I got my first STI as a newly single sub with no idea how to practice kinky safer sex. Turns out safer sex is everyone’s responsibility.
I hope y’all out there are ready for a change — this is an eventful month! With some fiery Aries energy and a few aspects to Uranus this month (planet of revolution, upheaval, and queerness), you’ll have a few chances to let go of whatever’s been holding you back, and start fresh.
“What if the person who is strapped-on is tied to a bed, blindfolded and ridden, not allowed to come? Who is really in charge then?”
“Lesbian bed death” does happen. But it doesn’t happen for the reasons you think it does, and it’s not necessarily the problem you think it is.
“My goopy brain instantly convinced me that this event would singularly make or break our relationship and that if it went poorly it would be my fault. But I swallowed my anxiety and said yes. Then I immediately started thinking about my outfit.”
Nude selfies are how I first learned to see myself as a sexual being, and now they also let me determine how others see me — especially within kinky power dynamic relationships.
“I’ve been disabled for as long as I’ve been a woman, gay and, y’know, alive. So I don’t even know how it’s possible to “see past” something so fully baked into my experience. Instead, I need you to work a little harder and understand disability as part of my value rather than a caveat on it.”
Sometimes the girl you have a crush on has an open girl/boy/boifriend and you’ve never even thought about non-monogamy before. Here’s how to start.
I wanted her to crawl over to the toy box and fetch the cane, then bring it back to me in her mouth. I wanted to tell her what to do. And I wanted it to be for my direct pleasure.
I had to be comfortable enough to say, “I like this, but not that” to someone I’d just met, because if I couldn’t, I might get my clit bit again.
Eclipse season is always an emotionally charged time when stakes feel higher and we’re more aware of what is dying and what is being born.
A new study suggests sexually active lesbian teens have more partners and lost their virginities earlier than heterosexuals and that one in five lesbian’s most recent sex partner was a man.
Trusting physics, trusting agency, trusting desire, and trusting the people I played with changed everything.
“I now have a million conspiracy theories in my head about the possibility that maybe the girl I met in person was not the same girl writing me these emails.”
“I’ve gotten so good at telling people what I like and what I want that I’ve been accused of topping from the bottom, but telling people what I don’t like is completely different territory.”
“We have heard of a number of attempts to go down on a lover underwater, but apparently few women possess the breath-holding capacity to take their lover all the way to orgasm.”
The first time I knew I was a top was when a girl I was dating said, “Please, hit me harder,” and then, later, whispered, “I can take more than you can give me.”
Can I PURR-SWADE you???
Maybe the reason your friend/the older self-professed queen at the bar/your co-worker/that girl Claire won’t stop talking about finding someone is because they have 25 times more Keurig flavor options than the whole of their supposed dating pool — we’re scientifically improbable.
Innovative new sex toy or lobster claw clamped on your clit?