Comments on: The Morning After http://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/ The World's Most Popular Independently-Owned Website for Lesbian, Bisexual and Queer Women Sun, 12 Feb 2012 17:52:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Leahhttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6240 Leah Thu, 19 Mar 2009 05:06:49 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6240 :) you made my night with your words...thank you :) :) you made my night with your words…thank you :)

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]]> By: Lhttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6203 L Wed, 18 Mar 2009 00:32:26 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6203 I do believe that little things like the Ellen & Portia marriage will help change the mindset of many people, including those in the Midwest. In Spain (where I come from), NOBODY would have thought ten years ago that gay marriage and adoption would be legal today. It was a very conservative/catholic country, coming out from a very repressive dictatorship. But see, in a matter of few years, and probably thank to some luck (having a socialist government -with a closeted lesbian as vice-prime-minister), it has become one of the most advanced countries in the world in LGBT matters.I can remember the first time a lesbian couple came up in a soup opera show, around 1996, and how shocked were people -including my grandmoms. Now, my grandmoms are SO used to seeing lesbian/gay couples on television that, while they would not be totally happy of me having a girlfriend, they would not think of it as sin. They could probably relate my story to those of the soup operas, and they would sympathize with it. [I mean, it is also true that I am an adorable granddaughter, and they would not want to miss me for something like this;)] So, Leah, I do believe that even if not explicit, this will have a lingering effect on your mom, and people like her. I do believe that little things like the Ellen & Portia marriage will help change the mindset of many people, including those in the Midwest.
In Spain (where I come from), NOBODY would have thought ten years ago that gay marriage and adoption would be legal today. It was a very conservative/catholic country, coming out from a very repressive dictatorship. But see, in a matter of few years, and probably thank to some luck (having a socialist government -with a closeted lesbian as vice-prime-minister), it has become one of the most advanced countries in the world in LGBT matters.

I can remember the first time a lesbian couple came up in a soup opera show, around 1996, and how shocked were people -including my grandmoms. Now, my grandmoms are SO used to seeing lesbian/gay couples on television that, while they would not be totally happy of me having a girlfriend, they would not think of it as sin. They could probably relate my story to those of the soup operas, and they would sympathize with it. [I mean, it is also true that I am an adorable granddaughter, and they would not want to miss me for something like this;)]
So, Leah, I do believe that even if not explicit, this will have a lingering effect on your mom, and people like her.

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]]> By: riesehttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6183 riese Tue, 17 Mar 2009 21:07:59 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6183 Yeah I like what the Jezebel piece suggests.I feel like especially when more and more spouses are going to be needing to go under their partner's health insurance if they get laid off -- I dunno. Just now more than ever, people need their legal rights more than romance or a church ceremony, we all just need to have an equal shot at not going bankrupt. The rest of it is gravy. Yeah I like what the Jezebel piece suggests.

I feel like especially when more and more spouses are going to be needing to go under their partner’s health insurance if they get laid off — I dunno. Just now more than ever, people need their legal rights more than romance or a church ceremony, we all just need to have an equal shot at not going bankrupt. The rest of it is gravy.

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]]> By: Vashtihttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6180 Vashti Tue, 17 Mar 2009 20:20:02 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6180 Just a comment on the two civil union/marriage articles:What they're proposing [civil unions for all, marriage optional] is kind of like what they have over in France right now with PaCS. I hate to link to wikipedia but it is helpful in understanding wtf it's all about. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pacte_civil_de_solidarit%C3%A9 Just a comment on the two civil union/marriage articles:

What they’re proposing [civil unions for all, marriage optional] is kind of like what they have over in France right now with PaCS. I hate to link to wikipedia but it is helpful in understanding wtf it’s all about. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pacte_civil_de_solidarit%C3%A9

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]]> By: Leahhttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6179 Leah Tue, 17 Mar 2009 20:08:50 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6179 I just watch Ellen and think about how much my mom loves/has loved her for so long, and then I think about what my mom said and did when I told her I had a gf last year and I think, "Why was it ok for Ellen??" I think about all the women in Ellen's audience and at home in the midwest who adore her because she has a GOOD HEART and cares and loves people and is funny and an all-around good person. It bothers me that a lot of them probably voted Yes on Prop 8 (the Californians) when it came down to it. At the polls, they forget about this wonderful woman that happens to be a lesbian and they remember their own fears and chicken out on standing up for Ellen and people like her all over the country. I just think of how my mom would have not one bad word to say about her, but she would never agree that the loving and respectful relationship we all saw on TV yesterday was ok. Or mine.Debbie Downer=is sorry. I <3 Ellen. I just watch Ellen and think about how much my mom loves/has loved her for so long, and then I think about what my mom said and did when I told her I had a gf last year and I think, “Why was it ok for Ellen??” I think about all the women in Ellen’s audience and at home in the midwest who adore her because she has a GOOD HEART and cares and loves people and is funny and an all-around good person. It bothers me that a lot of them probably voted Yes on Prop 8 (the Californians) when it came down to it. At the polls, they forget about this wonderful woman that happens to be a lesbian and they remember their own fears and chicken out on standing up for Ellen and people like her all over the country.
I just think of how my mom would have not one bad word to say about her, but she would never agree that the loving and respectful relationship we all saw on TV yesterday was ok. Or mine.

Debbie Downer=is sorry. I <3 Ellen.

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]]> By: e...http://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6177 e... Tue, 17 Mar 2009 19:36:08 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6177 The only thing I don't understand in the Transitional Dilemma article is the sentence "a sportswriter for the Los Angeles Times--you can't get much more macho than that." How silly. The only thing I don’t understand in the Transitional Dilemma article is the sentence “a sportswriter for the Los Angeles Times–you can’t get much more macho than that.” How silly.

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]]> By: Vikkihttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6176 Vikki Tue, 17 Mar 2009 19:20:39 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6176 We had to fight prop 8 and we need to fight all these initiatives as they pop up around the country but I know very few people who truly believe that the marriage fight is the one we should be having right now. Most people just want equal protection under the law - call it whatever you want. I totally agree with you about the civil union thing. We had to fight prop 8 and we need to fight all these initiatives as they pop up around the country but I know very few people who truly believe that the marriage fight is the one we should be having right now. Most people just want equal protection under the law – call it whatever you want. I totally agree with you about the civil union thing.

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]]> By: riesehttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6173 riese Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:59:42 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6173 Yeah I guess they got a lot of crap about it and so eharmony was forced to release a statement. In their defense it is true that I imagine it's much harder to set up a network without binary gender preferences, just in terms of like, the technical aspects of it. I mean that's what they said was the reason. Anyhow obvs Portia & ellen have changed the world and probs the Baptist church will let gays back in too I think. Yeah I guess they got a lot of crap about it and so eharmony was forced to release a statement. In their defense it is true that I imagine it’s much harder to set up a network without binary gender preferences, just in terms of like, the technical aspects of it. I mean that’s what they said was the reason. Anyhow obvs Portia & ellen have changed the world and probs the Baptist church will let gays back in too I think.

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]]> By: Brenhttp://www.autostraddle.com/daily-link-fix-3-17-2009/#comment-6169 Bren Tue, 17 Mar 2009 15:43:36 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=761#comment-6169 Was eHarmony really an honest to goodness sponsor? I thought that was a joke. Was eHarmony really an honest to goodness sponsor? I thought that was a joke.

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