Berkeley and there’s one here too. In Michigan they had the same kind of store but it was called Plato’s Closet and also there was a Rag-o-Rama once. So you sell them your lightly worn clothes if they are in perfect condition and…[Read more]

      • i am sad to report it is a real thing, i was employed there for like two months and it was the fucking WORST

        0/10, would not recommend

    • Aw, Riese, I love how much you care about me and my trans headcanons.

      Also, I just want to make sure that people know that:
      1. Even though I’m embarrassingly sad that Lauren isn’t trans, I’m extremely happy that there’s what so far seems like positive representation for intersex people on TV.

      And 2. I’d actually been praying that she was…[Read more]

    • “But it’s also quite possible that Amy, as a freshly out-to-herself queer with zero lesbian friends, might just genuinely wonder if the fact that she was able to sleep with a boy and not hate it, in and of itself, means that she’s not all-the-way-gay. (It doesn’t.)”

      Amy, sweetie, it took me a couple years (or maybe like 7?) to figure this out. …[Read more]

    • I want a show all about Lauren and Amy. And also, I feel like Karma and Liam have aged 3 years over the summer? What’s up with that?

    • this show says lesbians so many times. maybe if it was on when I was in high school I wouldn’t have winced every time I heard the word.

      PROGRESS

      • Somebody needs to do a ‘lesbians’ supercut a la Samuel L Jackson and ‘motherf*cker’…

    • The only way I can get through Faking It episodes is because of the fast forward option. I’m so glad I can skip past Karma’s singing and any scenes with Liam.

    • Is there some place online to watch season one for free?

    • Yay recaps! I’ve missed these!
      Am I the only one that actually likes Karma? I see a lot of 15 year old me in her and I think aside from being a bit hair-brained and not really knowing what she wants she seemed like the most normal/least horrible person in this episode. (Pablo doesn’t count, he’s there to be Lauren and Shane’s shoulder angel and…[Read more]

    • Riese, just, thank you. So much. Thank you so much that I can know what’s happening without having to watch this.

    • WHY DONT PEOPLE IN TELEVISION EVER TAKE CARE OF THEIR TRASH??? IT WILL BE YOUR DOWNFALL.

    • I’m just relieved someone else shared my outrage re:the plan b box situation

    • Don’t engage in filmed content – but have been doing these recaps all evening. Riese, you make great television!!

    • “But it’s also quite possible that Amy, as a freshly out-to-herself queer with zero lesbian friends, might just genuinely wonder if the fact that she was able to sleep with a boy and not hate it, in and of itself, means that she’s not all-the-way-gay. (It doesn’t.)”

      I think that would be really damaging message given the popular homophobic…[Read more]

      • I’m not sure what it is in my statement that you’re disagreeing with? where did i say that sleeping with a man would make somebody not gay? i said that amy could very well be 100% gay but could ERRONEOUSLY believe that being able to sleep with a guy is evidence that she’s not 100% gay. i said amy might ERRONEOUSLY believe in the statement you’re…[Read more]

        • Riese, I’m sorry for offending you. I meant that if she ends up as a lesbian (and after Rita Volk’s statement that Amy is gay, anything other would make it the most vicious example of gaybaiting), and it would be implied, or just left unanswered, that she enjoyed sex with the Lesbian Conqueror, then it would suggest what I wrote, perpetuate…[Read more]

      • I think a lot of what Amy is going through in terms of being able to have sex with a guy and not HATE it reflects a lot of what I (and probably many) went through in discovering my sexuality. In a society that doesn’t really talk about how sex should feel emotionally or even physically in a POSITIVE way, I had no idea that my ability to have sex…[Read more]

        • I agree (and we also don’t know if she liked it or not, but I can’t help but remember her Season 1 metaphors comparing kissing Liam to something pretty good [maybe there was bird involved? I'm blanking] versus the 1000x even-better-than-that kiss with Karma — that resonated with me a lot).

          And I sympathize completely with the need for more…[Read more]

          • I wonder, if it’s “not this story”, then what makes Faking It better than such NBC Dracula?

          • “I agree (and we also don’t know if she liked it or not, but I can’t help but remember her Season 1 metaphors comparing kissing Liam to something pretty good [maybe there was bird involved? I'm blanking] versus the 1000x even-better-than-that kiss with Karma — that resonated with me a lot).”

            That was the exact dialogue:

            Amy: It was like… you…[Read more]

        • Almost the exact same plotline, of lesbian hurt by woman she loved and sleeping with her man, happened not long ago in NBC Dracula. The difference is that Dracula’s creator apologized and said something very important – the lesbian was supposed to look traumatized by the sex, instead during executution of the episode, against the intention of…[Read more]

          • I guess it’s just hard for me to really come down too hard on it since the show hasn’t told us that Amy liked it. And Amy herself has not yet identified herself as a lesbian, so it feels like we’re judging it based on a comment by the showrunner rather than the story we’re actually seeing, which is that she hasn’t come to that realization fully at…[Read more]

          • Weez, but if she is lesbian (and since Rita Volk said she is, it would be slap in the face if in the end she would turn out to be anything else), then the fact she hasnt’t yet figured it out doesn’t negate anything that happened to that point.

            AE has close relations to the show’s cast since they and MTV belong to the same parent company and…[Read more]

      • I really hate how when you have gay men talking about their sexuality versus lesbians talking about their sexuality, the lesbians have to go above and beyond to validate men. Like they’ll have a gay man kiss/have some form of intimacy with a women and hell be all “Ew.Nope. I’m good. I like the mens.” Whereas they’ll have a lesbian be intimate with…[Read more]

        • i totally agree with you and i feel like the existence of that double standard is just straight-up misogyny.

          • And pandering to the male gaze, too. It’s easy not to turn off your straight male viewers by having conventionally beautiful feminine lesbians who also don’t think men are gross. Caters to that fantasy, big-time.

            But they’re sitting pretty with their female viewers, so they can totally have their gay boys be grossed out by the ladies and not…[Read more]

    • My most pressing concern: why doesn’t anyone ever call these things Riese-caps?

    • i actually really like this show? how it oscillates between really campy and weirdly true to life.

      • Totally agree. With the whole kidnapping thing, at first I was thinking “Ohhhhh no, that’s not okay” and then I remembered I was not watching realism. Despite many realistic emotions and character arcs and relationship in the larger sense.

        (I mean let’s face it, the very premise — “just be a lesbian and you’re automatically popular!” — is a…[Read more]

      • yeah i like it! it’s funny and cute.

    • Can we talk about how Amy’s “I have a softball bat under my bed” is the gayest possible response to her mother’s suggestion that she “use protection”?

    • Oh my God SO glad for the recycling joke – my first thought (before WHO is daft enough to leave that kind of thing in the bathroom bin?) was “BUT…BUT…BUT recycling!” :p I think that irked me more than anything else in the episode…

    • Also AfterThought is SUCH an ugly name for emergency contraception :(

    • Does Amy’s mom know that Lauren was born intersex? I’m assuming her dad told her but I don’t know.

  • ThumbnailWelcome to the review and recap of what will hopefully be the first season of Words With Girls, a show created by our very own Brittani Nichols and brought to us here today by ColorCreative.tv, an initiative […]

    • It is important to my health that this show continue.

    • in addition to buying becca a car charger i would also like to petition to buy everyone in the cast some nice pajamas because there was a lot of sleeping in jeans in this episode and it made me sad.

    • I already wrote up all my thoughts and feelings about the pilot in the Open Thread about it (before I read this even). I would just like to say, however, that this was a most excellent and satisfying recap. And also the picture captions were even more amazing than usual.

      I think, Riese, that if you got hired by like The A.V. Club or something…[Read more]

      • Oh girl, I’m not writing about tv here because I couldn’t get a job doing so elsewhere / haven’t had offers, I’m here because I own this ship to the tune of 80 hours a week, love you weirdos (team and readers alike) and wanna make a difference in this silly world! And possibly because I’m a masochist determined to make my life as complicated as…[Read more]

        • Oh, I took your employability as, you know, an amazing writer to be a given, and I know how much (at least to the extent that you’ve talked about it on the site) of yourself you have put into the miracle that is Autostraddle.

          I was just musing that if it eventually became too much, reading your excellent thoughts in other publications would…[Read more]

    • Wait so in California you can buy whiskey at the grocery store??? That’s amazing.

      Also Riese your captions made the Words With Girls pilot even better which I didn’t know was possible.

    • I am *immediately* in love with this show and all its characters and want it to live forever (or at least to see another episode soon.)

    • I really really need there to be an episode two recap. Meaning I really really need there to be an episode two. Rarely do I enjoy a pilot so much, especially on the very first watch. Yay Brittani!

    • also a v. atmospherically apt Mal Blum song while the airplane whooshes across the night sky.

    • “don’t hate crime me, but also, not welcoming any male suitors.”

      Welp, I think they just described my “look”. Now I feel sad and amused at the same time.

      Which is to say, this show’s comedy is is spot-on.

    • “Pace wants to check and see if Erica got in okay, which always drives me nuts because listen, if her flight did not get in okay, it would be on the news. Whenever a well-meaning friend is like, “text me so I know you got in okay,” I’m like, “if we crash, I’m sure it’ll be on twitter.””

      CAN SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN THIS TO MY MUM KTHX

      and oh…[Read more]

    • just wanted to express my public support for car chargers AND THIS PHENOMENAL RECAP OF THIS PHENOMENAL SHOW!!!

    • “oh, girl.” is right. that shit hit me right in the feels.

    • My girlfriend and I watched this tonight and our favorite part was when Aspen plugs Pace’s phone in after tucking her drunk ass in.
      A) That’s such a good and thoughtful thing for a friend to do!
      B) Also, great writing! If only Aspen’s girlfriend’s had someone with her at that party who cared enough to help her charge her phone.

      Please let…[Read more]

    • I am learning something new about lesbians and it is that we are all pretty interested in phone charging.

  • HELLO and welcome to the 145th installment of Things I Read That I Love, wherein I share with you some of the longer-form journalism/essays I’ve read recently so that you can read them too and we can all know more about XXX! This “column” is less feminist/queer focused than the rest of the site because when something is feminist/queer focused, I…[Read more]

    • The title for the military sexual-assault article in the tab I just opened is called ‘Son, Men Don’t Get Raped’, which puts the article in a different light I guess?

    • Sara replied 1 month ago

      Every single week I wait for this post and it never fails to impress me!

    • I was reading that article about the prison industrial complex and the profiteering of private of probation services at work and I got so angry I had to go take deep breaths in the corner to calm down.

      Looking forward to the rest of these, especially the depression & sobriety one.

    • I am also really looking forward to “The Big Stigma of Being Depressed and Sober,” mostly because I am those things, and I’d love to hear how someone else views it. I’d promise to report back here when I’m done reading it, but admittedly my TIRTIL list is weeks long and I usually get to a piece a month or two later, and by then you all will be gone.

      • But we want to know! And I am ticking the box to get email notification when there are new comments, so if you do share your thoughts when you get to it at one person will see it. :)

    • Thank you so much for including my Bold Italic article on this list! I’m so flattered and I hope you enjoy it. Please share with anyone struggling with similar issues who you think might benefit from reading it. -Katie MacBride

    • The Rebecca Brown piece is layers, layers of exquisite. Thanks so much for introducing me to a now-necessary writer’s work.

    • Surprised that death of adulthood piece didn’t mention Obvious Child, which, though I don’t think it passed the Bechdel test, was so friggin’ funny and was also called Obvious Child. Dunno how much more appropriate it could have been for this author’s argument. Still, I really enjoyed that piece.

  • feature image by shutterstock

    As you’ve maybe figured out by now, sex is sort of hilarious. You’re both naked with all your meat and cheese out there in the open air, you’re rolling around pawing at each other like animals on a bed or smashed into a bar bathroom or precariously threatening the composure of your sofa cushions. You’re…[Read more]

    • This heavily vintage list is bringing back awkward memories of listening to CD’s for sex music because MP3s were not a thing yet. And that terrible moment when your Ani or Etheridge CD started skipping and wouldn’t stop and couldn’t be ignored.

      Full disclosure: I once banged to a Godsmack CD. OK, more than once. Yes, I am ashamed.

      • Al replied 1 month ago

        An acquaintance of mines from HS use to play Godsmack, Black Sabbath, and/or the band he was in during such activities.

        • I had an ex who would play Alice in Chains. Every time. I still can’t listen to that band nearly a decade later.

      • Weez replied 1 month ago

        I still don’t use mp3s and continue to have this issue — not the skipping, but just when the record or CD ends and things get reeeeeally quiet.

        Awkward.

        Especially for my neighbors.

    • once i had sex to the entirety of a taylor swift album (i think it was speak now? it’s hazy) and i still feel kind of angry about it

      also thank you riese for this important public service

    • I was really worried there would be some crossover with my actual sex playlist here. I am so relieved to discover that I’m not that tacky…yet.

    • Wait. Is Eye of the Tiger about sexy times? This is news to me…

    • challenge accepted.

    • Alex replied 1 month ago

      I would rather bang to any of these compared to the jam which I lost my virginity to-“Out Here Grindin.” Because nothing says romance like air sirens and DJ KHALED.

    • Ruric replied 1 month ago

      What?? No “Birthday Sex”? But it’s been the soundtrack to some of my tackier sex dreams for a good year now.
      And “Sex on Fire” just gives me life.
      Are we serious about this list? Next you’ll tell me “Like a Virgin” is a no go as well?

    • Gigi replied 1 month ago

      I was a little disappointed not to see “Fuck the Pain Away”

    • Is that a stock image? Where did you find it? Cause it’s perfect.

    • Oh no oh no oh no oh no oh no.

      I could not survive this playlist while having sex with just MYSELF, let alone another person.

      I did not expect to feel this uncomfortable after reading this.

    • Al replied 1 month ago

      I dunno that list is missing R. Kelly’s other song, Your Body’s Callin. Also no Back that Azz up, or Mystikal’s Shake Ya Ass?

      And how This is How we Do It a sex song? He talks about South Central, and a few other places.

      • Riese replied 1 month ago

        um yup, good point re: this is how we do it
        i think we just wanted to hear that one line over and over

        • Ava replied 1 month ago

          I feel like nobody knows any of the other words to that song. We’d all just be like, “Mmmrmmmrmrmrmmrr THIS IS HOW WE DO IT.”

    • Alex replied 1 month ago

      I once had a customer tell me that “Nothing gets the ladies hot like Hinder’s ‘Lips of an Angel.'” I’ve never had this proven to me.

      • Sarah replied 1 month ago

        I’m taking that as a personal challenge to find out whether or not that’s true. For science.

        (Advance apologies to my gf.)

    • Ha sexy time ;)

    • Can anyone else confirm that “How Does It Feel” is, in fact, a sexy song? I’m now questioning everything in my life. Then again, I un-ironically had a lot of sex to Justin Bieber’s last album (and I’m 28), so.

      • Because his last album (ok the first half) is sooo good. I did a couple non-ironic strip teases for my gf at the time from that album. I’m 31. Kill me.

    • Ava replied 1 month ago

      This is amazing. I would also add 2 Live Crew “Me So Horny” and this gem:

      Mousse T. feat. Hot ‘n’ Juicy – Horny ’98

      During my very brief stint as a person who went to clubs (circa 1998, obvs), this song was in heavy rotation. I’m only a little bit ashamed to admit that I still know most of the lyrics.

      Also whenever I hear Color Me Badd I…[Read more]

      • Hat replied 1 month ago

        Thank you for reminding me that Mousse T existed. Oh god my brain burns.

    • You put it on spotify and I’m obsessed with you. Can we listen to this with dinner? Be over in 20. Like literally I’m leaving my house.

      • Riese replied 1 month ago

        wish i could put a gif of abby’s facial expression when she realized she’d put the wrong version of “my neck, my back (Lick It)” on the playlist

    • I just laughed harder than I’ve laughed in a long time.

    • The couple who lived above my first apartment after college used to have huge arguments and then loud sex, once to Bloodhound Gang’s “The Bad Touch” on repeat.

    • omfg I just had the most vivid flashback to watching the music video for George Michael’s “I want your sex” on mtv at a youth group lock-in ??

    • Some of these are DEFINITELY on my actual sex playlists and i am completely unashamed.
      And aw man, hardcore nostalgia for peaches n cream by 112. I used to sing along to that song when it was on the radio when i was a kid and therefore completely oblivious the the not even subtle sexualness of the song…

    • Lex replied 1 month ago

      Okay this list is great, but which song is the best for making someone’s genitals dance to or sing along? There are just too many good options, someone please help me narrow this down.

    • Thanks for the laugh!!! Seriously!

      There is NO way I could make it through even the first ten. I would just be laughing way too hard.

    • My ex and I used to have sex to contemporary christian music because we were taking this queer theology class together and like, also because it was ridiculous and if sex can’t be a little hilarious/sacrilegious, why have it?!

      but also, I have played pony during sex before. but now all i can think of is lil sebastian when i hear it.

      • Also also I’m currently casually sleeping with an almost 40 year old and they love when bump and grind plays so it’s definitely on my sex playlist in real life.

    • One of my past (very past) boyfriends unironically tried to sex me while playing Nine Inch Nail’s “Closer”. He didn’t get very far.

      (This same boyfriend later painted an amateurish picture of me tied up in chains surrounded by demons. Needless to say, he very soon thereafter became my ex.)

      • RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG

        Seriously, um, that painting sounds super weird.

      • Unless you are into demon BDSM. In which case, cool. (But it sounds like this was not a fantasy you expressed to him)

        • I mean, bondage and aggressively sexual music definitely can have its place with the right person in the right situation, but this wasn’t like that. Red flag in this case for sure.

      • Lex replied 1 month ago

        Oh ho ho, I had that very song stuck in my head this one time in religion class. It was both awkward and hot.
        Sorry about your experience tho, that does not sound fun and this is from a kinky person.

    • Woops, I would have no problem whatsoever with Prince, All-4-One, or Usher. And *especially* not with Pony. Pony is high art.

    • Leigh replied 1 month ago

      This one time I was having sexy times with all of my music playing on shuffle and Rockwell’s Somebody’s Watching Me came on. Lesson learned. Always have a playlist.

    • Lex replied 1 month ago

      Oh hey, what about Danger! High Voltage by Electric Six?

      (I may pushed a person into a wall while making out with them to this song or maybe I pinned them to something? Just remember kissing hard, grabbing, rubbing and shoving…um TMI…)

    • Try the DVD menu music for Tom Goes To The Mayor.

    • Evey replied 1 month ago

      I’m a little bit disappointed that Yakkity Sax isn’t on here. Because that is pretty much impossible.

    • If you want corny Savage Garden sex songs, try “Universe”. That’s how I learnt the word “caress”.

      *still a fangirl, but oh man*

    • Now filled with an urge to make my own playlist like this, put it on without telling my gf, and see how far we get… :’)

    • Hat replied 1 month ago

      I would like to add Love fool by the cardigans to this list. As well as anything by the Vengaboys…or anything from the 90s/early 00s at all.

    • Hat replied 1 month ago

      Wait…i thought of a worse one… If you’re not the one by Daniel Bedingfield.

    • Mel replied 1 month ago

      I’d have too much fun laughing and lip synching to the entire 90s portion of this list to actually make it through sex. Bloody brilliant list.

    • I had sex for the first time while listening to Belle and Sabastian. “If You’re Feeling Sinister”, if I remember correctly.
      I’ve been going about things all wrong. So many sexy time jamz!

      • Riese replied 1 month ago

        awww! i love belle and sebastian. people don’t talk about them enough anymore

    • lol omg the cheese overkill. then again, my personal choice (except the occasions of Tori/Sarah Mclachlan, which happen) is Switchblade Symphony and Apop – so what do i know?

    • I

    • I feel like this is a good time to point out that the minx that is Abbey May somehow made Pony sexier…

      Also, I logged in for the first time in forever to share that… I hope it is appreciated!

    • I drunkenly blared ‘I Just Had Sex’ by The Lonely Island right after the first time having sex with my first official girlfriend. She was not impressed.

      The girl I was hooking up with before that, however, used to like to play MC Hammer’s ‘U Can’t Touch This,’ which always seemed a bit counterintuitive to me.

    • I would have you know that sexytimes with music by “Sade” have been scientifically proven to be better!
      As a girl of the nineties, I very much approve of this list, but am sorely mssing 50 Cents.
      Also, Shaggy’s “Boomtastic” is a grave oversight, imho. Nothing brings all the girls to the yard, like some Mr.Vroomvroom.
      That said, a gf a long…[Read more]

    • Any other members of the narrow demographpic of folks born circa 1990 to teenage parents super freaked out by the 90’s contingent? I have so many childhood associations with wildly inappropriate music. Salt N Pepa just makes me think about my mom, her convertible, menthol cigarettes, and summer. Seal is all about the year the batman movie came…[Read more]

    • This article reminds me of a HORRIBLE song called ‘My Girl Gotta Girlfriend’. Not remembering who the artist is at the moment, but….damn. Bad times. Real bad times….

    • Savi replied 1 month ago

      I’m surprised not to see sexy back by JT

    • K guys, this is great and all, but I’m looking for some real sexy time song suggestions. What cha got? (Um, not that I’m getting laid these days. But I masterbate! Hey-yo!)

      • The Weeknd, “Often”…FKA twigs, “Two Weeks”…anything by Banks (start with “This Is What It Feels Like”). I’m curious what everyone else is fucking to now…collaborative Autostraddle sex playlist, anyone?

    • This is clearly a lesbian playlist. Straight girls must get very confused looking at how long it is.

    • Oh noooooooooooo! NOOOOOOOOOO!

  • henricks-gin-artwork2Gin: some people like it, but a lot of people really don’t like it. According to our annual Autostraddle Reader survey, only 3% of you folks cited gin as your primary alcoholic beverage of choice, making it second-to-last amongst preferred alcohols (Tequila came in with 2%). Somehow, the topic of gin came up in our Office E-Mail Reply-All the…[Read more]

    • Mary replied 1 month ago

      I am usually ambivalent about the things that people are supposed to either love or hate! On one hand, gin is delicious in a gin and tonic in the summertime with cucumber. On the other hand, once I drank too much gin and then the next morning I puked my guts up in the bathroom of a fancy brunch place. The lady in the next stall was very…[Read more]

    • Anna replied 1 month ago

      I love me some gin, but WOW those are some stories! It seems like gin can be a pretty divisive spirit, but I suppose it only takes one bad experience to ruin things. On a related note, I can no longer even look at bottles of UV vodka.

      Gin isn’t my first go-to liquor (that would be single malt Scotch), but I *love* an expertly-mixed Tanqueray…[Read more]

      • what even IS uv vodka? is it meant to be drunk by humans? i ordered it at a bar once because it was the only vodka option and then i felt really angry that i paid money for it.

      • ahahah, there’s like a quarter of a bottle of that shit that’s been sitting on my desk here for the last six months. Blue Raspberry.

    • Senka replied 1 month ago

      Gin and tonics are my favorite, go-to drink at a bar. Extra points when they have Tanqueray Rangpur.

    • Gin is made from juniper berries pooped out by angels, masticated by unicorns, fermented in Gaia’s womb, and distilled through rainbows.

    • Leigh replied 1 month ago

      I really like gin. Gin and tonic is my go to “I’m at a shitty or unfamiliar bar and am unsure if this bartender knows how to mix a good cocktail” because it’s impossible to fuck up a gin and tonic TOO badly. That said, cheap gin is the worst. You have to at least go middle of road.
      The first time I got really hammered was on five o’clock gin…[Read more]

    • Gin is the WORST, but for some reason I took a trip to NYC and ordered multiple $10 Tom Collins. I was trying to fit in with these hip, writer types and felt fancy as fuck, but it was still the worsttttttttt!!!

      Also, can we talk about Judy Funnie and her ALH?!?!?!

    • Jenna replied 1 month ago

      Okay, I love gin…I mean, it’s in my username. I feel like enough of anything will lead to insane drunken stories though. I think the only crazy gin story I have is one in which I went to a bar, ordered a Hendricks gimlet, and the bartender gave me a pint glass full of gin with a lime wedge. I mean it was literally just gin and ice in there. I…[Read more]

    • I like gin, especially gin and tonics.. You you aren’t a fan of the whole christmas-tree taste, try New Amsterdam Gin. It isn’t near as heavy on the juniper and tastes more citrus-y.

    • kate replied 1 month ago

      Hendricks and tonic is my ultimate fancy lady summer beverage. Also any not so delicious gin and tonic can be made better by adding a tiny bit of elderflower cordial to it. Mmmm.

    • I spent a couple minutes puzzled in front of ”my friend brought a bottle of gin in a Poland spring bottle to first period computers” because I couldn’t imagine that America gave special computers to bleed on, but then thought for a minute and came up with an elaborate backstory like ‘Ah, liquid courage for facing a puberty info computer…[Read more]

    • I guess I just like pine flavored beverages, see also: IPA’s.

      Gin & Tonics are like a deep cleansing breath of crisp mountain air on a sweltering summer afternoon.

    • Kala replied 1 month ago

      That Hendrix ad is the best!
      I LOVE gin! I was having really nasty hangovers and a friend tipped me off that tonic has tons of sugar in it, so I drink gin and soda and no more hangovers… Well, usually ha I feel like gin is a flavor like cilantro, you love it or HATE it. I like floral, earthy, soapy flavors :)

    • Al replied 1 month ago

      I’m partially to Tom Collins though that name is starting to sound a bit too straight for my taste. And the though of Christina Hendricks gin, mmmm. Not sure about others here but Bombay sapphire is nice as is the higher proof, extra filtered gin.

    • Lydia replied 1 month ago

      Not all gin tastes like trees or Pine-Sol. If you actually don’t want to drink trees/cleaning liquid, try American gins, which tend to use less juniper and more not juniper in their botanical flavor profile than English gins.

    • Casey replied 1 month ago

      One time I drank lots of gin and also tequila at a theatre party at Cornell (I went to Ithaca College), when I was a freshman. I ended up ugly crying at this kid who knew the girl I was in (unrequited) love with in high school, and confessing a bunch of shit about it to him. I think it was probably the first time I came out to someone actually? …[Read more]

    • Dina replied 1 month ago

      Gin is delicious, especially in fruity cocktails! My wife had a bad gin experience that involved orange juice and tater tots, but I’m trying to recruit her to Team Gin.

      Tequila, on the other hand… nooooope.

    • No, gin is the best.

    • I invented a cocktail called Desperation. All it is is gin and tap water. Try it, you’ll like it.

    • While I don’t have any horror stories about Gin, I do have to say that I’m not a big fan of it, and have yet to find a gin drink that I like.

      Then again, I didn’t start drinking until I was 21, and didn’t begin more seriously drinking until I was about 23 (I’m 24 now).

    • Teo replied 1 month ago

      GIN IS THE WORST. And Kaitlyn, do you remember last year when I went to that sailing open bar and drank gin and tonics? I blacked out (I’m convinced I’m actually allergic to something) and ended up 2 miles away somewhere near rush hospital. Also it was during that storm the governor called an emergency for…. I came home and just cried on Sarah’s…[Read more]

    • So the first time I ever ordered a drink in a bar, I was panicking because I didn’t really know /how/, all I could think of were these embarrassingly-named cocktails like “Sex on the Beach”, so I ordered the first thing that didn’t have “Sex” or “Nipple” in the name and it was a gin and tonic. I was very pleasantly surprised to find I liked it a…[Read more]

    • I had a cabin mate at camp who LOVED gin and tonic and I had some during the staff reading and it got SWELTERING in the room so I stepped out for fresh air and felt the whole entire camp spin. I downed water and found my cabin mate to be EXTREMELY HAPPY when we finally hit KlubDeer.

      In college I’m pretty sure I had gin all the time. It had the…[Read more]

    • So I guess gin isn’t the worst but I guess it isn’t the best either. But it does make for a lot of stories! =D

    • Gin is not the worst you guys.

    • Kayli replied 1 month ago

      Did ya’ll even notice you spelled tumbler “tumblr” the first time?? hahaha
      My gin story: When I was a young teen my older brother got 3 water bottles. All completely unmarked, 1 was vodka, 1 was gin, and 1 was… something else clear. I don’t remember much about that night other than the fact that I knew I didn’t want to drink “that tree shit,”…[Read more]

      • Riese replied 1 month ago

        Did ya’ll even notice you spelled tumbler “tumblr” the first time?? hahaha

        oh wow

    • Personally I dig it’s weird pine needles flavor but I feel compelled to point out that the common denominator across all these stories isn’t just drinking gin, it’s drinking MASSIVE QUANTITIES of gin.

      Causative relation? You decide.

      Because I don’t know shit about drinking. I have never had more than three drinks in a night and between the…[Read more]

    • Wait I love gin. Especially with a clever berry mixer. Though too much of it can lead to some poor choices.

    • E replied 1 month ago

      I am all about respecting everyone’s personal tastes but HOW HOW HOW is tequila not everyone most favorite booze? I mean yes, gin, delicious, I love you, my dad makes badass gin cocktails and everyone has a great time, but…TEQUILA.

      • Sarah replied 1 month ago

        I second the tequila love! I was always afraid of it (on account of my brother had terrible luck with tequila) but then I tried it and was like “THIS TASTES LIKE MAGICAL RIVER PEBBLES” and it’s been love ever since.

      • thirded, tequila 4ever

      • tequilaaaaaaaaa! i feel like everyone side-eyes it because that one time they did too many tequila shots at some frat boy’s probably racist cinco de mayo party. or because all they’ve ever drank is some nasty-ass cuervo gold. whatever. more for us! 1800 + grapefruit juice + salt rim = heaven

      • Weez replied 1 month ago

        I’d be a 40-year-old virgin right now if it weren’t for tequila! God bless it.

    • Gin and tonic is totally my go-to at any bar/restaurant that only serves IPAs (which in Minnesota is basically all of them, because evidently people here like the taste of copper and piss).

      I think my only gin story is that in the millions of times that I got drunk with my best friend, her husband and I (who were both the gin drinkers) tried…[Read more]

    • Ivy replied 1 month ago

      This post was making me sorta sad because I didn’t think I had a fun gin story, but then I remembered when I was in the midst of my glorious ill-fated long-distance relationship with my first and to-date only girlfriend I drank about half a bottle of gin at my friend’s house and then sat in the bathroom with her while she threw up casually…[Read more]

    • Kasey replied 1 month ago

      I quite enjoy gin! It tastes fresh and clean. But I also don’t have any gin horror stories.

    • My roomate asked me to mop the floor, and while I was able to scrub it with hot water and a towel, I was unable to find any cleaning fluid in my house. But there was Gin in the kitchen, because I had been heartlessly left with a girls entire College Alcohol Learning Experience on my counter. I liberally sprinkled it about the floor, and the…[Read more]

    • Leni replied 1 month ago

      I have a passionate love for gin, & I’ve recently turned my girlfriend on to the stuff. – it makes me really proud that she’s less likely to order a vodka and cranberry now that she can order a gin ricky or gin gimlet.

      Anyway,there are so many different, delightful types with so many varied flavors, and my favorite classic cocktails are…[Read more]

    • I’m just thinking of that song which has a rap and a country version, ‘sippin’ on gin and juice’. Why can’t I remember where on earth I heard that song and who sings it?

      I love gin. I danced with my gf’s ex who I hated at the time when I was drunk on gin martinis. Such are the powers of gin.

      • “Rollin’ down the street, smokin’ endo, sippin’ on gin and juice…with my mind on my money, and my money on my mind.” Snoop Dogg’s breakout hit, anthem of my college years, though I did not like gin at the time.

    • Robin replied 1 month ago

      I love gin. I love whisky. Tequila is ok. I hate vodka except in bloody marys. I hate ipa and chardonnay.

      Story: Once I had a cat that died unexpectedly and after we buried her beside my friend’s apartment by the lake I quickly poured myself some of his roommate’s gin, with roommate’s permission. But then I finished the bottle. When he tried…[Read more]

      • Leni replied 1 month ago

        Bloody Marys are approximately 75 times better with gin. Just saying…

    • My story is not interesting enough to be told. All I can add is that when I was living in a smaller city (Santo Domingo forever, yeah!) I only ordered gin when it was really late because it was the only thing I was sure was the real deal based on the fact that NOBODY ELSE SEEMED TO LIKE IT.

    • I use to love tanqueray and Canada Dry back in my college days. I would say Seagrams definitely taste like pine sol. But this article definitely makes me wanna go try a gin and tonic I’ve never had one!

    • Once I drank a lot of gin and my lovely also gin-drunk scottish friend spent a great deal of the night telling me that Hendricks is proper fucking wedding gin. I videoed it, because it was great.

      Then a bunch of people jumped in the pool. We were at a wedding. Maybe we were at my wedding. Some of the less drunk adults were seriously concerned…[Read more]

    • Beth replied 1 month ago

      Gin is my favourite.

      Though I was once banned from drinking it for several years by my closest friends. I would always end up in tears stumbling home from [xxx queer disco] alone without telling anyone, or telling everyone that I knew they secretly hated me. Etc.

      But those were dark days. I’m past all that now.

      TEAM GIN!

    • Leigh replied 1 month ago

      I always take gin with me to house parties. It’s one of the perks of liking gin. You won’t have to fight to make sure that you get any of the booze you brought because so many people don’t like it. But you are guaranteed to make friends with that one other person at the party who’s like, “OMG, gin!” Then you drink with that person all night.…[Read more]

      • Beth replied 1 month ago

        Love it.

      • Karen replied 1 month ago

        Yes. So many time yes. This was the only way I survived the really dark point in my life when I was in my mid-twenties and going to parties with undergrads because I had just moved to a new state and was underemployed and my 21-year-old coworkers were the only people I knew. No one wanted to touch my Tanqueray.

    • Gin and Tonic in summer and a good single malt in winter. Absolutely Devine!
      I don’t have gin horror story but I did have a very unfortunate experience with Scotch,when I was trying to get passed the last bit of really lousy behavior that my last gf perpetrated against me. I’d been having a pity party with the scotch, lamenting my rotten choise…[Read more]

    • Love is like a bottle of Gin, but a bottle of Gin is not like love!

      All the lessons you need to learn about consuming Gin is laid out in this song…

      I am must limit myself to two gin and tonics on a night out as it makes me angry drunk which is not pleasant for anyone involved…..i speak way too…[Read more]

    • Mer replied 1 month ago

      Can we talk about how gin tastes like scotch tape and how I kinda love that about it?

    • omg but i love gin! if I HAVE to drink a clear liquor, it’s definitely gonna be gin. Vodka will always make me feel like that too drunk girl at the first house party of the semester, plus you have to buy really expensive vodka for it to not be the worst decision of your life (smirnoff is satan). And then tequila–or as I call it, te-kill ya–is…[Read more]

    • Fiona replied 1 month ago

      Gin + sugar + rosehip tea + hot water = a divine sunset cocktail.

      I should probably mention my friends and I do this when watching the sun go down on the top of a mountain in Slovenia during summer. Otherwise I don’t often like gin. But I’ve never tried a gin and tonic.

    • chris replied 1 month ago

      i presently have on my desk a bottle of delicious Monkey 47 Schwarzwald gin, and Fever Tree tonic water – also yes, this is an ad agency

    • gin reminds me of my grandma Gerry making inappropriate comments about the nearest person’s rear-end.
      also, this article made me piss myself with laughter.

    • My boyfriend bought me a bottle of gin and one of tonic water yesterday because he had a party and someone finished my old bottle. It’s hot and I’m working from home. I’m strongly considering cracking them open, but since it’s 4:50pm I probably should wait a bit. And we don’t have limes, so it would sort of be a waste of time.

      Thanks for the…[Read more]

    • Gin is the best. Sipsmiths forever.

    • gin may be the worst, but y’all are decidedly the best

      I tried some gin cocktail yrs ago with a friend’s parents made with this purple liqueur that tasted even more like potpourri than the gin itself:
      it was like drinking the essence your great aunt’s house, the one who had a cabinet of those collectible spoons and gave you a fun refrigerator…[Read more]

    • Ric replied 1 month ago

      after a night out last weekend, i awoke to discover i had acquired two new items of clothing and a bottle of cheap gin. i have no idea where it came from or who gave it to me. i feel a significant gin story may be a-lurkin round the corner.

    • I don’t like gin, which is not very surprising because I don’t like most alcoholic beverages. When the situation requires it, like if someone’s making a toast, I just take one or two sips, but other than that, I hardly ever drink. TBH, I have a hard time understanding how people consume so much of this stuff, considering most booze tastes awful…[Read more]

    • “I don’t remember.” Often said the day after a sloe gin bender. However a memorable awakening saw me in a different set of clothes to what I wore previously, a traffic cone over my head and no recollection of the previous night. I’m surprised my liver still functions after three years of temporary alcoholism.

    • Gin is ginerally the best. Li-me tell you.

    • In high school I once started the night with a water bottle that was like half gin and half tonic water and I woke up in the morning on the floor, with my laptop open to this page http://sciencegeist.net/i-love-gin-and-tonics/ presumably having googled “I love gin and tonics.” Science!

    • I LOVE DOGZZZZZ YES YES

    • Lo, Ethereal and Greylock of the Berkshires, oh sweet, sweet Cold River, dear Leopold, you king of kings, dear older brother Martin Miller, Terroir isn’t just for wine – St. George is a fine distiller, and if you must there’s always Hendrick’s, and Boodles is a ladykiller.

      GIN FOR THE WIN.

    • I have a remedy for those of y’all who think gin is the worst. It’s called a French 69/Chelsea Darling (I mean, helloooo) and you need to make yourself one and sit on a porch. Gin, champagne, and fresh lime. It makes you f-ing delightful.

    • Hahaha this is like the story sharing thread of my dreams. In this current stage of my life, I enjoy gin but have to be in the right mood for it. During my college life, I was a participant in our shadow showing of the Rocky Horror Picture Show. I went on to be the organizer/director for two years, but during my first year with the show I was the…[Read more]

    • my oldest memories of gin are camping and sharing a tent with my best friend and his girlfriend (who had a secret crush on me) and drinking it mixed with dr. pepper. when i woke up the next morning i got to listen to her giving him a blow job as i stayed quiet and pretended to still be asleep.

    • renne replied 1 month ago

      gin is glorious, i feel so much less like a boozehound (and more like an adult) if i go home after work and drink a g&t than a vodka with literally anything.

    • Ok because tequila has been popping up in the comments I feel a need to share a certain story which if you personally know me…you will know the person in said story.

      So in college (an excellent start to the story) aside from gin we liked having tequila. Finals had just ended and the plan was drinking at my house. The plan was like 10 people.…[Read more]

      • And that is my infamous tequila story. Its my favorite drinking memory/story.

      • Lex replied 1 month ago

        Two words: colgate wisps.
        And as a child sufferer of stomach migranes, wicker baskets and ultra thin plastic trash liners are the devil.

        Also um holy shit puke and bare skin ouch, what the fuck but not many people know puke as intimately as I do and she was drunk.
        Still *shivers*

    • Tasha replied 1 month ago

      I thoroughly enjoy G+Ts with lots of lime. It’s my go to. Like most folks have said, you can’t mess it up out at a new bar. The best gin drink I’ve ever had was at FarmacIa in old city, they make an incredible gin, elderberry, champagne concoction that goes great with any of their brunch. Also, where else can you get 1/2 price fancy brunch drinks…[Read more]

    • As a long-time gin drinker I can guarantee that all these hangovers are coming from tonic. Tonic is the devil.

      • Weez replied 1 month ago

        Definitely. For me, gin is the least hangover-inducing of all the boozes. It’s also the most likely to keep me relatively clear-headed (and full-memoried) even if I overdo it a bit.

    • Tasha replied 1 month ago

      ” Lydia: This conversation makes me want a delicious gin based beverage. Also, I can almost understand the Pine-sol comparison. Still gonna drink it.”

      This sums up my feelings perfectly!

    • Trucy replied 1 month ago

      I swear someone at work had gin-scented cigarettes (I sit right next to the door to the smoking area) and I decided I both wanted and deserved to have gin tonight. I mixed it with orange dry. I ALSO LIKE IT with regular orange soda, grapefruit juice, pomegranate dry (the best), coffee, and straight. So I was texting my friend and she asked me if I…[Read more]

    • Karen replied 1 month ago

      I started drinking gin because I really got into M*A*S*H one summer. And then I ran out of seasons of that show and just kept on drinking all the gin.

      Also, it helps that I’ve never been hungover from gin and, weirdly enough, usually wake up after a gin night feeling super alert morning person-y. In contrast, vodka makes me tired and rum makes…[Read more]

    • Whenever I think of gin, I think of this car I used to drive that had a lot of weird quirks. For example, sometimes it wouldn’t start when it was really cold outside. As a freshman I was at the queer college student conference in upstate New York in February and I had driven my group of friends to the conference because I was the only one with a…[Read more]

    • One time, my best friend drank 5 gin and tonics at a happy HOUR (literally an hour…) and proceeded to kill a half handle of some kind of gin afterwards. She prized herself on whipping up some guacamole for her guests and decides the secret ingrident is cinnamon. Proceeds to eat more than half of it, ruthlessly concerned when it is all gone. Then…[Read more]

    • This confuses me, because I started drinking gin & tonics when I saw that a hot older lesbian I looked up to/ was into did, and since then I’ve always just assumed that’s what the cool lesbians drank.

      It’s still my go-to in gay bars because whiskey is dangerous and g&ts are like juniper juicewater.

  • Well this week kicks off what’s certain to be a groundbreaking fall television season, chock-full of racially diverse casts and pioneering explorations of gender identity. Lesbian representation isn’t exactly fantastic, however, especially with Pretty Little Liars and The Fosters not returning full-force until 2015 and Glee‘s premiere date TBA,…[Read more]

    • Beck replied 1 month ago

      wow, i really had no idea about a lot of these shows, so i’m definitely going to be looking back to this article a lot! out of the ones i did know of, i got especially excited about the idea of transparent, but the fact that the main character is played by a cis dude is kinda rubbing me the wrong way. as a nb person, i’m super excited to see a…[Read more]

    • Kasey replied 1 month ago

      I kind of want to get Amazon Prime just to support and watch Transparent. This looks like an exciting fall television season!

    • I’m just so excited for The Walking Dead and Faking It. Like I’ve been screaming how excited I am at my family for the last few weeks.

      • I’m right there with you, I can’t wait for this season to begin!

    • Anna replied 1 month ago

      I’m cautiously optimistic about “Faking It”. I think they’re walking a fine line, but I’ve enjoyed the show so far.

      If season 2 steps in it, I can always console myself by re-watching season 1 of OITNB.

    • C.P. replied 1 month ago

      I am so unreasonably excited for a Grey’s Anatomy recap on Autostraddle! YAY YAY YAY YAY!

      • Me too!!!
        Yay for lesbians who happen to be adults!

      • Yeah I am also a rare queer who super enjoys Grey’s Anatomy even though she knows it’s probably awful… D:

      • @carmensandiego Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for requesting this recap! <3 I started watching Grey's Anatomy this past season and I've been catching up on the rest of the series over the summer, so I was just thinking about a month ago that Autostraddle should do Grey's recaps. (Mind twins!) I wanted them so bad that I was almost…[Read more]

    • Erin replied 1 month ago

      Gotham is the new show I’m most excited about. Can’t believe how close it is all of the sudden! And I’m a big fan of Sleepy Hollow! Such kick-ass, gorgeous women in it.

    • I am so excited about How to Get Away With Murder. My TV always needs more Viola Davis.

    • Brooklyn Nine-Nine, yeees! I cannot freaking wait. Also I want Transparent to be good and not do terrible things… -fingers crossed-

      • Sarah replied 1 month ago

        Brooklyn Nine-Nine might be my favorite sitcom of all time. And I may or may not have a huge crush on Rosa :P

      • Brooklyn Nine-Nine is hilarious! The Super Bowl episode was the first time I saw it and I fell in love with it at first watch. The characters are quirky and screwball in the best way.

    • Isn’t that the actress who played Paris on gilmore girls in the how to get away with murder picture. Excited the most for that one and Gotham. I’m cautiously optimistic about AHS but it’s probs gonna be really ableist :/ like the name alone is so awkward

    • Marie replied 1 month ago

      I’m really excited that AHS and Sleepy Hollow are coming back, even though AHS will probably be extremely offensive. I missed that there would be a lesbian detective on Gotham so now I’m even more excited to see it! How to get away with Murder looks cool too plus it has Dean Thomas so I will have to check it out.

      Also, I have been seeing a…[Read more]

      • I still cannot believe there were no students lesbianing together in the Witchcraft Boarding School for Girls

        • Marie replied 1 month ago

          I know, what a waste! I thought they were hinting Misty was gay or something but that didn’t happen

    • So excited for Gotham and How To Get Away With Murder and Scandal and Walking Dead and everything, really. I’ve run out of things to Netflix. Bring on the fall premieres!

    • Awww, you guys! I cannot believe there will be AS Greys recaps!
      I wish Yang was still here to see this… Snif…

      • And just the gay parts so I don’t have to pretend that I care about Karev!
        I always felt that Shonda Rhimes and AS vibed…

        • Yes,I realize I am answering my own comment. That’s how excited I am.

          • C.P. replied 1 month ago

            I will join you in the comment thread, even though you already responded to one of my comments, because that is how excited I am!

            I can’t wait to see you around the recap comments! We will have a party together!! Woot woot.

          • Gabby writing about Miranda Bailey! The recaps will be a thing of beauty

      • I’m joining you two in the Grey’s comment thread party! And at the weekly Shondaland “Thank God It’s Thursday” celebration. I’m so super stoked for this!

    • Allie replied 1 month ago

      Super excited for Faking It! Also I may be naive but I totally did not figure out Lauren’s secret, so I will be interested to see how they handle that *fingers crossed that they don’t royally screw it up*

    • Di replied 1 month ago

      It goes without saying that I’m Kermit flailing in excitement for GOTHAM.

      I’m also excited for Riese’s Faking It recaps since I’ve read all of them but don’t actually watch the show.

      AHS is giving me Geek Love vibes, so it better be really dang awesome.

      And I’m madly in love with Tara who I’m pretty sure is going to die five episodes…[Read more]

      • Oh my GOD for that last!!! YESSSSS

      • Weez replied 1 month ago

        I’d love that so much, since Daryl is basically the official heartthrob of the show. I understand why they don’t do too much romance on the series, but Maggie/Glenn are saccharine and overexposed at this point. Who WOULDN’T go ahead and face their sexuality during the zombie apocalypse? What’s Daryl got to lose?

      • Oh my. Your last sentence is giving me some unexpected pantsfeelings. That was delightfully unexpected.

    • The Blackish pilot is on iTunes for free so I’ve already watched it and stand by my previous statements.

      • bra replied 1 month ago

        YES! I’m so ready for Black-ish because in my head I always wanted to a comedy show about the cost of one’s identity in the pursuit of assimilation into “American culture” whatever that means. But in my head it would be the crazy antics of explaining all the things of being a Nigerian-American family living the suburbs that is so white that it…[Read more]

      • Ava replied 1 month ago

        I watched it tonight and I am definitely in. It was funny and made it’s point without being too preachy, and I’m already in love with the smarty-pants little girl. Also I want a bromitzvah.

    • Alice replied 1 month ago

      I can’t wait for The Good Wife to come back! Last season was amazing. And yes, I will keep you updated about Kalinda (it’s a hard job, but somebody has to do it).
      I don’t know if I’m ready to be offended for the millionth time by Ryan Murphy, but I’ll still watch AHS.. and your recaps will save the show as usual.
      Very very very excited for…[Read more]

      • I’m very excited for The Good Wife too! Last season was the first time I’ve watched an entire season of this show and IT WAS SPECTACULAR. Truly one of the best TV seasons of the year.

        So I’ll also be on Kalinda watch with you! I hope she actually gets a storyline this season and that she gets to date a woman for more than just a few episodes.

        • Alice replied 1 month ago

          Yes, I’m in love with that show! I really hope too that they can finally give a good storyline to Kalinda this season.. it always feels like they don’t know what to do with her. It’s a shame.

          • Have you heard about one of Kalinda’s former lady loves returning? I know for sure that she’ll be in at least one episode, but hopefully she’ll stay for more. (I don’t want to say who or in what episode, in case you don’t know and don’t want to be spoiled.)

          • Alice replied 1 month ago

            Yes, I knew something but I prefer to stay spoiler free for what is possible :) Let’s hope! (at least they can’t do worse than the ex-husband storyline. ugh)

    • I want to see Gotham so badly.

    • recapping the gay parts of grey’s yesssssssssssss (because those are the only parts worth watching.

    • Anna replied 1 month ago

      I don’t watch a ton of TV, but so many of these look so good! I’m excited for Black-ish, Transparent, and Gotham (even though that’s usually not my type of show, it looks pretty cool and I didn’t realize Renee Montoya is a main character!). I’ve been super looking forward to Red Band Society for a while too, I love those…[Read more]

    • Can we just talk about the fact that little Dean Thomas from Harry Potter is all grown up now? I swear that cast will be kids to me forever. He’s so handsome too. He pulled a Neville on us. I hope How to Get Away with Murder makes him a star since he really didn’t get much to do in the HP films.

    • Beck replied 1 month ago

      Sooo pumped for all of these. I’m surprised how legitimately thrilled I am for season two of Faking It, considering how completely grossed out by its premise I was when AS first posted about it. Fingers crossed they don’t fuck up horribly.

    • Sarah replied 1 month ago

      Gotham/Sleepy Hollow double feature on Mondays? HELL yes :D

    • I haven’t regularly watched a network TV show in literally years, but I may have to start. I’ve been meaning to check out “Sleepy Hollow” and “Scandal,” but there are sooo many others in this list I wasn’t aware of. How am I going to get anything done this fall with my TV on all the time?

    • Ava replied 1 month ago

      SO MUCH TV SO LITTLE TIME. (That should be my motto, tbh.)

      I’m excited for a lot of these. How To Get Away With Murder looks amazing, I mean just look at Viola Davis on the poster. Bam.

      I’m super excited for both Faking It and Sleepy Hollow to come back. And I will watch AHS despite the fact that it will probably be offensive as hell…[Read more]

      • I’m pretty sure this is also my unstated motto, since I’m planning on regularly watching TWELVE SHOWS this season. (Though two of those shows don’t come on until the spring and one of the shows is only on in the fall, so that ONLY leaves me 10-11 shows to watch a week.) And that number doesn’t include casually watching a rerun or a PBS show or (my…[Read more]

        • Ava replied 1 month ago

          I just counted how many shows I watch. For now, 4 returning + 4 new that I definitely want to watch. Then I have 4 more that run on different schedules so are on hiatus still, 3 other new ones that I might check out, and 1 that I stopped watching halfway through last season and would like to pick back up. That’s a lot of TV.

    • Amy replied 1 month ago

      Autostraddle should also talk about Parenthood! in the season finale last spring, Hattie came home from college with her “super awesome best friend” and then came out to her parents!

      • Ava replied 1 month ago

        OMG I forgot about Haddie! I hope she is at least somewhat featured in the final season, since I think it’s a short season? I feel like I read that somewhere maybe.

    • This is why I love fall: Sweater season, great TV, good food. READY. FOR. THIS. SO. DAMN READY.

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    HELLO and welcome to the 144th installment of Things I Read That I Love, wherein I share with you some of the longer-form journalism/essays I’ve read recently so that you can […]

    • “We Say No Because We Are Grumpy and Have Not Slept Properly”

      Can someone translate this into latin for me? I need it for my family crest.

    • “Who Gets to Graduate” was a great read. It’d be interesting to see affects of similar interventions on LGBTQ college or high school students.

    • I look forward to this post every week! I always seem to run out of Autostraddle articles and you’ve introduced me to some great writers.

    • Gosh – ‘No’ is full of such wonderful phrasing, bubbling charmingly along (but then I do love sentences that last for days).

      Also now I get to spend the next few days looking forward to ‘States of Desire’ making its way through the post to me, so… thanks!

    • I just had to comment on the Teach for America piece. I’m a corps member and they are just as big a mess as ever. They take very little responsibility for what happens after you get stuck in a mess of a school. I was working without even being on payroll and without insurance, and TFA didn’t intervene (despite emails and calls on my part for…[Read more]

      • And just to add, I still have no clue when I’ll be paid for the time I worked, when I’ll return to school, when I’ll get healthcare, when this will be resolved, or anything. They are a wealthy organization that is stingy and unsupportive when it comes to their corps members.

      • Thanks for both the article and the warning. I’ll remember this next time I have a student interested in TFA. Hope you get paid!

        • Gina replied 1 month ago

          I’m glad I’ve helped one person stay away from TFA. I wish I had listened!

    • Defs my fave series on autostraddle.

      • Jo replied 1 month ago

        I totally agree. I look forward to it every week.

    • I always feel so proud when I’ve already read an article you posted! I really like the article on graduation rates an efforts.

    • The Fear of Missing Out article gave me a lot to think about. I like to think that I’m somewhat immune to it, but it affects me more than I want it to. (But not in the “everyone is doing things and I am not” way, rather, in a “I wish I could do more things” way.)

    • Amor replied 1 month ago

      The piece about rejection letters by Brian Doyle is completely mesmerizing and charming. I had a first draft rejected last week, and have another chance to shape it up and submit it before the end of today and his essay made me feel a lot better… plus it allowed me another 10 minutes of procrastination that felt like research, which is my…[Read more]

    • I am so excited to read the Not-So-Simple Life, every time I say I come from a farm somebody always has to tell me how they’d ~~love~~ to do that.

      Yeah, sure you would. For about a week. And then you’d realize how early 5am is, how haying can only be done during the hottest possible part of the year, why working 7 days a week, 365 days a year…[Read more]

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