Comments on: The Lawless Netherworlds of Gay Relationships in The Ballad of Tila Tequila http://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/ The World's Most Popular Independently-Owned Website for Lesbian, Bisexual and Queer Women Mon, 13 Feb 2012 09:07:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Erdahttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-102814 Erda Wed, 11 May 2011 04:01:01 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-102814 WAY late to the party, but...I was just thinking about Angelina Jolie and how she's bi, and could have ended up with a girl instead - and I don't think it should surprise anyone that she's making the choice she is. I mean, it purely is a matter of a particular set of circumstances (like all relationships are) that Angelina wound up with Brad and not with Jenny or one of her other female partners. It's weirdly unfair that one of those relationships is celebrated and recognized by society, and one isn't. It hits home for us in a way it doesn't with straight people, because we live that difference. It's personal, because we could very easily have wound up on the other end of the line. So I feel that if I were in her shoes, I'd make the same choice. WAY late to the party, but…

I was just thinking about Angelina Jolie and how she’s bi, and could have ended up with a girl instead – and I don’t think it should surprise anyone that she’s making the choice she is. I mean, it purely is a matter of a particular set of circumstances (like all relationships are) that Angelina wound up with Brad and not with Jenny or one of her other female partners. It’s weirdly unfair that one of those relationships is celebrated and recognized by society, and one isn’t. It hits home for us in a way it doesn’t with straight people, because we live that difference. It’s personal, because we could very easily have wound up on the other end of the line. So I feel that if I were in her shoes, I’d make the same choice.

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]]> By: Jadehttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-26591 Jade Sat, 16 Jan 2010 20:40:10 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-26591 I live in South Africa where gay marriage is legal, but that doesn't necessarily make things easier. Its sad, but the courts often give the gays a hard time over legalities and many straight people don't take gay marriages seriously. Making it legal has in no way made it any more socially acceptable. As gay people we are equal on a legal level, but are unfortunately often still looked down upon on a social level. I dream of a future where we can live equally and without judgement, but until then we have to fight to make that dream a reality.On another note, great article Riese. I like how you pointed out that gay and straight relationships both exist with dysfunctionalities and issues, and how a darker side of how people use marriage laws exists. Its an interesting insight into what marriage really means to people these days. It also reminded me of how when Sam Ronson and Lindsay Lohan were together, a lot of people blamed their problems on the fact that they were gay. It was stupid and ignorant, because by turning the page in the same tabloid,one could find a straight couple going through the same crazy shit, yet they chose to ignore it and focus on 'the sins of the gays'. This article raised a lot of good points and proved to be very thought-provoking. Thank you (and sorry for the long-ass comment!) I live in South Africa where gay marriage is legal, but that doesn’t necessarily make things easier. Its sad, but the courts often give the gays a hard time over legalities and many straight people don’t take gay marriages seriously. Making it legal has in no way made it any more socially acceptable. As gay people we are equal on a legal level, but are unfortunately often still looked down upon on a social level. I dream of a future where we can live equally and without judgement, but until then we have to fight to make that dream a reality.

On another note, great article Riese. I like how you pointed out that gay and straight relationships both exist with dysfunctionalities and issues, and how a darker side of how people use marriage laws exists. Its an interesting insight into what marriage really means to people these days. It also reminded me of how when Sam Ronson and Lindsay Lohan were together, a lot of people blamed their problems on the fact that they were gay. It was stupid and ignorant, because by turning the page in the same tabloid,one could find a straight couple going through the same crazy shit, yet they chose to ignore it and focus on ‘the sins of the gays’. This article raised a lot of good points and proved to be very thought-provoking. Thank you (and sorry for the long-ass comment!)

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]]> By: Barbarahttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-26054 Barbara Tue, 12 Jan 2010 23:57:54 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-26054 I have nothing to add to what has already been brilliantly said but I want this article to reach 250 comments, so. I want this article to TAKE OVER THE INTERNET. I have nothing to add to what has already been brilliantly said but I want this article to reach 250 comments, so. I want this article to TAKE OVER THE INTERNET.

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]]> By: Barbarahttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-26053 Barbara Tue, 12 Jan 2010 23:51:01 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-26053 LOL how are we women supposed to WANT to work if we can't marry another woman? Seriously, it makes you realize there's not much to defend about fucking traditional straight marriage.Btw I am really happy this article has been written. We want the right not only to live happily ever after, but also to be dysfunctional like anyone else.GO RIESE I LOVE THIS WEBSITE LOL how are we women supposed to WANT to work if we can’t marry another woman? Seriously, it makes you realize there’s not much to defend about fucking traditional straight marriage.

Btw I am really happy this article has been written. We want the right not only to live happily ever after, but also to be dysfunctional like anyone else.

GO RIESE I LOVE THIS WEBSITE

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]]> By: momhttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25954 mom Tue, 12 Jan 2010 13:06:56 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25954 If Tia was a man and they were living together and NOT legally married then Casey's people would not be legally required to deal with her. It is this 'piece of paper' that legitimizes a relationship, not the gender. (IMHO) p.s. you continually amaze me and fill me with pride! If Tia was a man and they were living together and NOT legally married then Casey’s people would not be legally required to deal with her. It is this ‘piece of paper’ that legitimizes a relationship, not the gender. (IMHO)
p.s. you continually amaze me and fill me with pride!

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]]> By: DemiAriannahttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25941 DemiArianna Tue, 12 Jan 2010 10:32:56 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25941 fun, right? I'm not sure why I enjoyed that so much, lol. fun, right?
I’m not sure why I enjoyed that so much, lol.

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]]> By: Lez-behonest.comhttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25937 Lez-behonest.com Tue, 12 Jan 2010 09:55:52 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25937 "In the respected words of Bette and Tina’s coaching, projected by Alice: Step off, bitch."Oh gosh this is my favorite comment lmao “In the respected words of Bette and Tina’s coaching, projected by Alice:
Step off, bitch.”

Oh gosh this is my favorite comment lmao

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]]> By: Lez-behonest.comhttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25936 Lez-behonest.com Tue, 12 Jan 2010 09:51:05 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25936 oooh i wanna play!24/F/nyc oooh i wanna play!

24/F/nyc

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]]> By: DemiAriannahttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25932 DemiArianna Tue, 12 Jan 2010 09:22:04 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25932 18/f/ny(this is genius.) 18/f/ny

(this is genius.)

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]]> By: DemiAriannahttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25931 DemiArianna Tue, 12 Jan 2010 09:20:55 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25931 I second that motion whole-heartedly. I second that motion whole-heartedly.

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]]> By: riesehttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25911 riese Tue, 12 Jan 2010 07:01:49 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25911 oh thank you so much hannah! I had the biggest a-ha moment when I realized that point! oh thank you so much hannah! I had the biggest a-ha moment when I realized that point!

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]]> By: Emilyhttp://www.autostraddle.com/marriage-wasnt-real-tila-tequila-casey-johnson-27721/#comment-25892 Emily Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:00:18 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=27721#comment-25892 19/f/mtl 19/f/mtl

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