Sebastian

A story of an almost implausibly perfect Christmas with extended family who hadn’t seen me since I transitioned.

In Part 3 of the series, we’ll be addressing issues like dealing with internalized transphobia, going “stealth”, and how you can help your partner if they are struggling with gender dysphoria. PLUS a video!

Because “I’m working on a novel” is the best pick-up line EVER.

I wish we were all in a room so I could say, “If you are LGBTQI, could you please raise your hand if you believe you had room to develop your identity at your preK-12 schools? Your full identity?”

“A disorder is a description of something with which a person might struggle, not a description of the person or the person’s identity.”

Sebastian’s Team Pick: An important response to Jamey Rodemeyer’s suicide and the culture of anti-gay bullying.

Sebastian’s Team Pick: “I was sort of worried that it was too predictable to show you guys an acoustic singer/songwriter duo of lezzies in their early 20s, but…”

Sebastian’s Team Pick: “Tegan and I had a long conversation over dinner one night in Vancouver about our mutual habit of leaving situations early in life, bailing before it can bail on you maybe. A little after that I was in Marfa on vacation, and sat down and wrote this song pretty much in one sitting.”

“In this second installment, we discuss topics like “undoing” the effects of puberty, intimacy with a trans* person, and how to address gender ambiguous people.”

Sebastian’s Team Pick: “It is about the people, as they really are.”

Sebastian’s Team Pick: “We athletes, doctors, lawyers, politicians, organizers; you can’t avoid us. We’re queer as folk and queer as fuck. Grab the Rainbow Pages, mayn – look us up.” (I think I just found our new queer anthem.)

16 tracks, mixed pretty freakin well, all of which are perfect for getting down with your bad self.

Y’all have a ton of questions for us about trans* stuff, so we thought we’d team up and give you lots of answers! Details inside.

“There are few things I hate more than highly public discussions of how testosterone changes your personality.”

“It’s like I woke up one day and was a card-carrying member of the straight white men’s club.”

Have a problem with your family being ‘shitty’ to your trans cousin? Sebastian can help.

“Until I hit puberty, I basically looked like a boy 65% of the time and got kicks out of shocked looks in the girls’ bathroom.”

“So let’s say you are a non-trans person and you are with someone who is out about being trans and is knowingly open to questions. You have some things you want to ask. Here are some guidelines to follow.”

“My experience living as a girl and as a female for so long and my experience transitioning to and living as a man are central to my identity – to who I am and who I am becoming.”