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By: Allisc

Allisc — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 12:15:11 +0000

Thanks for your reactions Avery and Uhmina! I’ve been talking about it with my partner and reading that article made us realise that we will definitely will be looking out for our safety more, as in finding an apartment in a building with security, not ground floors, installing deadbolts on the frontdoor and bedroom door and such. May seem like out of proportion, but better safe than sorry…

By: diver

diver — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 22:55:35 +0000

Or just don’t go to Provincetown. Getting on and off the Cape from May to September is a shitshow.

By: diver

diver — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 22:43:49 +0000

I personally go to beachy places and step right off land and into the deep . Adios, bitches, and half the crap down there is both male and female, or morphs from one to the other. Dive Provincetown, though do it at slack tide, lest you be swept down to the Carolinas .

By: Dani

Dani — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 21:47:18 +0000

The quality of Autostraddle’s comments has spoiled me. I generally run screaming from other websites. Although, slapping the shit out of everyone sounds like a better approach.

By: jacky.gro

jacky.gro — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 16:30:42 +0000

I love the cacao one too! Lol. I also love the women at the feminist bookstore. I actually visited the bookstore earlier this year when I was in Portland. It was funny b/c when i went they were having one of those sharing circles…and i felt soo rude taking a picture by one of the bookshelves.

http://jackygro.wordpress.com/

By: Cara From CB

Cara From CB — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 02:25:07 +0000

I love you for posting that! It’s one of my favorite scenes from that show. Second only to the cacao/”safe word” bit.

By: uhmina

uhmina — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 02:11:36 +0000

I was born and raised in Europe and still in some ways (naively) act like I’m still living there.
When I moved to the US, I first lived in Minnesota, then in NYC, and now in Miami. In terms of crime/safety, each one of those regions is very different and I’ve tried to approach the relative dangers with awareness and common sense. The biggest factor, I believe (and not to sound ignorant), is your neighborhood and I like to think this applies to DC just as much as it does to NYC or Seattle.

I WILL say that reading the story of the South Park rapes and murder completely horrified me and makes me want to stash a baseball bat next to my bed and carry pepper spray on my keys. In that respect, I believe your concerns are justified.

Also, I believe my biggest vulnerability is being a woman first, a lesbian second, and a human being third. At the end of the day – yes I’m shit scared of incidents like this – but I can’t live my life in fear and I’m not going to go out and buy a gun or a knife to help me sleep better at night. I’m also not going to stop holding my girlfriend’s hand. I just can’t…

By: Debutopia

Debutopia — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 17:31:10 +0000

On Gays, Grannies, and Grandes: http://debutopia.blogspot.com/2011/06/gays-grannies-and-grandes-undoables.html#more

By: fragola

fragola — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 15:09:07 +0000

“Gawker provided a link to the book of lies but also assured us that it’s terribly written so don’t even worry about it.”

Oh man, I just tried to read it and it’s really really terrible. He starts the book rambling about where he should begin and all these different crappy ways “Amina” could begin her story.

This stuff is such shit.

By: Priya

Priya — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 14:50:09 +0000

I read the “The Bravest Woman in Seattle” and was shaking afterwards to stop myself from crying. What a devastating story.

Minutes later, on another site, I saw the ‘courteous rapist’ meme – I don’t think I would have had any positive thoughts on that anyway but after reading the story of Teresa Butz and her partner it made me feel physically sick. And there are comments on that site like ‘the worst thing about this (aside from the fact that there were so many) is that they were funny’, ‘So wrong and so damn funny. Now I can’t repost this else my wife’ll kill me’, etc.

It just makes me so angry and sad that something like that can go around and be consideed an acceptable thing to write by so many.

By: Avery

Avery — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 10:27:06 +0000

It really depends enormously on where you live and in what company you find yourself. Your best bet is to find some Washington, DC/Virginia-based queer women and ask them about their experiences. That way you can have something of a support group, also.

My home in the States is accepting and wonderful and I’ve always felt really comfortable there, for what it’s worth, but I live in New Orleans, not DC.

Good luck with your move, if you choose to pursue it.

By: Allisc

Allisc — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 09:13:35 +0000

* scare me more and more. Typo.