“Have the meeting. Ask the youth what they want and need from this group. Start over and do those things. This isn’t about you at all, not anymore.”
I don’t want to let go my connection to the vibrant, inspiring queer culture that’s not immediately accessible to me in my strip-malls-and-big-box-stores environment. How do you keep it queer in your day-to-day life in the suburbs?
“It was lasagna night, and as the kitchen got ready to serve dinner, kids checked Facebook at the cyber center, watched cartoon shows with headphones on, and fooled around at the pool table. The things that differentiated this gathering from a high school cafeteria were small: the thin kid wearing a parka inside who came up, bashful, for a full plate of food three times; the kids who wrapped up food in tin foil or took it away with them in to-go containers.”
“Whose sperm is this?” she asked me once. Maybe it was the first time. “It’s mine,” I said. I didn’t know what else to say. I had paid for it. No one else was coming to get it.
“Sometimes, when you’re in the business of parenting, you have to phone a friend for a bit of perspective and advice. Sometimes, you have to phone more than one.”
It’s so fun to buy gifts for kids! The thing is, if you have a small child in your life, chances are that child has way too many toys already.
She didn’t say “I have suspected this for years and I still love you.” It went more like a Scared Straight kind of thing but instead of scaring me about drugs and a life of crime, she wanted to scare me straight, straight. “Just Say No to Lesbianism” straight.
A message for anyone who thinks gay people shouldn’t be allowed to marry whom they want? “Cry me a river, build me a bridge, and get over it.”
Greta Melendez and Lily Cohen are the latest in a month of queer homecoming winners and a much longer line of kids battling for the right to wear tiaras in public while gay.
“I’m seventeen and I’ve already gone through my queer angst – and it kills me to see this kid alone almost all the time, they always look miserable and it reminds me of me a couple of years ago.”
Luckily there are other scouting alternatives for your kids!
Now that back to school sales are in full swing, it’s hard to look through clothing catalogs without becoming irate. Here are some retailers that don’t think your kids are damsels in distress.
“IS RUDE AND/OR DEHUMANIZING TO SOMEONE IN THE SERVICE INDUSTRY” (What would you put on your Mom and/or Dad Bingo card?)
“As a lesbian mom, it was especially hard to fight the urge to do the “right” thing, however slippery a concept that was, because I was representing a community, not just myself, I thought.”
Despite the fact that LGBT youth comprise a disproportionate amount of the youth homeless population, the Runaway and Homeless Youth Act currently does not contain language or requirements to specifically protect this vulnerable population.
A newly released GLSEN survey shows LGBT youth are more likely to be bullied online than their straight peers. But they’re also figuring out how to make it better for themselves.
I want us to all take a moment to let this sink: according to the largest study on same-sex parents and their children ever conducted, the kids are not only okay, but in some ways more well-adjusted than the children in heterosexual-parented families.
Vanessa’s Team Pick: Awesome mom dresses 5-year-old daughter up as independent strong women from history, results in infinite cuteness and warm fuzzy girl power feelings.
“As we held onto each other in that sea of people, he just kept looking at me and saying, “You’re going to get married, mama. You’re going to get married.””
A new study purports that gay boys in homophobic environments pour their attentions into their studies and sports instead. Why is this, and does this apply to queer girls too?