Comments on: Chely Wright: 'Magical' to be First Lesbian Country Artist, Also BTW She's Cute! http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/ The World's Most Popular Independently-Owned Website for Lesbian, Bisexual and Queer Women Wed, 23 May 2012 02:32:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: GrrrlRomeo http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41395 GrrrlRomeo Fri, 07 May 2010 07:03:40 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41395 I think maybe K.D. Lang came out first. Or are we not considering her a country music singer even though that's what she started as? I think maybe K.D. Lang came out first. Or are we not considering her a country music singer even though that’s what she started as?

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]]> By: kaylucia http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41240 kaylucia Wed, 05 May 2010 15:28:57 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41240 wow. this video alone would have single-handedly convinced me that it'd be Shelby. i can't decide between homosexy and homo-ridiculous either but i love it! wow. this video alone would have single-handedly convinced me that it’d be Shelby. i can’t decide between homosexy and homo-ridiculous either but i love it!

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]]> By: Bri http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41215 Bri Wed, 05 May 2010 04:27:46 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41215 ...wait what? Hold. The phone. She's 39? That's 39??? SINCE WHEN DOES 39 LOOK LIKE THAT? …wait what? Hold. The phone.

She’s 39? That’s 39???

SINCE WHEN DOES 39 LOOK LIKE THAT?

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]]> By: Jean815 http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41081 Jean815 Tue, 04 May 2010 07:48:23 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41081 I live in Malaysia. There is ALWAYS religion involved in these stories. They make it out like lesbians only know how to party. I've never read an article about lesbians before this one. Why would they print this if it wasn't for the whole party like a rock star, get high, have sex angle? Here's some perspective for you. I've come out to a couple friends who are fairly accepting, but my own mother is in denial. How's that, huh? So, no, don't take it seriously. Stories like that are always blown out of proportion... It's pretty shit. I live in Malaysia. There is ALWAYS religion involved in these stories. They make it out like lesbians only know how to party. I’ve never read an article about lesbians before this one. Why would they print this if it wasn’t for the whole party like a rock star, get high, have sex angle?

Here’s some perspective for you. I’ve come out to a couple friends who are fairly accepting, but my own mother is in denial. How’s that, huh?

So, no, don’t take it seriously. Stories like that are always blown out of proportion… It’s pretty shit.

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]]> By: Meg http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41075 Meg Tue, 04 May 2010 06:22:36 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41075 Oh, and I guess I should also add that I have mad love for Autostraddle too! Oh, and I guess I should also add that I have mad love for Autostraddle too!

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]]> By: Meg http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41074 Meg Tue, 04 May 2010 06:21:26 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41074 Admittedly, I'm a longtime Jezebel fan, but I'm actually not that bothered by the post. I mean, I don't agree with the author, but I think one thing I've learned from reading Jezebel is that feminists don't always agree with each other, and that's okay. We might differ on what we think is important or right, but fundamentally, we're on the same team and we're motivated by the same core belief -- that women should be equal. The fact that there are a lot of people out there thinking critically about some of the issues faced by women -- enough so to write and argue about it -- gives me some level of comfort. I kind of like that they gave the floor to someone who subscribes to a different brand of feminism than what one normally sees on Jezebel. I guess I also don't think the post is that outrageous? I mean, it's not like she's Camilla Paglia / a rape apologist or something. Admittedly, I’m a longtime Jezebel fan, but I’m actually not that bothered by the post. I mean, I don’t agree with the author, but I think one thing I’ve learned from reading Jezebel is that feminists don’t always agree with each other, and that’s okay. We might differ on what we think is important or right, but fundamentally, we’re on the same team and we’re motivated by the same core belief — that women should be equal. The fact that there are a lot of people out there thinking critically about some of the issues faced by women — enough so to write and argue about it — gives me some level of comfort. I kind of like that they gave the floor to someone who subscribes to a different brand of feminism than what one normally sees on Jezebel.

I guess I also don’t think the post is that outrageous? I mean, it’s not like she’s Camilla Paglia / a rape apologist or something.

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]]> By: aniota http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41053 aniota Tue, 04 May 2010 03:20:03 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41053 God, the last article that it was referring to was just disgusting. Its so disturbing to see news articles use the words "sex" instead of rape in those kinds of situations. Its so often done. and victim blaming, like her sexual history even needs to be discussed. If she doesn't have sex rape is terrible but if she has sex a lot rape is somehow okay. Ugh. God, the last article that it was referring to was just disgusting.
Its so disturbing to see news articles use the words “sex” instead of rape in those kinds of situations. Its so often done. and victim blaming, like her sexual history even needs to be discussed. If she doesn’t have sex rape is terrible but if she has sex a lot rape is somehow okay. Ugh.

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]]> By: WestoftheMississippi http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41025 WestoftheMississippi Tue, 04 May 2010 00:04:41 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41025 Re the video of the Moorer sisters. My interpretation has been that Shelby is trying to stay in the background 'cause it's Allison's gig. Anyhow, they did this song that night as well: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3b5-aBarlIg Watch every blessed second of it, but especially the interaction around 3:37. Love Allison. Love Shelby. Glad there are some other fans here. Re the video of the Moorer sisters. My interpretation has been that Shelby is trying to stay in the background ’cause it’s Allison’s gig. Anyhow, they did this song that night as well:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3b5-aBarlIg

Watch every blessed second of it, but especially the interaction around 3:37.

Love Allison. Love Shelby. Glad there are some other fans here.

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]]> By: kelsey http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41022 kelsey Mon, 03 May 2010 23:51:29 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41022 side note: Amanda Seyfried and I had the same orthodontist. Does this mean we are connected somehow by magic? side note: Amanda Seyfried and I had the same orthodontist. Does this mean we are connected somehow by magic?

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]]> By: kelsey http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41020 kelsey Mon, 03 May 2010 23:50:08 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41020 ALLENTOWN PA represent! Oh, Amanda. If we would have met in Atown you would have felt differently. ALLENTOWN PA represent! Oh, Amanda. If we would have met in Atown you would have felt differently.

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]]> By: Cathy http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41013 Cathy Mon, 03 May 2010 23:20:50 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41013 Yeah, I was momentarily miffed it wasn't Shelby Lynne, because I'm a casual fan of her music and I've never heard of Chely Wright. But after consideration, I'm thinking this is most definitely a positive thing, and almost BETTER than Shelby being the big reveal. I mean, Shelby's sexuality is pretty much an open secret, right? Watch that vid I linked to! Most gay dancing/attitude ever! (Really hot, clearly). She usually stays away from gendered pronouns in her songs. She mentions being in relationships with a woman in interviews. She had short hair and has a swagger, she dresses in stereotypically lesbian-ish ways. But Chely is in a whole different category. I've started listening to some of her music today. It's catchy and kick-ass and really, really fun to sing along to, but it also reads like a A-Z of heteronormativity. From what I'm reading, her whole public image has structured her as the ur-straight single woman. Even appearance-wise, she's so femme-y. Her coming out is going to shock a LOT of people, even if most internet people (which, let's assume, are youngish and urban-based, maybe not necessarily the demographic which pays attention to Nashville) seem to be moaning they've never heard of her, so this is a pointless PR exercise. Not so. It's comparable to Jennifer Knapp. I'll bet there's a lot of people, people who may not have an online presence, who'll see the latest copy of People in their local grocery store on Wednesday, and it'll be a huge revelation to them. Big Chely Wright fans who are also homophobic? Country music devotees who claim to never have known a gay person? A closeted Midwestern kid who suddenly realises he/she has other options? A teenager who realises there is no definite template of what a lesbian looks like, just as there is no definite template of what a straight woman looks like? She's going to lose a part of her fanbase, no question. But if one person reconsiders their views of gay people because of this, or if one weirdo queer with a mom who blasts Chely Wright songs in the car feels a little less alone, then this whole stunt will have been worth it. The other reason I think this is an awesome piece of news is rather less right-on. Basically, this has put Chely Wright on my radar and she is SO my type. I love kinda pointy faced femme women. Mmmm. Massive crush developing. Also, hot women who come out are automatically x100 times more attractive then straight hot women, yes? It's science. Yeah, I was momentarily miffed it wasn’t Shelby Lynne, because I’m a casual fan of her music and I’ve never heard of Chely Wright. But after consideration, I’m thinking this is most definitely a positive thing, and almost BETTER than Shelby being the big reveal. I mean, Shelby’s sexuality is pretty much an open secret, right? Watch that vid I linked to! Most gay dancing/attitude ever! (Really hot, clearly). She usually stays away from gendered pronouns in her songs. She mentions being in relationships with a woman in interviews. She had short hair and has a swagger, she dresses in stereotypically lesbian-ish ways.

But Chely is in a whole different category. I’ve started listening to some of her music today. It’s catchy and kick-ass and really, really fun to sing along to, but it also reads like a A-Z of heteronormativity. From what I’m reading, her whole public image has structured her as the ur-straight single woman. Even appearance-wise, she’s so femme-y. Her coming out is going to shock a LOT of people, even if most internet people (which, let’s assume, are youngish and urban-based, maybe not necessarily the demographic which pays attention to Nashville) seem to be moaning they’ve never heard of her, so this is a pointless PR exercise. Not so. It’s comparable to Jennifer Knapp. I’ll bet there’s a lot of people, people who may not have an online presence, who’ll see the latest copy of People in their local grocery store on Wednesday, and it’ll be a huge revelation to them. Big Chely Wright fans who are also homophobic? Country music devotees who claim to never have known a gay person? A closeted Midwestern kid who suddenly realises he/she has other options? A teenager who realises there is no definite template of what a lesbian looks like, just as there is no definite template of what a straight woman looks like?

She’s going to lose a part of her fanbase, no question. But if one person reconsiders their views of gay people because of this, or if one weirdo queer with a mom who blasts Chely Wright songs in the car feels a little less alone, then this whole stunt will have been worth it.

The other reason I think this is an awesome piece of news is rather less right-on. Basically, this has put Chely Wright on my radar and she is SO my type. I love kinda pointy faced femme women. Mmmm. Massive crush developing. Also, hot women who come out are automatically x100 times more attractive then straight hot women, yes? It’s science.

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]]> By: Heather http://www.autostraddle.com/chely-wright-comes-out-43944/#comment-41006 Heather Mon, 03 May 2010 22:55:14 +0000 http://www.autostraddle.com/?p=43944#comment-41006 Oh yeah, I know. And not to make light of a very serious story or anything, but it will probably take me a few good hours of looking at pictures of puppies or kittens to feel better. Oh yeah, I know. And not to make light of a very serious story or anything, but it will probably take me a few good hours of looking at pictures of puppies or kittens to feel better.

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