Also of note, if you are interested in people’s preference as far as how they think (cognition) and or behaviors, I suggest investing a little time into personality theories such as Carl Jung and his cognitive functions (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_Types) and the Enneagram (http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/).

Also, another little tidbit, you’ll find many introverts online because they can be “social” without the energy drain and are able to pick and choose how they dissipate their energy, again they are able to pick their own boundaries, which works out really nice. Ah, introversion, the story of my life.

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Headaches, headaches, headaches. My first post and I just blah everywhere. Anywayyy…

This article was a lovely read. Thank you for inspiring me to think about things in my personal life a bit more thoroughly. Keeping my temper in check when it comes to boundaries being ignored by others, and waiting until I’m level headed enough to discuss it is a top priority.

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I do find that with family – because I’m around them the most – I snap at them when they just don’t understand that I have my door closed and locked for a reason: I hate snapping at people. Privacy issues, they like to walk in without knocking, etc. What really sucks though is that when I come home from my 5 hour classes plus 2 hours on the bus (to and from), my nephew is always so anxious to tell me about his awesome day and attach himself to my hip. He’s my little nephew-bro and I love him to bits but damn it, I just need 25 minutes to myself to get situated. It really bites that I’m this cold bitch to him when I’m in one of my “moods.”

My love life is bland and nearly non-existent. Although I would really like to find a lady friend that I’m compatible with, I never take things a step beyond friendship (or acquaintanceship for that matter). Sure, I’m alright at talking with women I have an interest in and am attracted to, but I’m so out of the loop. I shy away from connecting with people on a personal level besides the close friends I already have. Although I’m all ears and shoulders when they want to rant and get things off of their chests, I never mention any of my problems. I’m all smiles and laughs with these friends and acquaintances, and for the most part I’m myself (sort of), but I have this tendency to put up walls when they try to dig deeper.

Oh, and I’ve inherited my family’s long-windedness which I try my very best to control. I’m seriously insecure about it because I notice friends disregard what I’m saying and change the topic rather abruptly when I’m in mid sentence. I end up categorizing whatever I was talking about as boring and avoid bringing it up in the future.

tl;dr: I suck at being open about myself with people, but I’m friendly nonetheless. Sometimes I think people find me inextricably boring because I don’t care to talk about myself. Most importantly, I’m a bi-weekly hermit who talks to herself about herself so she doesn’t have the need to consult anyone else.

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The short version is I am the kind of person who very much feels compelled to engage in discussions about Important Things, but then some of my disabilities (crippling anxiety, for one) make it almost impossible for me to handle the Internet fallout, which is always so much worse than in person fallout. If you’re there with a group and you’re talking about something really sensitive and things get heated or there’s a misunderstanding, you can (hopefully) resolve that shit right there and then. On the Internet there’s no such thing. I have yet to figure out how to balance this.

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There is hope for introverted people. Knowing who you both are before getting into a relationship, and respecting that just because people have different social needs, it does’t make them bad/your fault, is essential. this was a great article.

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